Did your spouse confess?

[Anonymous]

She did. But she thought crying was going to make feel bad for her. It just made it worse

[Anonymous]

So painful to be the one filing even when spouse does not confess..mine is throwing away his glorious career and beautiful family for this downgrade from work. I am on the legal path but a part of me (with no intent to reconcile) wants to shake him and let him know what he is doing is so damaging..

[Anonymous]

Mine confessed before I found out.

[Anonymous]

I didn't ask him; I told him I knew what was going on. He tried to lie. I rolled my eyes. He tried to double down but I just reiterated that I wasn't a moron and when he was backed into a corner he sputtered that he wanted a divorce. I ignored all the signs for a long time because "he would never" and then I realized he actually was, and that was that. The previous day he actually asked if I wanted to go see a concert with him. From the moment he said he wanted a divorce we never spoke again except through lawyers or in court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't ask him; I told him I knew what was going on. He tried to lie. I rolled my eyes. He tried to double down but I just reiterated that I wasn't a moron and when he was backed into a corner he sputtered that he wanted a divorce. I ignored all the signs for a long time because "he would never" and then I realized he actually was, and that was that. The previous day he actually asked if I wanted to go see a concert with him. From the moment he said he wanted a divorce we never spoke again except through lawyers or in court.

^^ I will also add that he took it upon himself to immediately call our children and tell them we were getting a divorce. We didn't tell them jointly because he didn't give me the opportunity to discuss how to approach it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confronted him with proof and he immediately went into 10 hours (literally) of telling me everything. 2+ years later I still haven't found out anything he did not tell me that first night so no trickle truthing. His entire demeanor changed like you could actually see the weight of his secret life being lifted off him.

And then what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confronted him with proof and he immediately went into 10 hours (literally) of telling me everything. 2+ years later I still haven't found out anything he did not tell me that first night so no trickle truthing. His entire demeanor changed like you could actually see the weight of his secret life being lifted off him.

And then what?

NP but who had a similar experience.

What do you mean “And then what?”

And then he went to therapy to exorcise his demons, made reparations, was remorseful, and lives every day fully invested. Life moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confronted him with proof and he immediately went into 10 hours (literally) of telling me everything. 2+ years later I still haven't found out anything he did not tell me that first night so no trickle truthing. His entire demeanor changed like you could actually see the weight of his secret life being lifted off him.

And then what?

That pp left him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't ask him; I told him I knew what was going on. He tried to lie. I rolled my eyes. He tried to double down but I just reiterated that I wasn't a moron and when he was backed into a corner he sputtered that he wanted a divorce. I ignored all the signs for a long time because "he would never" and then I realized he actually was, and that was that. The previous day he actually asked if I wanted to go see a concert with him. From the moment he said he wanted a divorce we never spoke again except through lawyers or in court.

Same here-except that when he told him he wanted a divorce;I said go ahead but so far nothing from him-its been two months. I am not talking to him, but i am filing myself. I know the affair goes on...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confronted him with proof and he immediately went into 10 hours (literally) of telling me everything. 2+ years later I still haven't found out anything he did not tell me that first night so no trickle truthing. His entire demeanor changed like you could actually see the weight of his secret life being lifted off him.

Please tell us you didn't stick with this ahole

You know she did.

[Anonymous]

Cheating is so awful and painful. But i just want to ask the women who were cheated upon - are you fat? How much do you weigh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is so awful and painful. But i just want to ask the women who were cheated upon - are you fat? How much do you weigh?

Oh FFS. If you must know his man boobs and bourbon gut were such a turnoff I wouldn't go near him. He found someone who is able to overlook his poor physical condition as long as she focuses on his shiny credit cards. She's welcome to him! I've ended up doing just fine for myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is so awful and painful. But i just want to ask the women who were cheated upon - are you fat? How much do you weigh?

There is a special kind of moron who asks this on every such thread. The idiot obviously never heard that Jennifer Aniston, Shakira, Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock and Eva Longoria were all cheated on, to name a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, denied and denied then he caught an STD. Still tried to say it could be me but there was NO way. I’d only had sex with him in the last 20 yrs. Next, he said it was once years ago and over. However, I found condoms recently ordered - but it was only once…but wait, there is more. Slowly trickled out over a month.

What std did he catch ? did he spread it to you ? if not, how did you find out about it ?

[Anonymous]

My wife denied by the bushel full. Even after I informed her that her Lover called me, still denied. Her lover called because he was all mad that she broke up with him.
I felt numb, she just was never the type. 2 young kids. Yes I stayed with her for sake of the kids. In that moment though, I realized I'd be strutting my C--K around town. 15 yrs and many lovers later, she's never found out. I've never lost my love for her.
Yeah in a lot of ways it's shitty, but she crushed me and I refuse to break up my family.