Absolutely repulsed by intimacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not normal please see your OB.

+1

[Anonymous]

Me of 3 years ago would agree with OP….after a divorce I realize that I didn’t like my husband at all. The dislike made all contact seem gross. 3 years later, new partner of over a year - sex is great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have PCOS and testosterone started giving me a lot of facial hair. Yikes!

PP, the ED with your husband is what happened with my previous partner. Men do tend to have erection problems if they don't feel wanted.

Does PCOS affects intimacy or sex drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have PCOS and testosterone started giving me a lot of facial hair. Yikes!

PP, the ED with your husband is what happened with my previous partner. Men do tend to have erection problems if they don't feel wanted.

Does PCOS affects intimacy or sex drive?

yes, PCOS could be bad for sex drive. Mine is but would like to know how does it affect other people.

[Anonymous]

Do you honestly feel love and connection to your husband? I realized that I no longer did and it was a slow death of a marriage.

[Anonymous]

I spent a decade with no libido. I love DH, but I had zero sex drive and I was fine with the idea of no sex again.
When I started HRT, my libido came roaring back. It wasn’t immediate- a good few months into HRT.
I had more sex drive than I had in my twenties. It’s calmed down, but still much improved.
So for me, it was all about my hormones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent a decade with no libido. I love DH, but I had zero sex drive and I was fine with the idea of no sex again.
When I started HRT, my libido came roaring back. It wasn’t immediate- a good few months into HRT.
I had more sex drive than I had in my twenties. It’s calmed down, but still much improved.
So for me, it was all about my hormones

I feel like these discussions often minimize the role hormones play in desire. People often want to assign a moral value to the situation: "she's holding out," "he's not pulling his weight," etc. Often times it's just body chemicals!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not alone. I'm 54 and have become basically asexual. I used to love kissing and sex. Hit me about your age after a baby and soon after my DH falling down an ideological rabbit hole of Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, and other repulsive shitstains. But even the fantasy of an affair or the early demise of my DH followed by the hottest guy ever after an appropriate mourning period holds no appeal at all.

I suppose you could go for testosterone HRT. I've decided against that because my vaginal atrophy post menopause is so painful that I don't want to want it.

I'm a DH who pulled out of an ideological nose dive. I fell into that rabbit hole looking for solutions to my wife not wanting to have sex much anymore. The first solutions I found (e.g. do more around the house, date night, touching with no expectations of sex, etc.) didn't do anything. So I kept looking and hit the manosphere. They offered things like work out and dress better, which ... sure. But then it was a little more questionable ... when you do have sex, make sure you act dominant. (How well that work isn't built in, depends on the particular woman's wiring and mood from time to time). Then more and more, it was tough to ignore the rampant misogyny and even racism. At first the misogyny seemed like an unfortunate side to what might be valuable advice (nothing else was working). But then it became apparent that the whole culture is a misogynistic shit show.

Our sex life never did come back, but at least she loves me and my family life is good. If I'd continued on with the red pill nonsense, my sex life would probably still be bad *and* my home life would be terrible.

This is exactly what Ronny Chieng said. He said you start off wanting to get fit and then end up storming the Capitol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same op. Its terrible. Even if im watching a tv show or movie the kissing in loud im so 🤢 grossed out.

I felt like this when I was in a bad marriage. The thought of having sex with my husband was so repulsive that anything that was vaguely related to sex with my husband was also repulsive. I was grossed out if a couple was holding hands.

Anyway, I got divorced, started dating, and lo and behold, my sex drive rebounded. I’m remarried now (for five years), and still have a sex drive.

This. My XH’s breath smelled weird to me. It wasn’t bad breath or lack of dental hygiene it just repulsed me. It’s hard to explain.

Now out of that marriage and into therapy and realized how controlling and emotionally abusive it was. With a loving and safe partner. We do it on the daily.

[Anonymous]

I went for a CO2 laser vag rejuv for vaginal atrophy after menopause and it is a game changer. Took care of all my GSM issues. Of course, this is not available in USA.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37395104/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not alone. I'm 54 and have become basically asexual. I used to love kissing and sex. Hit me about your age after a baby and soon after my DH falling down an ideological rabbit hole of Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, and other repulsive shitstains. But even the fantasy of an affair or the early demise of my DH followed by the hottest guy ever after an appropriate mourning period holds no appeal at all.

I suppose you could go for testosterone HRT. I've decided against that because my vaginal atrophy post menopause is so painful that I don't want to want it.

I'm a DH who pulled out of an ideological nose dive. I fell into that rabbit hole looking for solutions to my wife not wanting to have sex much anymore. The first solutions I found (e.g. do more around the house, date night, touching with no expectations of sex, etc.) didn't do anything. So I kept looking and hit the manosphere. They offered things like work out and dress better, which ... sure. But then it was a little more questionable ... when you do have sex, make sure you act dominant. (How well that work isn't built in, depends on the particular woman's wiring and mood from time to time). Then more and more, it was tough to ignore the rampant misogyny and even racism. At first the misogyny seemed like an unfortunate side to what might be valuable advice (nothing else was working). But then it became apparent that the whole culture is a misogynistic shit show.

Our sex life never did come back, but at least she loves me and my family life is good. If I'd continued on with the red pill nonsense, my sex life would probably still be bad *and* my home life would be terrible.

This is exactly what Ronny Chieng said. He said you start off wanting to get fit and then end up storming the Capitol.

!!!

[Anonymous]

My gf is really gf's about her smell down there and never let me give her oral pleasure but then complains that she likes it. WTH

[Anonymous]

Would you be ok if your husbands found someone on the side? Or you’d expect him to be faithful, and for how long? One year, more, less? Curios to find the perspective of the wives in the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be ok if your husbands found someone on the side? Or you’d expect him to be faithful, and for how long? One year, more, less? Curios to find the perspective of the wives in the thread.

You have my blessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf is really gf's about her smell down there and never let me give her oral pleasure but then complains that she likes it. WTH

no wonder she is not getting any then. You have to love yourself before others love you.