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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the problem is that, with the rise of dating apps, dating has become a personality for a ton of people. Especially for women. I'm just old enough to remember when we all had crushes, we all went out on dates on occasion, we had boyfriends now and then, people got married. BUT we didn't talk about dating every single minute of ever day. We were not "dating." We were living life and sometimes we had a crush, sometimes we met someone and they asked out, sometimes that led to a relationship.

But "dating" wasn't a personality. Its always cause people a certain amount of heartache and strife, but it wasn't the constant wave of disappointment and self-esteem ruining insanity because we went on three dates a week and none of them worked out.

People need to get a grip on this and find a life to live that doesn't involve pursuing 50 people on the dating app at the same time and scheduling 4 dates a week. They'd be so much happier realizing there is a big, beautiful world out there with lots of joy to be had if they would just stop swiping and crying. [/quote]

That’s what I did (mid 40s woman). I recalled that actually in my 20s there were periods I was single and just enjoying my life. For up to 2 years in between serous boyfriends ! And I haven’t died from sex deprivation, even though there were no toys for women back then. I dated boys that life brought my way

Now that I’m off the apps, my life has become more rich, professionally rewarding and I don’t think much or define myself through a constant search for a man [/quote]

I'm this PP and totally agree. My biggest life regret is how much time I spent with my self-esteem in the gutter and feeling like these women in my early 30s. It was simply not worth being that unhappy about. Five years of therapy later, my therapist graduated me and I feel no pull to be married any more. I am the most content I've ever been and feel exceptionally grateful for my current life circumstance. I have ocassional moments of feeling a bit lonely, I worry about when my parents pass as I'm an only child, but those are fleeting. And I know being coupled is far from perfect. I have a lot of love in my life, friends like family, and "finding a man" at all costs hasn't been a thing in my life for a long time. I'm open to a partner, I'd love to be loved that way, but I no longer feel like my life is worthless because I'm not coupled. My biggest wish for younger women is not waste the years that I did crying over men. [/quote]

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