Is dating a total nightmare right now?

[Anonymous]

“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

If that's the case then no wonder women are losing interest in dating entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

How the heck would one know how hot he's dated in the past?

Anyway who would want to date a scuzzy guy who had 100 past hookups?

Also my ex who was attractive and successful ended with a younger but fatter unemployed woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

My boyfriend had a ton of ex hookups and interest from girls but for some reason wanted to be very serious with me very fast. He certainly has other options but committed to me and no I'm not rich nor do I have a perfect body, etc. Sometimes love is just love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

Yes it happened today again. An 18 yr old kid approached me. Guess you look too old to be approached huh?

Describe your outfit today

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

My boyfriend had a ton of ex hookups and interest from girls but for some reason wanted to be very serious with me very fast. He certainly has other options but committed to me and no I'm not rich nor do I have a perfect body, etc. Sometimes love is just love.

Might be he was looking for a rebound

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“For her part, Haas wants to be more proactive about flirting IRL by complimenting hot men she sees at the grocery store or in a coffee shop.”

I wonder how hot these men are, if they’re genuinely hot and those are the only guys she puts in effort with then that’s probably her issue. Maybe she should try complimenting the not as hot men too.

Men are only as loyal as their options, if you want a guy to commit you have to make him think you’re a catch and that he’ll have a hard time doing better. This often means being slightly out of his league in looks. If you look and act exactly the same as his past 100 hookups then you’re going to be stuck in the f***zone. You need to differentiate yourself, either be less basic or hotter than all the other chicks he’s used to.

My boyfriend had a ton of ex hookups and interest from girls but for some reason wanted to be very serious with me very fast. He certainly has other options but committed to me and no I'm not rich nor do I have a perfect body, etc. Sometimes love is just love.

Might be he was looking for a rebound

He wasn't, no serious breakup with the past few months of us meeting. Although I know the sexless men love to fantasize about chad never catching feelings and sleeping with every woman all over town, the reality is most "chads" end up settling down, marrying, caring deeply about one woman. I know that ruins the Penthouse Forum scenario you have written out in your mind but attractive men settle down and commit all the time

[Anonymous]

Dating through OLD is terrible. A lot of men can’t hold a normal conversation. The spark you may feel in person rarely translates in OLD. Younger generations aren’t asking people out in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Influencers tend to be obnoxious with a touch of narcissism. Putting your life’s ups and down out there for anyone to see says a lot about yourself. Dating has never been easy much social media just adds fuel to the fire.

Every person who posts on Tiktok is not an influencer. That chick has less than 5k followers and less than 9 posts on her page, definitely not an influencer. She's just a woman telling her story. I don't get on social media and tell my life stories, but I also don't knock those who do. Times have changed and this is how millennials and gen z choose to find community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right now?

Dating has always been a shit sandwich, occasionally with a thin spread of something seemingly more-palatable (like genuine connection), until, of course, you realize it's on a shit sandwich.

College is the best time to meet. You are more likely to be on the same page. After that, there are so many weirdos with so many problems and baffling behavior. Maybe that’s why they’re still on the market.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Influencers tend to be obnoxious with a touch of narcissism. Putting your life’s ups and down out there for anyone to see says a lot about yourself. Dating has never been easy much social media just adds fuel to the fire.

Every person who posts on Tiktok is not an influencer. That chick has less than 5k followers and less than 9 posts on her page, definitely not an influencer. She's just a woman telling her story. I don't get on social media and tell my life stories, but I also don't knock those who do. Times have changed and this is how millennials and gen z choose to find community.

Yes, but she's gotten some national attention so every guy has to worry about her complaining about them on a national stage. You treat those women like coworkers, talk about the basics but never open up too much or it will come back to bite you later.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Influencers tend to be obnoxious with a touch of narcissism. Putting your life’s ups and down out there for anyone to see says a lot about yourself. Dating has never been easy much social media just adds fuel to the fire.

Every person who posts on Tiktok is not an influencer. That chick has less than 5k followers and less than 9 posts on her page, definitely not an influencer. She's just a woman telling her story. I don't get on social media and tell my life stories, but I also don't knock those who do. Times have changed and this is how millennials and gen z choose to find community.

Exactly. She had hardly any followers when she posted it, the tiktok algorithm is just really good and picks up on interesting content and makes it go viral regardless of whether they had lots of followers to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Dating has always been hard. Sometimes it’s a bit more depending on where you’re at in life.

I have many friends who actually really enjoy it and love the ease of being able to do it online.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid