Is dating a total nightmare right now?

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Only for short fat men.

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I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

lol…

A majority of women on the dating market aren’t doing that and it shows.

Don’t care if you “don’t look your age”, reality is you do. It’s shows.
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Men value looks. It’s like the top thing. Then it’s are you nice and sweet. No man has ever wanted an older woman over a hot younger woman. I mean if you’re in your upper 30s to 45 you’re still in the f*ckzone doe most guys. FWBs at best. Even as a guy in their 40s I still always date younger because I can. I’ll hook up with women in their 40s but won’t be exclusive.

Well, we're all impressed. The great thing about older women, generally, is they don't care if they are in some douche's "Fu---zone." In case you're wondering, you're the douche. (FTR, I'm married so no dog in this fight).

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

That’s what I did (mid 40s woman). I recalled that actually in my 20s there were periods I was single and just enjoying my life. For up to 2 years in between serous boyfriends ! And I haven’t died from sex deprivation, even though there were no toys for women back then. I dated boys that life brought my way

Now that I’m off the apps, my life has become more rich, professionally rewarding and I don’t think much or define myself through a constant search for a man

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

lol…

A majority of women on the dating market aren’t doing that and it shows.

Don’t care if you “don’t look your age”, reality is you do. It’s shows.
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Men value looks. It’s like the top thing. Then it’s are you nice and sweet. No man has ever wanted an older woman over a hot younger woman. I mean if you’re in your upper 30s to 45 you’re still in the f*ckzone doe most guys. FWBs at best. Even as a guy in their 40s I still always date younger because I can. I’ll hook up with women in their 40s but won’t be exclusive.

Pp here. I honestly wouldn't date a 40 something yr old bachelor who is misogynistic like you are. Who wants an immature 40 something man who is probably wrinkled and sagging? As for me I'm thankful for genetics and health to keep me looking good but I have always dated younger hotter men and turned down a few proposals. My current wants to marry me too and even wants kids. He's young hot and hung lol

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

That’s what I did (mid 40s woman). I recalled that actually in my 20s there were periods I was single and just enjoying my life. For up to 2 years in between serous boyfriends ! And I haven’t died from sex deprivation, even though there were no toys for women back then. I dated boys that life brought my way

Now that I’m off the apps, my life has become more rich, professionally rewarding and I don’t think much or define myself through a constant search for a man

I'm this PP and totally agree. My biggest life regret is how much time I spent with my self-esteem in the gutter and feeling like these women in my early 30s. It was simply not worth being that unhappy about. Five years of therapy later, my therapist graduated me and I feel no pull to be married any more. I am the most content I've ever been and feel exceptionally grateful for my current life circumstance. I have ocassional moments of feeling a bit lonely, I worry about when my parents pass as I'm an only child, but those are fleeting. And I know being coupled is far from perfect. I have a lot of love in my life, friends like family, and "finding a man" at all costs hasn't been a thing in my life for a long time. I'm open to a partner, I'd love to be loved that way, but I no longer feel like my life is worthless because I'm not coupled. My biggest wish for younger women is not waste the years that I did crying over men.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

Very well said. Your post perfectly describes the problem with my generation, particularly women. There's a great lack of self-awareness in that regard as most of us (Gen Z) grew up with the apps, not the experiences you described.

I'm glad to be off the apps. They're terrible for most men's self-esteem and women are caught in a loop of perpetually weighing their options ("dating") that you described. While I don't doubt there are success stories to be had, by and large, dating apps keep people single.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

You captured OLD well. People who do OLD are approaching it like applying for jobs. With each rejection or nonresponse comes more desperation, I’d imagine.

To regain sanity, we need to get back into the real world.

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Always terrible!

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

Very well said. Your post perfectly describes the problem with my generation, particularly women. There's a great lack of self-awareness in that regard as most of us (Gen Z) grew up with the apps, not the experiences you described.

I'm glad to be off the apps. They're terrible for most men's self-esteem and women are caught in a loop of perpetually weighing their options ("dating") that you described. While I don't doubt there are success stories to be had, by and large, dating apps keep people single.

Gen Z - you are max of 27. What happened to college dating? Why do you post on a parent board?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying.

You captured OLD well. People who do OLD are approaching it like applying for jobs. With each rejection or nonresponse comes more desperation, I’d imagine.

To regain sanity, we need to get back into the real world.

Honestly that’s the advice even around here - it’s numbers game.

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Anonymous wrote:Always terrible!

It wasn’t always terrible, if you met someone you liked and decided to go out with them. If you approach it like a job interview, it’s terrible.

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OLD i heard is very tough for Black men.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

Are you Asian? They hit a wall at 35 and look really old. Indian women tend to start looking bad after 25 or so.

Latino women age the best if they’re upper class. The lower class ones are usually overweight and not attractive.

What sort of racial trope nonsense is this?

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

She is literally 1 in 100,000. Most of the 40-50s moms I know look like and elephant who swallowed a buffalo.