Should a woman's social media dissuade me from dating her?
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
| I get annoyed in public by random people constantly staging, posing, planning posts and can’t imagine dating one of those people. |
Anonymous
| Not from dating but maybe from marrying. Meanwhile enjoy the ride! |
Anonymous
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I was 4 dates into seeing a woman I really liked until she mentioned she hadn’t been honest about her career. She had said she was in “marketing” but made a 500k annual income as an influencer.
I make just more than half of what she does, so maybe I should have been impressed, but I don’t want to date someone who poses in her underwear online. |
Anonymous
| Would be an absolute non-starter for me. If I'm looking to date someone seriously, the focus/validation needs to be satisfied by each other. I'd have no interest in dating someone posing near nude, or in skin tight gym outfits multiple times a day just to get attention from a bunch of people she doesn't even know. Not my type of person. |
Anonymous
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On X, you can make money, a lot of money for posting. Some people turn it into a source of income.
Could Instagram be the same? Maybe she's making extra money that way. |
Anonymous
| You should pass. You will have to put up with her annoying habit forever. |
Anonymous
| Look, if your contempt for her specifically and young women in general come through half as clear in person, I don't think this is something you need to worry about. |
Anonymous
| I had a friend who dated an influencer type and he thought she was too annoying to date. She also had an eating disorder and it turned him off big time that she basically starved herself. She was constantly posting online. He just wanted a regular person, not an influencer. She also focused more on SM than her real job. |
Anonymous
| The internet was fairly new when I went to college. I knew a guy who dated someone who was somewhat of an online celebrity. Think insta model nowadays. He said she and her friends just took photos of one another when they went out and he couldn’t stand it. He said they were boring because they only cared about comments about how hot they were. |
Anonymous
| I would pass for sure. There are lots of women who aren’t attention seeking social media addicted thirst traps. |
Anonymous
| op - I work in social media and i get the judgement. I would frame it thus: WHY is she posting all this? Endless thirst trap photos are a means to an end. Are they a form of advertising for future mate? Cos that's kinda sad. Are they related to her brand? ie is she a public personality who is is camera facing? if the latter then totally understandable. I think the reason matters here. |
Anonymous
| I know it isn’t the same thing but I have a friend who is a mom influencer. I hate hanging out with her because we have to go somewhere new and trendy and she has to take a million photos and videos. She spends more time zooming in on food than focusing on our conversation. |
Anonymous
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A man’s social media could definitely be a turn off for me. A bunch of thirst traps and selfies would come across as desperate to me.
I imagine there are men that would feel the same way about women’s sm. |
Anonymous
| Pass |