Is dating a total nightmare right now?

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:It hasn’t been a nightmare for me. I’m 52, decent looking, sane, successful, know which fork to use, well read and can carry on an intelligent conversation. I’m also smart enough to never talk badly about my ex. While it’s not a nightmare it is hard to meet someone who I’m really compatible and interested in for something long term. Short term relationships have been fun and sexually very fulfilling but they run their course. I’m not anti remarry so I hope that air do get lucky.

If you're a woman no guy cares you're well read and can use the correct fork. I mean those are nice bonuses. Guys like you to be good looking, friendly and affectionate.

I’m the PP and I’m a guy. I do think women like someone with brains and good manners. I look for the same in a woman plus other things.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

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Anonymous wrote:It hasn’t been a nightmare for me. I’m 52, decent looking, sane, successful, know which fork to use, well read and can carry on an intelligent conversation. I’m also smart enough to never talk badly about my ex. While it’s not a nightmare it is hard to meet someone who I’m really compatible and interested in for something long term. Short term relationships have been fun and sexually very fulfilling but they run their course. I’m not anti remarry so I hope that air do get lucky.

If you're a woman no guy cares you're well read and can use the correct fork. I mean those are nice bonuses. Guys like you to be good looking, friendly and affectionate.

I’m the PP and I’m a guy. I do think women like someone with brains and good manners. I look for the same in a woman plus other things.

I'm a guy and I care about good manners, too. But it's more basic things, like saying "you're welcome" or not chewing with her mouth open. Knowing which fork to use isn't manners, it's etiquette, which I (personally) care a lot less about.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

Young guys approach anything with a pulse. They are trying to get laid. They don’t care how hold you are. I’m sure you look beautiful and young, etc. but young guys approaching you is not a measuring stick ya know?

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Anonymous wrote:Dating is easier for men today because a lot of men for whatever reasons don't have a lot going for themselves. If you stand out you will be fine. And I am not talking about shallow physical threats like eye color, height, jawline, muscles etc...if you can hold conversations have good hobbies besides watching sports and drinking beer you are automatically in the top 10% yes the bar is that low. Now if you are looking for an 21 year old chick thats a different story you need 6 packs

Sigh. I can’t wait until school is back in session.

I think this is accurate. Women have horror stories. The bar is low, it seems.

-42 year old guy

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

Young guys approach anything with a pulse. They are trying to get laid. They don’t care how hold you are. I’m sure you look beautiful and young, etc. but young guys approaching you is not a measuring stick ya know?

This is very true and many women think it’s because they still look young and hot. As a former 23 year old male any decent looking 35+ woman who flirted a bit was considered “target rich”. Then when you connect with someone your own age the party is over. This isn’t a new reality. The young tennis pro story is alive and well.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

Young guys approach anything with a pulse. They are trying to get laid. They don’t care how hold you are. I’m sure you look beautiful and young, etc. but young guys approaching you is not a measuring stick ya know?

This is very true and many women think it’s because they still look young and hot. As a former 23 year old male any decent looking 35+ woman who flirted a bit was considered “target rich”. Then when you connect with someone your own age the party is over. This isn’t a new reality. The young tennis pro story is alive and well.

Dang we need to meet. Hotness guaranteed here and you won't believe I'm my age.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

lol…

A majority of women on the dating market aren’t doing that and it shows.

Don’t care if you “don’t look your age”, reality is you do. It’s shows.
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Men value looks. It’s like the top thing. Then it’s are you nice and sweet. No man has ever wanted an older woman over a hot younger woman. I mean if you’re in your upper 30s to 45 you’re still in the f*ckzone doe most guys. FWBs at best. Even as a guy in their 40s I still always date younger because I can. I’ll hook up with women in their 40s but won’t be exclusive.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

Are you Asian? They hit a wall at 35 and look really old. Indian women tend to start looking bad after 25 or so.

Latino women age the best if they’re upper class. The lower class ones are usually overweight and not attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

Do you really need to post this in every dating thread?

Me, too.

Lol I was going to ask the same thing

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting article from The Cut: https://web.archive.org/web/20240615224640/https://www.thecut.com/article/tiktok-videos-single-women-crying.html

I'd be curious to hear people's thoughts on this, especially those who are actively on the dating scene.

Of course it's a nightmare. It always has been and probably always will be.

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Anonymous wrote:I think its also more difficult today because men have been discouraged from approaching women in public.

Boys in their 20s have still approached me. I'm 42 but appear younger and I am attractive .

I believe you believe it.

There’s one of these on every thread. I will share that I turn 42 next week and I look like a wreck. The only thing going for me is I’m thin but that is probably making my face worse.

You probably look better than the 42 years old woman who said she was approached by an 18 years old kid

NP. What strange assertion to make... because women are never allowed or supposed to be aware of their own attractiveness or sexual power?

Do you have or know older teens? Are you in your 40s (or have friends in their early 40s)? The scenario is so unbelievable that I think PP is saying that poster is a troll.

Why is it so unbelievable? Tiktok is going crazy over Nicola Coughlin ATM because no one can believe she's in her late 30s. There are plenty of people who look younger than their age, just as some look older. Why is that so crazy?

lol, ok, but I am back here in the real world. (And now we’’ve shifted back from 42 to 37. Ok.)

Yeah that is not a big difference. The difference is I am not white, I have good genetics, I have no white hair, I'm thin with curves. The new miss texas candidate is 70 and is hot and excellent looking. She's been taking care of her body since her 20s. It can happen people

lol…

A majority of women on the dating market aren’t doing that and it shows.

Don’t care if you “don’t look your age”, reality is you do. It’s shows.
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Men value looks. It’s like the top thing. Then it’s are you nice and sweet. No man has ever wanted an older woman over a hot younger woman. I mean if you’re in your upper 30s to 45 you’re still in the f*ckzone doe most guys. FWBs at best. Even as a guy in their 40s I still always date younger because I can. I’ll hook up with women in their 40s but won’t be exclusive.

Why do you hook up with women you find unattractive ? Do you tell women over 39 yo that you only look for casual with them when you introduce yourself on the app and before sleeping ?