Did anyone's kids NOT get into a frat or sorority - one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can another incoming freshman blackball you if they're close w a frat brother or sorority sister?

Yes. But it’s not the freshman , it’s the people in the house who decide to listen to that information and be dumb about it.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t get a bid, back in the 90s, at college with a very strong Greek culture. Twenty years later, I was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum. In hindsight, I was really weird.

But I found other activities and friends, and a boyfriend who was in a fraternity (so I got to go to a few parties and formals) and I really enjoyed college. And I’m doing just fine as an adult.

Greek life can be a lot of fun. But it’s not the be-all, end-all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a nephew at Big South University and likely because he was out of state and not hyper/local. Top fraternities are for in-staters only. My brother (his dad) was shocked as we attended same SLAC w/o Greek system.

I don't think it's a south thing. Wisconsin has a few Jewish/East coast ones and then a bunch are mostly for local/chicago or in-state. Just as an example. Similar at Indiana per PP

Very similar at Michigan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin's kid got blackballed. She was a triple legacy at one sorority and didn't get it and the other sororities blackballed her too. Apparently the girls from her hometown at the various sororities didn't like her and blackballed her everywhere.

I get the feeling she's the mean popular girl type. She also has brothers rather than sisters and is the adored girl in the family so she's probably a pick me type.

Did she end up happy?

She came home after first semester, took a semester off, and transferred to a tier 100 SLAC. She had an ok experience there.

That is sad. So many didn't like her??

Beyond sad. Holy shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Sororities and fraternities are not needed for a successful path through college and beyond.

Sorry you didn't get a bid, geed.

[Anonymous]

Where's a good place to research greek life on campus (Cornell)?

Greekrank.com?

Where else?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a nephew at Big South University and likely because he was out of state and not hyper/local. Top fraternities are for in-staters only. My brother (his dad) was shocked as we attended same SLAC w/o Greek system.

I don't think it's a south thing. Wisconsin has a few Jewish/East coast ones and then a bunch are mostly for local/chicago or in-state. Just as an example. Similar at Indiana per PP

Very similar at Michigan.

So if you don't get into the Jewish ones (assuming you're Jewish) then choices are limited?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can another incoming freshman blackball you if they're close w a frat brother or sorority sister?

Yes. But it’s not the freshman , it’s the people in the house who decide to listen to that information and be dumb about it.

If the freshman has past issues with another kid rushing, and they tell the older brother, then they might be screwed. Correct?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can another incoming freshman blackball you if they're close w a frat brother or sorority sister?

Yes. But it’s not the freshman , it’s the people in the house who decide to listen to that information and be dumb about it.

If the freshman has past issues with another kid rushing, and they tell the older brother, then they might be screwed. Correct?

Yes. I know girls who were told up front that they wouldn’t get xyz house because of things that happened in high school with current members who will block them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Sororities and fraternities are not needed for a successful path through college and beyond.

Sorry you didn't get a bid, geed.

You post this on every thread about Greek life. You’re like a one hit wonder.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can another incoming freshman blackball you if they're close w a frat brother or sorority sister?

Yes. But it’s not the freshman , it’s the people in the house who decide to listen to that information and be dumb about it.

If the freshman has past issues with another kid rushing, and they tell the older brother, then they might be screwed. Correct?

Yes. I know girls who were told up front that they wouldn’t get xyz house because of things that happened in high school with current members who will block them.

Sometimes the moms hold grudges and will instigate this even if the issues are in the past or resolved

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

This.
Very common.

This is much more common than every single house collectively choosing not to issue an invitation to the same girl.
Far more likely that the girl made up her mind what house she wanted and then was devastated when they didn’t invite her back, and didn’t feel like giving the other groups that did want her a chance to win her over.

Again with this. So rude.

Houses pick girls: “that’s the way it works!”

Girls pick houses “ she’s so entitled and only wanted one popular house” (despite zero evidence)

My daughter dropped out of rush at the end. She was only left with 2 sororities that were basically weird or nerdy girls. Not her vibe. Sorry, but that is the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

This.
Very common.

This is much more common than every single house collectively choosing not to issue an invitation to the same girl.
Far more likely that the girl made up her mind what house she wanted and then was devastated when they didn’t invite her back, and didn’t feel like giving the other groups that did want her a chance to win her over.

Again with this. So rude.

Houses pick girls: “that’s the way it works!”

Girls pick houses “ she’s so entitled and only wanted one popular house” (despite zero evidence)

My daughter dropped out of rush at the end. She was only left with 2 sororities that were basically weird or nerdy girls. Not her vibe. Sorry, but that is the truth.

As a weird, nerdy girl myself, it's probably for the best all around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happened to a nephew at Big South University and likely because he was out of state and not hyper/local. Top fraternities are for in-staters only. My brother (his dad) was shocked as we attended same SLAC w/o Greek system.

I don't think it's a south thing. Wisconsin has a few Jewish/East coast ones and then a bunch are mostly for local/chicago or in-state. Just as an example. Similar at Indiana per PP

Very similar at Michigan.

So if you don't get into the Jewish ones (assuming you're Jewish) then choices are limited?

My DD is in the Jewish sorority and we are wasps. I think it is 60% Jewish. It is one of the top sororities at her school and she is having a good time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

This.
Very common.

This is much more common than every single house collectively choosing not to issue an invitation to the same girl.
Far more likely that the girl made up her mind what house she wanted and then was devastated when they didn’t invite her back, and didn’t feel like giving the other groups that did want her a chance to win her over.

Again with this. So rude.

Houses pick girls: “that’s the way it works!”

Girls pick houses “ she’s so entitled and only wanted one popular house” (despite zero evidence)

My daughter dropped out of rush at the end. She was only left with 2 sororities that were basically weird or nerdy girls. Not her vibe. Sorry, but that is the truth.

As a weird, nerdy girl myself, it's probably for the best all around.

Yes, I agree. It is a social club. You should be with people you want to hang out with in your free time.