Should a woman's social media dissuade me from dating her?
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Anonymous
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Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.
I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her? |
Anonymous
| I think it is okay if they are 5 posts that naturally come up in a day or with a little effort. If there is too much time put into making things for social media, move on. |
Anonymous
| Obviously it bothers you so you have your answer. It doesn’t matter if we think it’s ok. |
Anonymous
| way too many-seeking attention. |
Anonymous
| Give it a shot. It’s not like you have a ticking biological clock. |
Anonymous
It would be nice to meet someone who has a few posts of family and friends, some food, nice vacation pics, modest selfies and maybe a couple of swimsuit photos. That is rare. |
Anonymous
| I have a coworker who is fairly attractive. We started following each other on Instagram and I saw that she had no fewer than 30 posts in the gym with her derriere poking out. I would have never guessed this about her. |
Anonymous
| What’s an excessive number of followers? If it’s in the thousands does that potentially signal this person is doing other types of activity? “Only fans” for example? I met someone very attractive recently whose account is private so I can’t see what they post but the number of followers is over 5k. Im older so I don’t really do social media. Should I be concerned ? |
Anonymous
| I’d pass |
Anonymous
| The social media narcissism is out of control... |
Anonymous
| "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." |
Anonymous
| If she's posting that much, she's likely addicted to SM. There are problems beyond attention seeking/thirst trap posting. |
Anonymous
Yep. She’s a thirsty attention seeker. That type of behavior is going to come out in other ways. |
Anonymous
| Are you just generally asking what men think about this? You don't really sound like a guy asking about a girl. Unless you're a woman dating other women then this makes more sense. But I don't think men are turned off by bikini pics. |
Anonymous
| You shouldn't date people you are already judging. And they definitely shouldn't date you. |