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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I confronted him with proof and he immediately went into 10 hours (literally) of telling me everything. 2+ years later I still haven't found out anything he did not tell me that first night so no trickle truthing. His entire demeanor changed like you could actually see the weight of his secret life being lifted off him.[/quote]

And then what? [/quote]
NP but who had a similar experience.

What do you mean “And then what?”

And then he went to therapy to exorcise his demons, made reparations, was remorseful, and lives every day fully invested. Life moved on. [/quote]

Yeah right. [/quote]
Um, yes. You don’t have to believe it, but we are still happily married. [/quote]

As a longtime reader of this forum, the chances that your spouse was truly remorseful and will never do it again and you can rebuild are minimal.  I mean, it’s certainly possible, but we’ve seen so many women here who reconcile and stay with their cheater husband for years before he falls apart again.[/quote]
Our situation was pretty unique and layered and nuanced, but his remorse is sincere. Our marriage isn’t the same marriage it was before, it’s different, and it’s better.

I realize it is always a possibility he will stray again, but I also know that’s true for anyone. It’s a risk I’m willing to take with a man I’ve built a life with. Everyone has secrets and demons, and you never know if or how they’ll come to the surface one day. [/quote]

Everyone thinks their relationship is “unique and layered and nuanced” and it probably is because relationships are unique.  And you are taking an extra risk by staying with a man who has cheated before.  That’s something that’s broken in him and a way he coped.  Maybe he is reformed but the odds are just depressingly low.[/quote]

And every AP thinks their affair was so unique and meant to be and unavoidable/justifiable. Blah blah blah [/quote]

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