Impossible to find love as a minority woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree. You need to save your time and energy. Acquaint yourself with options.

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I am an MBA. I know plenty of cross-cultural, cross-race marriages. I would say that in each, the wife usually has something "better" going on so the wife is a "catch". It could be traditional domesticity, it could be beauty, it could be the wife has the killer job and/or fancier degree, it could be inherited wealth. Also in these couples, the guy is kind of a nice guy, not a traditional alpha. Might still be a high-earner but more of an equal partner, hands-on-dad type.

You may be trying to only date guys who are your equal or somehow more elite. Given your credentials, such guys can afford to be picky. Perhaps consider someone who would feel lucky to date you. I'm wording that vaguely because there are so many possible criteria that you could choose to relax.

Very well said. The Indian women in my circles who marry White men are generally those who are considered great "catch". These women are usually well educated, good looking and they come from wealthier families than the man. Most of them have more assets and generational wealth than the White man. A good example would be Usha Vance and JD Vance.

[Anonymous]

If you keep dating men who have girlfriends or who want casual means you are not screening them properly when you meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 years old. MBA from an IVY. Worked and obtained by undergraduate education abroad. I am an ethnic minority. I am told I am beautiful all the time. I am 5'10, size 2, tan skin and long silky black hair. I love to travel for work and for fun. I am make 300k+ working in finance. The one part of my life that absolutely disappoints is my love life.

I keep dating men who have either secret girlfriends or they just want to date casually. My last boyfriend was a good catch. Great family, Ivy educated, good career but he was American and he broke up with me after a year saying I was too international and too "exotic" and he wants a "regular American girl" to bring home to his parents. I was pretty devastated. All of my hard work and education only to have men say I am not "regular" enough to date.

Can a high achieving minority find love in America?

every attractive ethnic minority woman i know (i'm a millennial) that was ivy, med/law/mba, got married at 25-27

your problem is your age.

ethnic women who know what's up know they don't have the same margin for error (age, party reputation etc) as their white sisters.

[Anonymous]

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Just being blunt, but you're not good looking enough. A man will be with a crazy women if she's hot enough. So, that's that. No one cares about your education or how much you make. Silly girls like you who think men care about that LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you only want to date White American men. You will always just be exotic to them and not "bring home" material. Who cares about your education and how much you make.
Most "All American" men who are very successful are looking for a white woman to present to the world.

Idk i was the first full blooded latina of my white boyfriends. Once they went latina with me they didn't go back. I broke a heart or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a successful resume…that’s great . I’d probably hire you in a second for a job. Am I going to want to date you based off of what you just said? Nope.

Men want someone who is nice, pretty and not some boss babe. Men don’t like that.

Your look Amy have something to do with it, but doubtful. Most white guys I know like Asian, Latino and Indian women. But it’s how you carry yourself and how you act.

I’m sure you’re great looking, but the men you’re going for - especially if they’re successful- have many options. They’re going to pick the ones that best suit their needs and that will be to have children and raise a family for most of them. Your successful education and career are great for choosing a long term partner, if that partner has the goals of being a good wife and mother too. And if you don’t want those think thats fine too, you will just not find a guy who wants something serious.

My guess is you’re either too bossy or masculine or you aren’t as pretty as you think. Think about what men really want as well. They want an attractive, fun, nice and young woman to have a family. That’s basically it

Says the beta.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What ethnic minority? Are you African or Indian?

I doubt it.
Indians always have the option of getting suitable matches through arranged marriage network.

+1
My nosy aunt is always trying to set people up regardless of whether they’re looking or not.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I am South Asian but do not have close family and I grew up across multiple continents so I am not very traditional and the arranged marriage market is not applicable to me.

My two serious boyfriends were of different races. One was German and the last one black American. I love white and black men as long as they’re successful and sophisticated.

For fun I love to travel and party although I’m slowing down as I get older. I love to read business and personal development books. I love yoga and working out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I am South Asian but do not have close family and I grew up across multiple continents so I am not very traditional and the arranged marriage market is not applicable to me.

My two serious boyfriends were of different races. One was German and the last one black American. I love white and black men as long as they’re successful and sophisticated.

For fun I love to travel and party although I’m slowing down as I get older. I love to read business and personal development books. I love yoga and working out.

You just need to broaden your prospects. There are tons of successful, educated, wealthy women in the DC area and fewer men who meet their criteria. The ones who do have no shortage of women in their 20s to date. It’s just the reality.

[Anonymous]

If OP is Indian … lots of Indian girls are HOT HOT HOT in early mid 20s

And the looks of Indian women takes a huge nosedive late 20s to 30s. By 40s those former hotties are just untouchable

Ivy League is not going to compensate. You might want to try finding a fellow desi boy highly educated and qualified maybe not too good looking but good family material. Love will grow if you allow it to … vs live a life of resentment that you didn’t get that IVY Chad that you are seeking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I am South Asian but do not have close family and I grew up across multiple continents so I am not very traditional and the arranged marriage market is not applicable to me.

My two serious boyfriends were of different races. One was German and the last one black American. I love white and black men as long as they’re successful and sophisticated.

For fun I love to travel and party although I’m slowing down as I get older. I love to read business and personal development books. I love yoga and working out.

Dang I know someone who is looking. He’s 5’8 though but also successful (PHD)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP is Indian … lots of Indian girls are HOT HOT HOT in early mid 20s

And the looks of Indian women takes a huge nosedive late 20s to 30s. By 40s those former hotties are just untouchable

Ivy League is not going to compensate. You might want to try finding a fellow desi boy highly educated and qualified maybe not too good looking but good family material. Love will grow if you allow it to … vs live a life of resentment that you didn’t get that IVY Chad that you are seeking

This is not true. Priyankas hold up just fine

[Anonymous]

You seem obsessed with “ivy” status when you should be trying to be a human connecting with other humans. Maybe therein lies your problem. You seem proof positive that education is not the same thing as intellect.

[Anonymous]

People who care about so-called status are dull AF.