Did anyone's kids NOT get into a frat or sorority - one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought Indiana did away with bed rush and uses RFM/quota now?

Can you explain what this means? My daughter is going to Indiana next year and wants to join a sorority. I was not in one and do not know how to advise her, but I’m glad it’s not until 2nd semester. Does this mean that all of the girls do now receive a bid but they used to not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Hasn't happened yet but worrying ahead of time because rush happens quickly and over summer. Seems a very stressful start to school. Didn't think it all through.

Each school is different. Some guarantee that you will get a bid, while others do not. What school is she going to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Hasn't happened yet but worrying ahead of time because rush happens quickly and over summer. Seems a very stressful start to school. Didn't think it all through.

Each school is different. Some guarantee that you will get a bid, while others do not. What school is she going to?

I've never heard of a school guaranteeing a bid? Which ones?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

[Anonymous]

Boys have issues too. Especially introverted ones

[Anonymous]

It happens ALLA the time but there are generally plenty of options if the kid is not set on one. They have to have an open mind.

My Dd was cut after the first day by my sorority and two that she had close friends in. She was heartbroken but ended up at the right place for her and two years later, she can’t imagine being in any other sorority.

[Anonymous]

All not alla (iPhone)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

Or sometimes it means they just got down to one they didn’t feel was a good fit. Try not taking a mean girl approach to your hypothetical reasons other people do things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Hasn't happened yet but worrying ahead of time because rush happens quickly and over summer. Seems a very stressful start to school. Didn't think it all through.

Each school is different. Some guarantee that you will get a bid, while others do not. What school is she going to?

I've never heard of a school guaranteeing a bid? Which ones?

Tufts used to guarantee bids, last I checked (2018-ish)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

Or sometimes it means they just got down to one they didn’t feel was a good fit. Try not taking a mean girl approach to your hypothetical reasons other people do things.

They don’t know it’s a good fit or not, it’s just not cool enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes girls will say they didn’t get in anywhere but they just mean they didn’t get into as popular of a sorority as they wanted and dropped rush instead

Or sometimes it means they just got down to one they didn’t feel was a good fit. Try not taking a mean girl approach to your hypothetical reasons other people do things.

They don’t know it’s a good fit or not, it’s just not cool enough.

The entire point of rush week is getting to know each other and choosing girls with snap judgments like speed dating. If a house can drop you why isn’t it ok for the girls to do the same? Two way street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin's kid got blackballed. She was a triple legacy at one sorority and didn't get it and the other sororities blackballed her too. Apparently the girls from her hometown at the various sororities didn't like her and blackballed her everywhere.

I get the feeling she's the mean popular girl type. She also has brothers rather than sisters and is the adored girl in the family so she's probably a pick me type.

I really hope you are a 20-year-old typing this, PP.
Otherwise, you are much too old to be speaking this way about a young girl.

Sadly, I feel certain you are an adult (use of the word “blackballed” isn’t common among the younger set who probably has no context for that), but to use the phrase “pick me” type is just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousin's kid got blackballed. She was a triple legacy at one sorority and didn't get it and the other sororities blackballed her too. Apparently the girls from her hometown at the various sororities didn't like her and blackballed her everywhere.

I get the feeling she's the mean popular girl type. She also has brothers rather than sisters and is the adored girl in the family so she's probably a pick me type.

Did she end up happy?

She came home after first semester, took a semester off, and transferred to a tier 100 SLAC. She had an ok experience there.

[Anonymous]

Sorority trolls are out tonight.