She wants a very high-quality man—what are her chances?

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Highly attractive (8–9/10)

On a scale of what?

-Lazy with her chores now, but will run a perfect household for her husband

That also was the biggest red flag in the whole thing.

The homemaker types come over and clean their boyfriends' apartments. Then bake.

[Anonymous]

She's pretty? She'll find someone. There are plenty of men out there who aren't all that deep.

[Anonymous]

What is her education?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She seems very low quality. Doesn't really bring anything to the table of substance.

Maybe in the deep south she can find a MAGA guy who only cares about looks but most young men now want a woman who also is quality and who can take on responsibilities and be more than a pretty face.

MAGA men want a tradwife, not a wife who can't cook.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you asking for someone you know?

Yes, a cousin. Forgot to add that she’s never worked and doesn’t plan to ever work.

She's never worked and doesn't plan to ever work, she hates cooking and cleaning, she's lazy with her chores, she doesn't drive, and has no hobbies, but she's willing to do whatever it takes to please her husband. What is her education level? Is she religious?

Honestly, she sounds like the pampered daughter of some wealthy foreign businessman. She probably grew up with nannies/governesses, housekeepers, cooks, and chauffeurs. If she is looking for a wealthy American husband that checks all of her boxes, I think she's going to run into some challenges. If she's looking for a conservative, wealthy foreign husband, she might have a better chance.

She's from a regular UMC New England family, currently a college student majoring in English and History, and isn't religious.

It's really not okay to behave like this in UMC New England culture. She will have to marry someone from a different culture.

Tell her it's not happening.

Tell her that if she really wants a wealthy husband, she's going to need to also make it a job, and seek help from her relatives and friends to meet lots of men. Men in her age group will not be rich - she's going to need to assess wealth potential, which is different. If she wants money now, she will need to look for established older men. Most of them want slightly younger women, but they do want evidence of intelligence in terms of diplomas and budding careers, even if their wives them stay home for life... because the children need to not be dumb.

She needs to prove she can bring intelligence to the table. She needs to be a good conversationalist, and be able to show that she's very well-read, has a lot of global culture and is generally knowledgeable about many things, including current events. Then men she meets will be impressed, and might not care so much about messiness or lack of a successful career. Instead of refusing to work, she has to figure out what career she can start that will sustain her if the husband plan doesn't work out.

I agree with another poster - she seems quite autistic. She has a lot of mental rigidity and anxieties about practical aspects of life, along with some evidence of executive function issues (in the housekeeping category). In total, it's all a red flag for autism.

[Anonymous]

Does she have anxiety? At minimum she needs to learn how to drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's pretty? She'll find someone. There are plenty of men out there who aren't all that deep.

She could find someone, but it won't be the type of man OP is hoping for.

[Anonymous]

This post is incredibly creepy.

[Anonymous]

Re: doctors...answer the question...what does this candidate have that a bright, pretty nurse does not?

And this woman will have to keep answering that question for decades.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She seems very low quality. Doesn't really bring anything to the table of substance.

Maybe in the deep south she can find a MAGA guy who only cares about looks but most young men now want a woman who also is quality and who can take on responsibilities and be more than a pretty face.

MAGA men want a tradwife, not a wife who can't cook.

Some of the richer ones just want a 'princess' or a 'queen'. They hire out the domestic work and just want a vapid, pretty woman to parade around so they can brag to their friends about how their woman doesn't have to work and their woman gets looked after by a man and their woman can just keep her pretty little self busy doing pretty little girly things.

[Anonymous]

Why would a high earning doctor ever give control of finances to someone who doesn’t work and seems to be uneducated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Re: doctors...answer the question...what does this candidate have that a bright, pretty nurse does not?

And this woman will have to keep answering that question for decades.

Um... A lot of free time?

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Anonymous wrote:Re: doctors...answer the question...what does this candidate have that a bright, pretty nurse does not?

And this woman will have to keep answering that question for decades.

Um... A lot of free time?

The nurse could.quit her job after marriage

[Anonymous]

Unemployed for life: strike one

Mental health issues: strike two

No life: strike three.

Honestly, she sounds kind of incel-ish. She needs a life outside of brushing her hair and looking in the mirror. For her own sake.

[Anonymous]

This woman needs to focus on therapy and figure out how to live a full life on her own without a man before she starts thinking about marriage (or even dating). Because in 2026 this reads like mental illness.

Lazy with chores and cleaning and cooking—but thinks she will suddenly do all of that if she marries a cardiologist? Lol. She needs to learn to do these very basic things out of respect and care for herself.