How to handle family funeral while in the process of of converting

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

Nobody is forcing anything. OP of her own free will would stand with open hands. Or not. Does she want to force the issue at this funeral? Maybe OP should just sit it out if she can’t be respectful.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

Nobody is forcing anything. OP of her own free will would stand with open hands. Or not. Does she want to force the issue at this funeral? Maybe OP should just sit it out if she can’t be respectful.

I mean, this is offensive to Catholics too. Taking communion is a serious sacrament - it is not something non-Catholics do to be respectful. OP did not say she intended to be disrespectful. She accepted the advice to take the blessing discreetly.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

Yea, this. The bottom line is it wouldn’t kill OP to take communion at a toddler funeral and no priest, rabbi, minister or satan worshipper would fault her for it. She just wants to be difficult. And then we have the always tolerated anti-Catholics on DCUM who are happy to egg on another hater to stick it to the Catholic family in even the saddest and most tragic of circumstances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

There will be no communion police at the funeral and no priest would care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

Yea, this. The bottom line is it wouldn’t kill OP to take communion at a toddler funeral and no priest, rabbi, minister or satan worshipper would fault her for it. She just wants to be difficult. And then we have the always tolerated anti-Catholics on DCUM who are happy to egg on another hater to stick it to the Catholic family in even the saddest and most tragic of circumstances.

Well as a matter of fact, some rabbis would be unhappy about it - and a priest that knew about the situation is actually supposed to deny her communion.

I guess you are just another poorly catechized Catholic, maybe a convert yourself. Maybe pick up a book about your religion.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

Yea, this. The bottom line is it wouldn’t kill OP to take communion at a toddler funeral and no priest, rabbi, minister or satan worshipper would fault her for it. She just wants to be difficult. And then we have the always tolerated anti-Catholics on DCUM who are happy to egg on another hater to stick it to the Catholic family in even the saddest and most tragic of circumstances.

Well as a matter of fact, some rabbis would be unhappy about it - and a priest that knew about the situation is actually supposed to deny her communion.

I guess you are just another poorly catechized Catholic, maybe a convert yourself. Maybe pick up a book about your religion.

The rabbi who would be a jerk about a baby’s funeral isn’t one worthy of respect. And a priest doesn’t expect someone to be perfect for Communion. Have you ever talked to one in person?

[Anonymous]

You go along with it for the sake of your family. Its not about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

[Anonymous]

OP, if the jerks haven't driven you away, I totally understand. My family is Catholic, but we did not do a full mass for my wedding, even though it was in a Catholic Church with my uncle who is a priest and a Monsignor, who is a friend of the family, because we did not want to deal with all of the issues around communion with our diverse guest list.

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Anonymous wrote:Practicing Catholic here. The correct thing to do is not receive communion. Catholics are not at all offended by people not receiving- and it’s actually wrong/offensive to receive if you don’t believe. There is nothing wrong with staying respectfully in the pew or crossing your arms over your chest to indicate you will not be receiving. No one should have a problem with that.

I am so confused. What was wrong with what I said? OP even says she didn’t know going up w arms crossed was an option.

I understand the context of why OP is concerned but what I’m saying is that a good Catholic shouldn’t be even taking note of who is and isn’t receiving communion. That is an incredibly sacred time of prayer and OP shouldn’t be worried about being judged…like I’ve literally never heard anyone as a practicing Catholic gossip or judge along the lines of “so and so didn’t receive today.” Even practicing Catholics have to abstain sometimes bc they haven’t made it to confession or forgot to fast. All I was trying to do was tell OP that I think she doesn’t need to stress here and she can focus on just grieving this tragic loss of a child.