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Impossible to find love as a minority woman
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Anonymous
The only relevant factor here is that you love to “party.” Men don’t marry party girls. Especially old ones. Doesn’t sound like you have learned anything from the personal development books. Reading business books is a huge red flag —screams shallow like party girls do. |
Anonymous
There are tall Indian men. I feel Indians are very classists. The rich ones are often the good looking tall smart ones and they marry very pretty, rich smart Indian women. OP sounds like she fits this but either didn’t want to marry a south Asian or she isn’t as pretty as she thinks. Maybe she has a bad nose or annoying voice or personality. We know a lot of Indian people and that demanding Indian accent tone would drive me nuts. |
Anonymous
Op sounds fine to me for someone in their twenties. She does not sound like someone that a well educated man would want to marry and settle down with. That is probably the problem. |
Anonymous
+1. OP reeks of status obsession. I think she is picking up guys who are similar but then they get tired of her shallowness. They also subconsciously be looking for a woman of their own background. |
Anonymous
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I don’t think this is about your ethnicity. If you want to date outside your race, it may be more difficult. I also don’t think it is about your degrees or income either.
It is a game of musical chairs and you are running out of chairs. I would recommend lowering your standards. The very pretty amazing I know who sound similar to you were able to meet, marry and have kids quickly. They all had a baby by age 35. |
Anonymous
| I am a 50 year old who went to a top 5 MBA a few decades ago. Most of my friends were on a mission to find a spouse during the two years they were there. I am surprised OP did not do that. |
Anonymous
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There is one d-bag guy on dcum who always says men don't care at all about whether a woman has a good job, good degree or money..... that apparently they just want someone "nice" and "kind" and "cute".
That guy is a nut and not living in reality (i mean, he's a dude who habitually hangs out on this forum). No better way to find a great, rich, good looking guy to marry than be an in JD or MBA class with him in your 20s. Guys absolutely place value on that shit. But I agree with other posters that by your 30s, the pool has shrunk and there's something about you that's turning them off. |
Anonymous
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If you are a dark skinned POC (Indian, black, dark-skinned Latina), please remember that white men ,in particular, age very poorly after about 35. I have POC girlfriends with white spouses and it looks like a May-December situation even though they are the same age (e.g., Kamala and Tim, who are the same age). If looks are important, seek out melanated guys -- they look great throughout the decades.
I bet you look fabulous. Truly beautiful +smart women (not sexy, many women can do that) have it really hard. Men want easy and want to be considered the prize. They can't do that with women who have $, looks and intelligence. Consider international. Try the arts scene, culture rather than finance. |
Anonymous
What an odd comment. I’m Asian American aging well to another Asian American aging better than me. Yes, his white colleagues do look older but they are still handsome and look distinguished. They are married to white and Asian women. Not many white men married to black or dark Indians in our circles. We do know black couples and Indian couples . |
Anonymous
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What were you doing in your twenties when everyone else was getting coupled up?
I’m sure you were invited to a lot of weddings. |
Anonymous
LOL! You’re holding up a top Bollywood actress as an example for regular women? |
Anonymous
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So you agree with me. I recommend that she date melanated men and to avoid non-melanated men. It's scientific fact (not opinion) that darker skin ages at a much slower rate. In some cases by 10 years. She appears to keeps herself up and probably wants to see herself reflected in her partner. There's nothing wrong with that.
Tim Walz is adorable, so no shade. But Kamala is next level and if OP is in that category she might want to look in the brown and black community for a partner. |
Anonymous
| Op sounds very shallow and may have an inflated sense of self worth |
Anonymous
| Why do you want him to be several inches taller, same or 1 inch low or high is fine too if its a nice and compatible person. |
Anonymous
She was miss world and married to Nick Jonas. I don’t know if my taste has changed or she has aged but she doesn’t look that good anymore and she is a Bollywood star. If she only looks attractive, how will an average person fare? I used to be a huge fan of Jennifer Aniston and she only looks average now. Granted she is in her fifties, not forties. |