Planning to meet a guy for drinks who doesn’t want to come to Virginia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. This is what I texted back.

“So Foggy Bottom is still too far for from Fairfax for me. Arlington would work better as it’s the mid point for both of us distance wise. If Arlington works for you I’m happy to meet, if not we can always connect another time.”

But why?
And why should he care about your "why"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the first date, the guy should come to you. He’s just looking for a low-effort booty call. The funny thing is if he’s matching with people in Fairfax then he doesn’t have as many options as he would like.

I would not want to drive to DC on a rainy day and do street parking. I mean if he really wanted to see you he could just Uber midway.

Just unmatch.

This isn't a rule. Treat anyone you have just met with respect and like a friend, which in the case to me means having a friendly conversation to find out what works best for the both of you, instead of being strident. No point in expecting a man you don't know to woo you.

[Anonymous]

Man, this thread is like LateNightShots back in the day.

FWIW, I married my wife because we both wanted to live in the city. First date at old Buffalo Billiards in Dupont.

If you want to live in Burbs, search there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many 'grown ass' men and women in DMV don't have cars. Kind of smart, if you think about it.

It's way gayer, yes. Not cool. You can keep the soy boys on scooters. Leave the real men to us thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, this thread is like LateNightShots back in the day.

FWIW, I married my wife because we both wanted to live in the city. First date at old Buffalo Billiards in Dupont.

If you want to live in Burbs, search there.

That's the saddest love story I ever read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the first date, the guy should come to you. He’s just looking for a low-effort booty call. The funny thing is if he’s matching with people in Fairfax then he doesn’t have as many options as he would like.

I would not want to drive to DC on a rainy day and do street parking. I mean if he really wanted to see you he could just Uber midway.

Just unmatch.

This isn't a rule. Treat anyone you have just met with respect and like a friend, which in the case to me means having a friendly conversation to find out what works best for the both of you, instead of being strident. No point in expecting a man you don't know to woo you.

+1. It’s amazing how many people apparently approach dating logistics like a zero sum game. Just after like a normal adult person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What sort of grown ass man doesn't have a car? Besides losers, of course.

Plenty. But the issue isn’t so much a car (because Uber exists) but OP’s apparent refusal to get on the metro. That’s pretty much a nonstarter for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What sort of grown ass man doesn't have a car? Besides losers, of course.

Plenty. But the issue isn’t so much a car (because Uber exists) but OP’s apparent refusal to get on the metro. That’s pretty much a nonstarter for me.

Must be nice being so cavalier about women's safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What sort of grown ass man doesn't have a car? Besides losers, of course.

Plenty. But the issue isn’t so much a car (because Uber exists) but OP’s apparent refusal to get on the metro. That’s pretty much a nonstarter for me.

Must be nice being so cavalier about women's safety.

Cavalier about safety?? Plenty of us take it daily for work. It's fine to screen out people with this much anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is gonna put out obviously

After she cleans his toilet and runs a load of his laundry. And washes the dishes he has stacked up. He'll be gaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, this thread is like LateNightShots back in the day.

FWIW, I married my wife because we both wanted to live in the city. First date at old Buffalo Billiards in Dupont.

If you want to live in Burbs, search there.

LNS! I loved that forum. See you at Smith Point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He lives in DuPont, I live in Fairfax. He first suggested meeting in Logan Circle. I said that was too far and suggested Arlington. He comes back and recommends meeting at Foggy Bottom.

I don’t love that he won’t make the trek over to Arlington and expects me to go to DC. What would you do?

TLR but OP, I knew someone like this. He eventually arrived to my house on a bicycle. He had lost his driver's license due to DUIs. Possible here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s just looking for a booty call.

“This” plenty cross the river for more, but never less.

[Anonymous]

You’re not compatible. He lives in a cool place and you don’t. You’re not worth his time to trek out to Arlington.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of guys out in the suburbs.

He should date one of the many single women in DC and you should date someone in Virginia.

FWIW, I never crossed the river for dates either so I agree with him. But I would never had agreed to go on a date with someone who lives in Fairfax. Clearly we want different lives.