Physical attraction at 60yo

[Anonymous]

Now I want a Potbelly sandwich for dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

This! Not many men in Late 50s, kind with nice personality AND a great bod is going to be interested in a 55 yo whose upside is she looks younger than she is. He has the whole sea and a few nearby ponds at his disposal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

This! Not many men in Late 50s, kind with nice personality AND a great bod is going to be interested in a 55 yo whose upside is she looks younger than she is. He has the whole sea and a few nearby ponds at his disposal.

Who THINKS she looks younger than she is....

[Anonymous]

This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

Ok but do you try to get rid of the potbelly? Do you eat healthy and exercise/be physical? Because that is what is attractive to me. When a guy just shrugs his shoulders and then proceeds to drink beer and eat cheeseburgers that is...not hot.

[Anonymous]

This is what Astroglide is for.
See if he can deliver the lumber, then make up you mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

Ok but do you try to get rid of the potbelly? Do you eat healthy and exercise/be physical? Because that is what is attractive to me. When a guy just shrugs his shoulders and then proceeds to drink beer and eat cheeseburgers that is...not hot.

NP- I don’t think he’s complaining. . .

[Anonymous]

I would kindly but firmly suggest a GLP-1. They work wonders and are perfect for this kind of situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would kindly but firmly suggest a GLP-1. They work wonders and are perfect for this kind of situation.

Or eat less. Is it really so hard not to be a fat-ass? This is a cultural problem. Plenty of other highly developed countries don't have the rampant obesity we have, and it's not because they're all taking drugs. For some reason, Americans don't want to accept the basic, indisputable, extremely well established scientific fact that if you eat more calories than you burn, you will gain weight and that the only way to lose way in a stable, lasting way is to reduce your caloric intake below the amount you burn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you really like him otherwise, you might consider trying the “10 f***s rule.” Give it 10 tries to see if the attraction grows. I’m a little younger than you, OP, in my 50s, but at our age butterflies are pretty hard to come by. So are good men. It sounds like this one might be worth some effort.

Wow, I really wish DCUM was around when I was dating. Had no idea women thought like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both late 50’s and recently divorced. I am fit and told I look younger. He looks his age with a dad bod. He’s funny and kind. Seems like a genuine good person. I wish he was in better shape but I’m otherwise very attracted to his eyes and smile and personality. I need some encouragement not to get hung up on this potbelly. I know I’m not perfect either. My cellulite and aging skin is not gonna get any better.

Start exercising together. Get some bikes or something. Cook for him.

Abs are made in the kitchen.

DO NOT NAG him as that's almost as bad as a man saying "you are getting fat!".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This could have been written by several women I've dated. No big deal. Now I'm with a women who is younger and hotter but still smart and interesting. Did I feel bad that some women my own age were not attracted to me? Yes, a little, but that's life. There also have been several women my age who didn't appeal to me either, even though they were great people. I was in a sexless marriage and don't need a sexless relationship. Be "just friends." He'll have other options and so will you, OP.

The one thing I'll say on the side of sticking with the guy with a big belly is that the guy might have skills in bed. That sometimes makes some women much more attracted. I know this from personal experience. You won't know until you try. Admittedly it probably won't work, but you could be missing a good opportunity if you walk away.

This is not a situation where you should do what's right in a justice sense. You should do what actually feels right, not what should feel right.

Ok but do you try to get rid of the potbelly? Do you eat healthy and exercise/be physical? Because that is what is attractive to me. When a guy just shrugs his shoulders and then proceeds to drink beer and eat cheeseburgers that is...not hot.

NP- I don’t think he’s complaining. . .

Haha I know. I was truly curious though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would kindly but firmly suggest a GLP-1. They work wonders and are perfect for this kind of situation.

Or eat less. Is it really so hard not to be a fat-ass? This is a cultural problem. Plenty of other highly developed countries don't have the rampant obesity we have, and it's not because they're all taking drugs. For some reason, Americans don't want to accept the basic, indisputable, extremely well established scientific fact that if you eat more calories than you burn, you will gain weight and that the only way to lose way in a stable, lasting way is to reduce your caloric intake below the amount you burn.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Why is that women are NEVER satisfied??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would kindly but firmly suggest a GLP-1. They work wonders and are perfect for this kind of situation.

Or eat less. Is it really so hard not to be a fat-ass? This is a cultural problem. Plenty of other highly developed countries don't have the rampant obesity we have, and it's not because they're all taking drugs. For some reason, Americans don't want to accept the basic, indisputable, extremely well established scientific fact that if you eat more calories than you burn, you will gain weight and that the only way to lose way in a stable, lasting way is to reduce your caloric intake below the amount you burn.

When a hundred million people are obese it’s not about self-control, it’s a policy choice:

- Subsidies for corn corn corn
- Spread out, disconnected communities that require cars instead of walking
- a work culture with long hours, long commutes, and limited vacations
- expensive healthcare that discourages people from regularly seeing their doctor and engaging in preventative care for hormonal and metabolic problems
- a lack of regulations on additives and sugar

If you have the bandwidth to be vigilant about your health good for you!