Should a woman's social media dissuade me from dating her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you joined a hiking club, stream cleanup volunteer group, Habitat for Humanity or some other outdoorsy activity, you would meet women who are focused on more worthwhile endeavors than posting 5 times per day on social media.

Those women have Instagrams too. There are few people under the age of 35 who don't have one. And if they're attractive, the chances increase by 500%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you joined a hiking club, stream cleanup volunteer group, Habitat for Humanity or some other outdoorsy activity, you would meet women who are focused on more worthwhile endeavors than posting 5 times per day on social media.

Those women have Instagrams too. There are few people under the age of 35 who don't have one. And if they're attractive, the chances increase by 500%.

You are 100 percent correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you’re teens, the fact that she still even *has* active social media pages is a red flag.

This. It's equivalent to a grown man spending hours each day playing video games.

No, it's far worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Funny enough I was chatting with some women in their 50s the other day about what I do. General consensus among older women is if you have the opportunity to make money on OF while you're still young and beautiful, do it. Get in, make a bunch of money, get out.

Good advice, it's not like everything posted on the internet is there forever or anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why you don’t you go out with her a couple times and she what she’s really like?

Because there's no indication she's interested in him and it's easier for him to just pre-reject her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?

Why are you hitting on women at networking events? Why are you googling them and stalking their social media?

The red flag here is OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Funny enough I was chatting with some women in their 50s the other day about what I do. General consensus among older women is if you have the opportunity to make money on OF while you're still young and beautiful, do it. Get in, make a bunch of money, get out.

Good advice, it's not like everything posted on the internet is there forever or anything.

Eh. What's it gonna do, stop you from getting a job? If you make $500,000-$1,000,000 from OF you're never going to have to work another regular job the rest of your life. Just be smart and do what Hollywood actresses do - make their money, then use it to invest in/start businesses, retire from acting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?

DW has around 190k, follower count tends to track with personality disorders, wouldn't recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?

Yuck. No thanks to that.

My brother married someone who has a big need for constant social validation. Guess who takes care of everything (kids, house, meals, sports) after working a full day? And all her girls' trips? HE DOES.
Furthermore, it's like she has split personalities and is so fake. With family she's outgoing but more grounded. With 1000s friends - she accidently put us both on the wrong text thread one holiday week - she's over-drinking, cursing, super opinionated, up all night.

For her recent 40th birthday she had 10+ friends fly in to visit her during a school week and she booked a $20k Airbnb house and vegged out there with them. Guess who drove over all the food and games and alcohol to "set it up"? My brother. And then he went back home to the kids and his job.

Yes, she's a SAHM. with ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is okay if they are 5 posts that naturally come up in a day or with a little effort. If there is too much time put into making things for social media, move on.

It would be nice to meet someone who has a few posts of family and friends, some food, nice vacation pics, modest selfies and maybe a couple of swimsuit photos. That is rare.

No it's not rare. tons of nice smarties not dropping @$$ online during the work day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?

Yuck. No thanks to that.

My brother married someone who has a big need for constant social validation. Guess who takes care of everything (kids, house, meals, sports) after working a full day? And all her girls' trips? HE DOES.
Furthermore, it's like she has split personalities and is so fake. With family she's outgoing but more grounded. With 1000s friends - she accidently put us both on the wrong text thread one holiday week - she's over-drinking, cursing, super opinionated, up all night.

For her recent 40th birthday she had 10+ friends fly in to visit her during a school week and she booked a $20k Airbnb house and vegged out there with them. Guess who drove over all the food and games and alcohol to "set it up"? My brother. And then he went back home to the kids and his job.

Yes, she's a SAHM. with ADHD.

I'm sorry for your brother not knowing the woman he married before they actually tied the knot - but 2k is nothing on social media. And your sister in law's behavior is because of her - social media just gives her an outlet for whatever it is she's doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you’re teens, the fact that she still even *has* active social media pages is a red flag.

Unless you're teens, that you're even talking about a "girl next door" is a red flag about you.

Well, that’s good, because you’re responding to me and I never said a word about “girls next door.” Fool.

[Anonymous]

There aren't many attractive women under 35 who don't use SM. Even professionals you assume would want to keep a lower profile are often oversharing. If OP is hot, rich, and intelligent, perhaps he will find his unicorn. He could also date older and/or less attractive women to avoid this issue.

[Anonymous]

How can you find someone on Only Fans. I’m very suspicious of someone I know. And curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?

Why are you hitting on women at networking events? Why are you googling them and stalking their social media?

The red flag here is OP.

Please. No fewer than 80% of the women I've gone on first dates with have asked "Do you have FB/IG? I couldn't find you on there."... and those are just the women willing to admit they looked me up. I've also had random (interested) women at work ask me that out of the blue.

I had a female friend flip out when I didn't text her until the next day, and she admitted to not only scouring SM for me, but also attempting to find my home address, and was contemplating contacting the police for a wellness check. Imagine if a male friend reacted that way to a woman not texting for a day.

It's not unusual to do online research on potential dating prospects after meeting them in-person. Low effort for potentially high reward. Personally, I haven't done that in years, as it lent itself towards depressive and anti-social tendencies, and have instead become good at asking the right questions and reading people instead.