Planning to meet a guy for drinks who doesn’t want to come to Virginia

[Anonymous]

It’s either a warrant or an ankle monitor and can only go with a given radius. Did you do your searches in all the databases? Please don’t forget image searches.

[Anonymous]

Honestly just back out and move on. If you two can’t agree on where to meet, this isn’t going to work. No need to overthink it or assign blame, just say you can’t do it and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, men who refuse to meet you at your location for a first date tend to be generally not good matches. I went on a slew of first dates over the summer and early Fall, and the only objectively "terrible" date was a guy who picked the location right down the street from his apartment. Everyone else came to my neck of the woods in Old Town. I think it shows consideration and a willingness to be flexible.

+1. I met my husband online in a different city. He drove 20 miles to meet me at a Starbucks 5 minutes from my apartment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you bothering with this loser?

Op is the loser living in Fairfax

Says the neckbeard from Ass Fart, Ohio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

You sound like an absolute and complete loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

You sound like an absolute and complete loser.

DP. If you chose a suburban, car-based lifestyle, that is your choice. You can’t expect me to uber out to Fairfax for dates and I don’t want to hear you whine about parking in Dupont.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

You sound like an absolute and complete loser.

DP. If you chose a suburban, car-based lifestyle, that is your choice. You can’t expect me to uber out to Fairfax for dates and I don’t want to hear you whine about parking in Dupont.

So much pretense. You must be a gay dude.

Do you even realize that 100s and 100s of thousands of people spen their marriages literally on the other side of the world from their spouses for months at a time, year after year after year. But you can't handle a cab ride for 20 minutes.

Such a snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that you are not compatible. You don't want to leave Virginia. He doesn't want to come to Virginia. How y'all plan on dating and building a relationship?
Instead of getting into a useless tit for tat and you trying to bred flag him as a bad guy. Just accept it as a compatibility thing it is. And say it's not going to work out for you and move on

Yeah this is far, bluntly. Move on. You're both looking for convenience.

[Anonymous]

Probably wants to date rape drug and bring you home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

You sound like an absolute and complete loser.

DP. If you chose a suburban, car-based lifestyle, that is your choice. You can’t expect me to uber out to Fairfax for dates and I don’t want to hear you whine about parking in Dupont.

I'm a woman and I was the same. I lived and worked in DC and I wasn't going to venture to somewhere less cool for a date. But I was in my 20s with lots of options and lots of other young ppl near by. It wasn't much of a hindrance. I don't know how old OP is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not worth your time if he won't meet halfway.

I am a late 40s woman and after some negative experiences I stopped granting dates to any man who wouldn't drive to my neighborhood. It just means that are not that into me, or transactional and will be calculating 50/50 in everything we bring into the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He said he wanted to meet in dc as he was trying to select a nice place that he knows to meet at and he is not familiar with Arlington. Now he says he will meet me there.

Stop being so desperate. Desperate to go on this date despite the red flags. Desperate for attention on here despite not taking anyone's advice.

This. OP, you obviously need to work on yourself (therapy) before dating any man. Otherwise you will just meet a guy with all the red flags and will be ignorant to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He said he wanted to meet in dc as he was trying to select a nice place that he knows to meet at and he is not familiar with Arlington. Now he says he will meet me there.

Stop being so desperate. Desperate to go on this date despite the red flags. Desperate for attention on here despite not taking anyone's advice.

Op here. I am meeting him. Will report back how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

You sound like an absolute and complete loser.

DP. If you chose a suburban, car-based lifestyle, that is your choice. You can’t expect me to uber out to Fairfax for dates and I don’t want to hear you whine about parking in Dupont.

So much pretense. You must be a gay dude.

Do you even realize that 100s and 100s of thousands of people spen their marriages literally on the other side of the world from their spouses for months at a time, year after year after year. But you can't handle a cab ride for 20 minutes.

Such a snowflake.

I’m a woman and I would nope out if he refused metro and whined about parking.

[Anonymous]

Dude sounds like a dork