Physical attraction at 60yo

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

This! Not many men in Late 50s, kind with nice personality AND a great bod is going to be interested in a 55 yo whose upside is she looks younger than she is. He has the whole sea and a few nearby ponds at his disposal.

Who THINKS she looks younger than she is....

Speak for yourself haha

Dcum would be shocked...

At age 60, you are embarrassing OP.

I know youre trying your best to put older women down. It makes you happy i guess?

However i know different. You are so wrong and would be completely shocked.
Oh well too bad - and believe what you want. You will never admit to being wrong.

Also, not OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me (hetero female), it’s mental. I need to feel super desirable to enjoy sex. There are three parts to this for me: first one is me feeling fit and groomed and attractive; second is my partner letting me know he finds me sexy and he wants me; third is him being attractive. I see how arousing it is when two attractive people make love. The visual of me when I’m with an overweight, out of shape, non groomed man is a huge turnoff. Maybe this is a performative issue I have from being raised in the 90s, but I just cannot let loose and enjoy myself without those three components.

lol that might work in your 20’s but not after 40. OP is in her 50’s. There in no sex happening.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

I would posit that the men who 'engage' younger women (let's say a 15 year difference) are not the kind of men I would not be interested in anyway. And those younger women have their own issues. It is not uncommon though, as there are lots of men who need the validation of being with a younger woman and lots of women who need the validation of being with an older man.

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Anonymous wrote:For me (hetero female), it’s mental. I need to feel super desirable to enjoy sex. There are three parts to this for me: first one is me feeling fit and groomed and attractive; second is my partner letting me know he finds me sexy and he wants me; third is him being attractive. I see how arousing it is when two attractive people make love. The visual of me when I’m with an overweight, out of shape, non groomed man is a huge turnoff. Maybe this is a performative issue I have from being raised in the 90s, but I just cannot let loose and enjoy myself without those three components.

This is exactly how I feel too! 49yo woman.

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Anonymous wrote:If you really like him otherwise, you might consider trying the “10 f***s rule.” Give it 10 tries to see if the attraction grows. I’m a little younger than you, OP, in my 50s, but at our age butterflies are pretty hard to come by. So are good men. It sounds like this one might be worth some effort.

Wow, I really wish DCUM was around when I was dating. Had no idea women thought like this.

They don’t.

[Anonymous]

His SMV has grown as he’s aged while yours has declined. He’s now enjoying the privileges you had in your 20’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just please don't be my mom. She landed the BEST guy when she was 58, he was 64. He is smart, funny, kind, generous, very high EQ, warm, capable, so many things. They're still together but she has never stop making comments about his pot belly. He takes it in stride and loves her so deeply but I tell her to stop every chance I get

Gross. I hope he comes to his senses and dumps her.

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Did OP say he was ungroomed?
Also pot belly can be a little pooch on an otherwise normal bod or a huge watermelon out of HeeHaw.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

You forget something important. There is also a 3rd choice that women have: just stay single and enjoy toys instead of feeling disgusted by sex with a partner she doesn’t desire. Particular women with money…

The shrinking dating pool won’t increase chances for the men who don’t watch their weight and grow belly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

You forget something important. There is also a 3rd choice that women have: just stay single and enjoy toys instead of feeling disgusted by sex with a partner she doesn’t desire. Particular women with money…

The shrinking dating pool won’t increase chances for the men who don’t watch their weight and grow belly.

Right? This assumption that some men have (not all) that women need them increasingly outdated. But as I said above, men have always relied on this need - especially mediocre men - so they can find a partner to make their lives easier. I think the fear of losing this control is driving some of our current politics.

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Anonymous wrote:It all depends on whether certain things work as they should.

FUPA results in a smaller dick in men.

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Anonymous wrote:It all depends on whether certain things work as they should.

FUPA results in a smaller dick in men.

And ED, and worsens ability to regulate the stroke, feel the woman … many things.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both late 50’s and recently divorced. I am fit and told I look younger. He looks his age with a dad bod. He’s funny and kind. Seems like a genuine good person. I wish he was in better shape but I’m otherwise very attracted to his eyes and smile and personality. I need some encouragement not to get hung up on this potbelly. I know I’m not perfect either. My cellulite and aging skin is not gonna get any better.

By who?
Why does this matter?
Are you not ok with being 50+?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

You forget something important. There is also a 3rd choice that women have: just stay single and enjoy toys instead of feeling disgusted by sex with a partner she doesn’t desire. Particular women with money…

The shrinking dating pool won’t increase chances for the men who don’t watch their weight and grow belly.

You wouldn't bring your masterdation devices to a movie, botanic garden, museum or restaurant, though. People are social animals. Some of us women want men to love and spend time with. Op seems to be put off by his belly? so she shouldn't waste either of their time. Another woman will surely love this guy as he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

You forget something important. There is also a 3rd choice that women have: just stay single and enjoy toys instead of feeling disgusted by sex with a partner she doesn’t desire. Particular women with money…

The shrinking dating pool won’t increase chances for the men who don’t watch their weight and grow belly.

You wouldn't bring your masterdation devices to a movie, botanic garden, museum or restaurant, though. People are social animals. Some of us women want men to love and spend time with. Op seems to be put off by his belly? so she shouldn't waste either of their time. Another woman will surely love this guy as he is.

I attend all these events and venues with family and friends. Men’s ability for companionship is way overvalued. If I wasn’t attracted sexually and the men didn’t expect sex (was asexual), I would have such a romantic male friend for companionship. But it seems that OPs BF wants sex from her, and that makes her cringe.

Usually women sleep with fat men for money, plain and simple.