Allow sleepovers with boyfriend at 18?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has she explained why a sleepover would be desirable? It seems weird, honestly. Does she want to watch movies and eat popcorn late at night like girl sleepovers?

Yeah, Just to hang out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

I hope you're right but it seems mortifying to ask to sleep over if they're not doing it. Or does she mean jn separate rooms?

OP- Yes, separate rooms. We’re a no intimacy till marriage family, and that’s a choice she’s made, feels comfortable with, and is aligned with.

No. You and your husband are a no intimacy until marriage your kids have their own opinions on that despite what they may tell you. And I say that as someone who was raised in an Evangelical Christian family during peak 90s purity culture promis rings and all and the vast majority whose parents were certain their kids weren't having sex were.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP has she explained why a sleepover would be desirable? It seems weird, honestly. Does she want to watch movies and eat popcorn late at night like girl sleepovers?

Yeah, Just to hang out.

They can hangout without a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Omg no, what is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg no, what is wrong with you?

She's a troll. Probably a teen on school break thinking they e created the perfect gotcha question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

Bless your heart, op.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP has she explained why a sleepover would be desirable? It seems weird, honestly. Does she want to watch movies and eat popcorn late at night like girl sleepovers?

Yeah, Just to hang out.

Then hang out during the day. There’s nothing special about a sleepover except, you know, s*x.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

Pull your head out of your ass

Seriously.

+1

I’m not saying 100% of kids who

a) have a serious boyfriend
b)tell their parents they are not sleeping together yet
c) want to have a sleepover with boyfriend so badly they are willing to ask

are lying, but you have to know the vast majority are!

Yes, even the ones headed to a top 5 lol

That’s not true for all teens. My husband and I were high school sweethearts who married at 22, and our parents allowed sleepovers starting at 15. We never did anything in high school—it was truly just normal sleepovers. Now, with our four daughters (16, 18, 23, & 25), we don’t allow sleepovers simply out of respect for our home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. That's not appropriate for some that age and makes a relationship more adult than is appropriate.

Or maybe you are treating them as more juvenile than appropriate. 18 is a fully legal adult. It didn’t used to be that uncommon for people to marry at 18 and it’s never been uncommon for people to have sex at 18.

Adults don't live with Mommy and Daddy and have to ask their permission.

So.. is OPs DD an adult or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has she explained why a sleepover would be desirable? It seems weird, honestly. Does she want to watch movies and eat popcorn late at night like girl sleepovers?

Yeah, Just to hang out.

Then hang out during the day. There’s nothing special about a sleepover except, you know, s*x.

Come on. Why do you think sleepovers are popular with same sex friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

Pull your head out of your ass

Seriously.

+1

I’m not saying 100% of kids who

a) have a serious boyfriend
b)tell their parents they are not sleeping together yet
c) want to have a sleepover with boyfriend so badly they are willing to ask

are lying, but you have to know the vast majority are!

Yes, even the ones headed to a top 5 lol

The problem with this line of thinking is that you certainly don't need a sleepover to have sex. That's probably not the underlying motivation here.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

You are so obscenely naive.

[Anonymous]

If he’s local, why??? I visited my freshman year boyfriend at 18 who lived 5 hours away and his parents let us sleep in basement bedroom together. That makes more sense.