She wants a very high-quality man—what are her chances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:She seems very low quality. Doesn't really bring anything to the table of substance.

Maybe in the deep south she can find a MAGA guy who only cares about looks but most young men now want a woman who also is quality and who can take on responsibilities and be more than a pretty face.

MAGA men want a tradwife, not a wife who can't cook.

Some of the richer ones just want a 'princess' or a 'queen'. They hire out the domestic work and just want a vapid, pretty woman to parade around so they can brag to their friends about how their woman doesn't have to work and their woman gets looked after by a man and their woman can just keep her pretty little self busy doing pretty little girly things.

But their friends would also be rich enough to have that, so where is the flex?

I think if you're going to be proud of a woman devoting all her time and attention to you, it's more of a flex if she's actually capable of doing something else but chose you. Not if she's just avoiding adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Re: doctors...answer the question...what does this candidate have that a bright, pretty nurse does not?

And this woman will have to keep answering that question for decades.

Ummm … or bright pretty other doctors.

[Anonymous]

Most doctors I know are married to other doctors.

[Anonymous]

Her lack of driving and no career aren't going to attract a professional wealthy husband unless she is a supermodel.

Her lack of cooking and household chores aren't going to even attract a middle class man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious to hear perspectives on this woman’s chances with high-quality men:

Profile of the Woman:
-Early 20s
-Highly attractive (8–9/10), natural “clean soft girl” aesthetic for her husband
-Well-groomed but minimal makeup / low-maintenance; always clean and polished for her husband
-Quiet, introverted, very shy; very quiet in public
-Homebody, small social circle (has one best friend)
-Polite, very nice, empathetic, caring, people-pleasing, loyal, not manipulative or mean
-Limited dating history, hasn’t dated seriously, but has tried talking to guys online
-Won’t be social with in-laws initially; quiet unless spoken to, warms up gradually if she likes them
-Hates cooking and cleaning, but learning specifically to cook and maintain household perfectly for her future husband
-Lazy with her chores now, but will run a perfect household for her husband
-Excellent at hosting and organizing events
-Always intends to look attractive and well-presented for her husband
-Doesn’t drive (dislikes being out alone)
-Wants marriage/kids, traditional setup
-No specific hobbies, but would enjoy traveling and being a wife and mom
-Lifestyle goals: not super high maintenance

Type of Man She Wants:
-Doctor (cardiologist, orthopedic surgeon, anesthesiologist, pediatrician, etc.), high-earning entrepreneur, or other high-paying professional
-Comes from a good/wealthy family
-Well-educated, went to a good school
-Put-together, stable, takes the lead but values wife equally
-Has friends but not overly social/popular
-Charismatic but not over-the-top
-Relatively attractive, tall, great personality
-Family-oriented, prioritizes wife and children
-Medium work hours; flexible doctor or business owner
-Wants kids as soon as possible
-Will take the lead on finances but values her input for household and family decisions

Questions:
What are her realistic chances of attracting a man like this?
How much do her introverted, very quiet personality and lack of hobbies affect her desirability?
Does her lack of driving or career ambition matter at this level?
How does her selective domestic commitment (hates chores/cooking but perfect for husband, always well-groomed, hosting, caring) play in long-term marriage?
Any other traits or behaviors she should adopt to increase her chances?

Not judging—just genuinely curious what people have actually observed in real life.

She needs one person who aligns with her, rest won't and that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Nope
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious to hear perspectives on this woman’s chances with high-quality men:

Profile of the Woman:
-Early 20s
-Highly attractive (8–9/10), natural “clean soft girl” aesthetic for her husband
-Well-groomed but minimal makeup / low-maintenance; always clean and polished for her husband
-Quiet, introverted, very shy; very quiet in public
-Homebody, small social circle (has one best friend)
-Polite, very nice, empathetic, caring, people-pleasing, loyal, not manipulative or mean
-Limited dating history, hasn’t dated seriously, but has tried talking to guys online
-Won’t be social with in-laws initially; quiet unless spoken to, warms up gradually if she likes them
-Hates cooking and cleaning, but learning specifically to cook and maintain household perfectly for her future husband
-Lazy with her chores now, but will run a perfect household for her husband
-Excellent at hosting and organizing events
-Always intends to look attractive and well-presented for her husband
-Doesn’t drive (dislikes being out alone)
-Wants marriage/kids, traditional setup
-No specific hobbies, but would enjoy traveling and being a wife and mom
-Lifestyle goals: not super high maintenance

Type of Man She Wants:
-Doctor (cardiologist, orthopedic surgeon, anesthesiologist, pediatrician, etc.), high-earning entrepreneur, or other high-paying professional
-Comes from a good/wealthy family
-Well-educated, went to a good school
-Put-together, stable, takes the lead but values wife equally
-Has friends but not overly social/popular
-Charismatic but not over-the-top
-Relatively attractive, tall, great personality
-Family-oriented, prioritizes wife and children
-Medium work hours; flexible doctor or business owner
-Wants kids as soon as possible
-Will take the lead on finances but values her input for household and family decisions

Questions:
What are her realistic chances of attracting a man like this?
How much do her introverted, very quiet personality and lack of hobbies affect her desirability?
Does her lack of driving or career ambition matter at this level?
How does her selective domestic commitment (hates chores/cooking but perfect for husband, always well-groomed, hosting, caring) play in long-term marriage?
Any other traits or behaviors she should adopt to increase her chances?

Not judging—just genuinely curious what people have actually observed in real life.

So basically she doesn't want to be a good earner or a good SAHM.

[Anonymous]

The only way I can think of this working as if she married a doctor who was on the spectrum who didn’t care about socializing at all. And they lived in a major city where you didn’t have a car and got around other ways, because not being able to drive as a SAHM is a huge issue. Aside from that, maybe her spectrum guy is disorganized and messy and likes eating takeout all the time, in which case she won’t actually have to do homemaker stuff. If she hates cooking/cleaning, but thinks she’s going to somehow do it for her husband, she’s not going to be happy.

[Anonymous]

If they live in an urban area with mass transit and easy availability of Uber etc. , driving isn't an issue but in a suburb or rural area, she needs to drive to survive.

[Anonymous]

She'll make a great life partner for a busy and ambitious surgeon.

[Anonymous]

She better keep her looks and suck a golf ball through a garden hose to have chance of gaining and keeping the type of man she wants.

[Anonymous]

Go for short and below average looking men.

[Anonymous]

If she has a degree from a top college, that would make up for her lack of professional qualifications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unemployed for life: strike one

Mental health issues: strike two

No life: strike three.

Honestly, she sounds kind of incel-ish. She needs a life outside of brushing her hair and looking in the mirror. For her own sake.

Interesting. It does sound like the entitled flipside of that, doesn’t it?

[Anonymous]

If she is great at hosting and event organizing then she can handle social life.