Am I overreacting/rude with this text?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are the two of you friends with each other? It sounds like you are not compatible as friends and you are both kind of rude to each other and push each other's buttons.

Hush. All women are fake friends

sadly, this is kind of true

Sad for you maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are the two of you friends with each other? It sounds like you are not compatible as friends and you are both kind of rude to each other and push each other's buttons.

Hush. All women are fake friends

sadly, this is kind of true

Sad for you maybe.

Yeah well I'm a guy but I grew up with 5 sisters so I notice things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are the two of you friends with each other? It sounds like you are not compatible as friends and you are both kind of rude to each other and push each other's buttons.

Hush. All women are fake friends

sadly, this is kind of true

Sad for you maybe.

Yeah well I'm a guy but I grew up with 5 sisters so I notice things

I am not a fake friend. Maybe fifty percent of women are.

[Anonymous]

I feel strongly that there are times where you communicate verbally and not in writing and this was one of those times.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that text is rude and your are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

You don't say in writing, OP. Please don't in the future. You say it verbally, so your tone can help smooth the delivery. Use a warm, sincere, tone to insist that you still want to be friends. Via email or text, writing that you still want to be friends is not enough to counterbalance the criticism.

So yes, you were inappropriately harsh.

[Anonymous]

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would never speak to you again.

+1

[Anonymous]

Some of you are extremely fragile. OP, I thought your text was fine to begin with and now that I see how rude your friend was to discredit your POV as a healthcare provider and WOC, I am thinking you could have been way harsher with your friend!

For those who cannot handle tough feedback, you will not get the benefit of honesty from those around you. And you will miss opportunities to grow. That is the price you pay. Enjoy being “right” all the time !

[Anonymous]

You sound awful.
Not about race

[Anonymous]

So now we are obligated to agree with everything anyone says or else it’s a racist microaggression?

Geez I miss the 90s when everyone wasn’t so high-strung and constantly looking for ways to be offended.

Remember when friendly debates could simply end in “Whatever” and then everyone moved on? Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are the two of you friends with each other? It sounds like you are not compatible as friends and you are both kind of rude to each other and push each other's buttons.

Hush. All women are fake friends

sadly, this is kind of true

Sad for you maybe.

Yeah well I'm a guy but I grew up with 5 sisters so I notice things

Sad for your sisters then. I’m not a fake friend and I don’t make friends with fake women. And you’re not a woman so maybe you don’t need to chime in about female friendships, huh?

[Anonymous]

You assumed the reason why she conceded. Why did you just ask? "What make you change your mind"? Then you'd know more before sending such an assuming harsh text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So now we are obligated to agree with everything anyone says or else it’s a racist microaggression?

Geez I miss the 90s when everyone wasn’t so high-strung and constantly looking for ways to be offended.

Remember when friendly debates could simply end in “Whatever” and then everyone moved on? Sigh.

It isn't about agreeing with everything. It's fine if you disagree with me. But when someone else says the exact same thing 5 mins later, it makes you wonder, "why didn't she believe me?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So now we are obligated to agree with everything anyone says or else it’s a racist microaggression?

Geez I miss the 90s when everyone wasn’t so high-strung and constantly looking for ways to be offended.

Remember when friendly debates could simply end in “Whatever” and then everyone moved on? Sigh.

It isn't about agreeing with everything. It's fine if you disagree with me. But when someone else says the exact same thing 5 mins later, it makes you wonder, "why didn't she believe me?"

DP - I get that. But in this example, the man said his wife, a POC, had that experience the OP described. Is it a microagression or objectively changing her mind based on more facts/experiences?