Did your spouse confess?
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Anonymous
Let’s be real - you cheat because you are a completely degenerate POS who. Should be left at the curb with the trash. Every person on this forum is feeling so so sorry for your wife, and every other woman you use. |
Anonymous
“No matter the gender, if you don't Love your spouse enough to do ANYTHING and with enthusiasm on your face for the one you supposedly love, then you're just a DUD” Hi ! I’m the PP who wanted to disagree. Don’t need prospective as I’ve often heard similar. But dayum why not just tell your wife ? |
Anonymous
Because his beautiful sexy refined wife will dump his sorry butt |
Anonymous
Churchy adulterers are the worst. |
Anonymous
And every AP thinks their affair was so unique and meant to be and unavoidable/justifiable. Blah blah blah |
Anonymous
Yes, exactly - he "cheats" because he thinks if she knew she would end the marriage. Like most cheaters, the bolded PP lives in a delusion world built to maintain his self-esteem through an image cultivated before and with the cooperation of others. The APs allow him to believe he is this sexy stud. The marriage allows him to portray to the world that he is a "good guy" because he has a "sexy, beautiful" wife who is "refined" and is the mother of his children. These are signifiers that many men use to signal to others that they have high masculine value. TBH, this kind of deceitful manipulation is a form of emotional abuse. I've been through it -- discovering that my exDH had cheated with many other women, despite the fact that we had sex a lot and I never said no to him about anything sexual. But, having sex with me wasn't enough to maintain the narcissistic self-image he wanted. With other women, he could portray himself however he pleased without any questions. I will say that my exDH was completely shocked when I told him I knew about his infidelities and that are marriage was over and that he needed to move out. He tried to reconcile for about 2 years (so the sex must not have been that bad), all the while telling me more narcissistic lies to maintain his self-image and try to manipulate me into reconciliation. Obviously, I would and did never reconcile. When our kids were old enough, I grey rocked him -- he gets no attention from me other than polite emails documenting some aspect of child custody, and a polite "hello" when he picks the kids up for visitation. Thankfully, grey rocking stopped his attempts at coercive control, and he moved along to marry someone else (whom since divorced him). Not all women who are cheated on are sexual duds in bed, as bolded PP would like everyone to believe, because it serves to justify his cheating. |
Anonymous
Even if Mrs beautiful sexy refined wife were to find out her man was for the streets ... She's staying put. |
Anonymous
My xH cheated multiple times despite me wanting sex with him regularly. In fact, I could barely get him to have sex with me - he'd do it once or twice a month to shut me up. He preferred sitting downstairs sexting other women on his phone. And no, I didn't get fat, didn't let myself go, none of that. The women he cheated with were all fatter, uglier, and older than me (caught him pursuing women as old as 70 when he was early 40s!). I could have been a Victoria's Secret model and slid down a stripper pole, and he wouldn't have been interested. That's on you x-wife, thinking all you have to do is look good. I cheat on my wife. She enjoys sex also and is willing to partake with me. Of course she enjoys it, I do all the initiating, I give her oral until she O's and always an expression on my face and words that tell her how much I love doing it even though practically every time I get a pubic hair stuck in my throat, 100% of the time in her 'approved' positions, only during the mornings when she wants it, only on the days that she wants it, only in the location she wants it, only the sex acts she wants. I on the other hand can't do my fav positions because it's 'uncomfortable' or 'hurts'. Whereas I think the truth is she finds them too dominant. She can't give me blowjobs because she has a 'small mouth' , but never once lovingly and sexily just licks it. I tried to do a play night and sexily tried trimming her pubic hair, she broke down crying. Can't do it at night because then she can't sleep, whereas I think she's just too lazy to go pee afterwards. Can't do it in nature because we might be seen, even though we're the only ones around for 10 miles. She thinks I'm a trained monkey and shouldn't tell her anymore what I need in our sex lives or she'll get hurt and cry. So yeah, I F*** every woman I get a chance to. In my mind you kind of women have near zero rights to complain about your husbands stepping out. I have to admit though, plenty of husbands must also be a sex downer or there wouldn't be all these married women for me to romance. No matter the gender, if you don't Love your spouse enough to do ANYTHING and with enthusiasm on your face for the one you supposedly love, then you're just a DUD PP, do you recognize how rape-y what you said sounds? Yes, in your mind, women have no right to decline any sexual request from their spouse. Non-consensual sex is rape. The fact that you aren't physically beating your wife to get sex doesn't mean that you are not raping her. You are committing rape by fraud, because, "presumably" she believes that you and she have a monogamous marriage. By cheating on her -- have sex with other women -- you are, through your lies and deception to keep her unaware of your infidelities (the fraud), denying her real, accurate knowledge that she is not in a monogamous marriage, and thus denying her the ability to make her own choice about whether to stay or leave the marriage. PP's wife is not his sex slave who is bound to comply with all his sexual demands. His wife says some sexual positions hurt, yet he chooses to believe she is lying and has a different motivation for not wanting to have sex in those positions. Is he forcing her to have sex in positions that she has said are painful? If so, that is rape. Marital rape was permitted in the US until Michigan and Delaware became the first states to outlaw marital rape in 1974. By 1993, every state in the US has outlawed marital rape. PP's wife is a real person who gets to say no to any sexual activity for any reason. This ability to say "No", is also what gives women the ability to say "yes" enthusiastically, so no wonder the PP is missing out on enthusiastic sex with his wife. Of course, if I have misunderstood the bolded PP, and he has explicitly discussed an open marriage with his wife, given her the same ability to have sex with other people that he has taken, and done so without using coercive control (including but not limited to threats of economic coercion, or custodial coercion), i.e. she has freely chosen with informed consent to stay in the marriage while PP cheats, then OFC what is happening is not cheating. It is part of a fairly and freely bargained for non-monogamous marriage. |
Anonymous
Did he ever demand "'proof"? My STBX was adamant that I dont have any proof-I did have it but refused to show him-he was still going to make something up and deny. He is an extremely intelligent person who also converted into a high-functioning alcoholic which I never supported but the AP does whole-heartedly and i am assuming this is how she took him to her bed. Well, he is clearly on the way out of the door. |
Anonymous
If that were true he would have been a man and asked for an open relationship, but he is not a man he is just another selfish coward. |
Anonymous
| No, she lied repeatedly until I cold busted her with hard evidence. It was over at that point and there was no going back. |
Anonymous
Fair. |
Anonymous
My xH cheated multiple times despite me wanting sex with him regularly. In fact, I could barely get him to have sex with me - he'd do it once or twice a month to shut me up. He preferred sitting downstairs sexting other women on his phone. And no, I didn't get fat, didn't let myself go, none of that. The women he cheated with were all fatter, uglier, and older than me (caught him pursuing women as old as 70 when he was early 40s!). I could have been a Victoria's Secret model and slid down a stripper pole, and he wouldn't have been interested. That's on you x-wife, thinking all you have to do is look good. I cheat on my wife. She enjoys sex also and is willing to partake with me. Of course she enjoys it, I do all the initiating, I give her oral until she O's and always an expression on my face and words that tell her how much I love doing it even though practically every time I get a pubic hair stuck in my throat, 100% of the time in her 'approved' positions, only during the mornings when she wants it, only on the days that she wants it, only in the location she wants it, only the sex acts she wants. I on the other hand can't do my fav positions because it's 'uncomfortable' or 'hurts'. Whereas I think the truth is she finds them too dominant. She can't give me blowjobs because she has a 'small mouth' , but never once lovingly and sexily just licks it. I tried to do a play night and sexily tried trimming her pubic hair, she broke down crying. Can't do it at night because then she can't sleep, whereas I think she's just too lazy to go pee afterwards. Can't do it in nature because we might be seen, even though we're the only ones around for 10 miles. She thinks I'm a trained monkey and shouldn't tell her anymore what I need in our sex lives or she'll get hurt and cry. So yeah, I F*** every woman I get a chance to. In my mind you kind of women have near zero rights to complain about your husbands stepping out. I have to admit though, plenty of husbands must also be a sex downer or there wouldn't be all these married women for me to romance. No matter the gender, if you don't Love your spouse enough to do ANYTHING and with enthusiasm on your face for the one you supposedly love, then you're just a DUD Another serious question .. What are you asking her to do?? |
Anonymous
I confronted him with proof, and he responded by gaslighting me that it was just a "kiss". I had trusted him completely before, but after that, I began tracking him much more carefully and found out about more cheating. I never confronted him with additional proof because it became apparent to me in therapy that he was not willing to come clean to me and had instead chosen a strategy of gaslighting me in the extreme. A women does not need "proof" to divorce a man. A woman can divorce for any reason at all. My exDH couldn't believe that I ended our marriage. I guess he thought I didn't have proof and wouldn't divorce him unless I did. Saying that you don't have proof is just a form of DARVO - deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. |
Anonymous
| She never admitted it and lied for a long time. She got caught on camera and kept lying even after I told her. |