Physical attraction at 60yo

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Only you can encourage yourself. Many people are saying if you are attracted to him and like him and he’s a good guy, give it a chance.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because men start dying off faster than women.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Men rely on female desperation.

[Anonymous]

It’s only going to get worse, OP. If it bothers you now, it will only bother you more as time goes on. Plenty of other fish. Don’t settle.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both late 50’s and recently divorced. I am fit and told I look younger. He looks his age with a dad bod. He’s funny and kind. Seems like a genuine good person. I wish he was in better shape but I’m otherwise very attracted to his eyes and smile and personality. I need some encouragement not to get hung up on this potbelly. I know I’m not perfect either. My cellulite and aging skin is not gonna get any better.

I would not date a 60 year old with a "potbelly" unless he was Bezos wealthy. I'd go find some hot 40 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

Ok but do you try to get rid of the potbelly? Do you eat healthy and exercise/be physical? Because that is what is attractive to me. When a guy just shrugs his shoulders and then proceeds to drink beer and eat cheeseburgers that is...not hot.

NP- I don’t think he’s complaining. . .

Haha I know. I was truly curious though.

To answer your question, I do exercise but my diet could be a lot better. My young, hot, smart GF and I enjoy nice, high calorie food together, and then we enjoy other things. Since she enjoys the sex a lot and likes my companionship, she's starting to have positive feelings about my body type.

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I'm lese in shape and less athletic than her prior lovers, but I'm not obese.

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Anonymous wrote:This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

Ok but do you try to get rid of the potbelly? Do you eat healthy and exercise/be physical? Because that is what is attractive to me. When a guy just shrugs his shoulders and then proceeds to drink beer and eat cheeseburgers that is...not hot.

NP- I don’t think he’s complaining. . .

Haha I know. I was truly curious though.

To answer your question, I do exercise but my diet could be a lot better. My young, hot, smart GF and I enjoy nice, high calorie food together, and then we enjoy other things. Since she enjoys the sex a lot and likes my companionship, she's starting to have positive feelings about my body type.

As a thin fit woman who enjoys PIV and not just oral, I wonder what she enjoys sexually that much. I tried to sleep with bigger men but even slightly overweight had ED and lots of sex positions were not attainable or painful for me. Leaving a lot I hated the excess sweat and the junk food lifestyle.

Do you make a lot relative your much younger GF ? Just be careful women are often imitating….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s only going to get worse, OP. If it bothers you now, it will only bother you more as time goes on. Plenty of other fish. Don’t settle.

If you think there are plenty of men over 50 who don’t have dad bods and pot bellies, look around you, lmao.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both late 50’s and recently divorced. I am fit and told I look younger. He looks his age with a dad bod. He’s funny and kind. Seems like a genuine good person. I wish he was in better shape but I’m otherwise very attracted to his eyes and smile and personality. I need some encouragement not to get hung up on this potbelly. I know I’m not perfect either. My cellulite and aging skin is not gonna get any better.

I would not date a 60 year old with a "potbelly" unless he was Bezos wealthy. I'd go find some hot 40 year old.

And that guy wants a woman in her late 50s because… ?

(Hint: he is looking for early 30s and can get it.)

[Anonymous]

For me (hetero female), it’s mental. I need to feel super desirable to enjoy sex. There are three parts to this for me: first one is me feeling fit and groomed and attractive; second is my partner letting me know he finds me sexy and he wants me; third is him being attractive. I see how arousing it is when two attractive people make love. The visual of me when I’m with an overweight, out of shape, non groomed man is a huge turnoff. Maybe this is a performative issue I have from being raised in the 90s, but I just cannot let loose and enjoy myself without those three components.

[Anonymous]

You’re not that into him, OP. You’re shallow and you will be mean to him so go find what you actually want.

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Anonymous wrote:If you really like him otherwise, you might consider trying the “10 f***s rule.” Give it 10 tries to see if the attraction grows. I’m a little younger than you, OP, in my 50s, but at our age butterflies are pretty hard to come by. So are good men. It sounds like this one might be worth some effort.

Wow, I really wish DCUM was around when I was dating. Had no idea women thought like this.

Like what?

FWIW, everybody is different.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

This! Not many men in Late 50s, kind with nice personality AND a great bod is going to be interested in a 55 yo whose upside is she looks younger than she is. He has the whole sea and a few nearby ponds at his disposal.

Who THINKS she looks younger than she is....

Speak for yourself haha

Dcum would be shocked...

At age 60, you are embarrassing OP.

I know youre trying your best to put older women down. It makes you happy i guess?

However i know different. You are so wrong and would be completely shocked.
Oh well too bad - and believe what you want. You will never admit to being wrong.