Planning to meet a guy for drinks who doesn’t want to come to Virginia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the first date, the guy should come to you. He’s just looking for a low-effort booty call. The funny thing is if he’s matching with people in Fairfax then he doesn’t have as many options as he would like.

I would not want to drive to DC on a rainy day and do street parking. I mean if he really wanted to see you he could just Uber midway.

Just unmatch.

Or she could get on the metro like a normal person.

[Anonymous]

Geographically undesirable

[Anonymous]

The man should be chivalrous and make an effort to meet you in your neighborhood.

He should move heaven and earth to meet you.

You have value.

I would cancel the meetup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the first date, the guy should come to you. He’s just looking for a low-effort booty call. The funny thing is if he’s matching with people in Fairfax then he doesn’t have as many options as he would like.

I would not want to drive to DC on a rainy day and do street parking. I mean if he really wanted to see you he could just Uber midway.

Just unmatch.

Or she could get on the metro like a normal person.

Disagree when it’s the first date. When the man picks a place close to his home, he just wants to try and seal the deal that night.

Just unmatch.

[Anonymous]

I'm the type of person who will swipe left on someone who lives further than 30 minutes away from me, including men who live in Baltimore. It just seems like the logistics will be too difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put in your OLD profile " must have parking nearby I only drive"

+1. And that you are a suburban girl that prefers cars to walkability and fun nightlife.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you hit it off, are you willing to be doing most of the driving into DC? If he can’t even make the effort on a first meet up, what makes you think he’s going to make the effort in future?

[Anonymous]

Op here. He said he wanted to meet in dc as he was trying to select a nice place that he knows to meet at and he is not familiar with Arlington. Now he says he will meet me there.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he has an open warrant in VA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He said he wanted to meet in dc as he was trying to select a nice place that he knows to meet at and he is not familiar with Arlington. Now he says he will meet me there.

Stop being so desperate. Desperate to go on this date despite the red flags. Desperate for attention on here despite not taking anyone's advice.

[Anonymous]

Not worth your time if he won't meet halfway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he has an open warrant in VA.

It's either this or he's a jerk OP. Neither one is a good sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the first date, the guy should come to you. He’s just looking for a low-effort booty call. The funny thing is if he’s matching with people in Fairfax then he doesn’t have as many options as he would like.

I would not want to drive to DC on a rainy day and do street parking. I mean if he really wanted to see you he could just Uber midway.

Just unmatch.

Foggy Bottom actually is in between Fairfax and Dupont. OP still hasn’t said where she wanted to meet in Arlington.
Or she could get on the metro like a normal person.

Disagree when it’s the first date. When the man picks a place close to his home, he just wants to try and seal the deal that night.

Just unmatch.

[Anonymous]

Hah, when I lived in DC I used to only date people in DC unless they were willing to come to DC. It's a matter of being into the "city vibe". I didn't mind if someone lived outside of it, as long as they were cool with coming in -- maybe their job or other reasons meant they needed to live in the suburbs. It's a personality thing.

One friend and I (both single and looking) were at a house party and we used to limit potential dates based on zip codes too. 20009/20036/20008 were perfect, 20007 was on the limits of acceptable. Yes, we were cads back then. But there were no smartphones and limited online dating, so you met people out at house parties and bars, meaning the person was already cool with being in the city as that's where you'd be making their acquaintance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP he also may assume the restaurants on his side of the river are better. When we lived in dc, I hated trekking to VA suburbs for not great places

Op here. This is true! But I do want to drive and I was happy to drive to Arlington for a first meet. After that if we click I’d be okay going into the city for a nicer experience. But I was put off by his insistence to meet for the first time in DC on a rainy day.

Girl. If you insist on driving you cannot date people in DC proper. Stick with fellow suburnians.

Yeah, I live in the city and am carless and not impressed by folks who drive everywhere.