Having a baby to cement marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t listen to these random people on DCUM. It’s only natural to want to have a child with someone you love. As long as you have financial means and a good father material partner, nothing can stop you. Own your decision!

Says someone who did it and so happy that I never let fear mongering people stop me. Think about it this way: none of us is getting any younger. Will you regret that you didn’t do it when you could? If the answer is yes, then just go for it!

How many baby daddies do you have now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can always ask my ex who is about to have 3 kids with 3 different women. He's a catch!

He didn't cement every marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t listen to these random people on DCUM. It’s only natural to want to have a child with someone you love. As long as you have financial means and a good father material partner, nothing can stop you. Own your decision!

Says someone who did it and so happy that I never let fear mongering people stop me. Think about it this way: none of us is getting any younger. Will you regret that you didn’t do it when you could? If the answer is yes, then just go for it!

It always amuses me when people say not to listen to random people on DCUM, except them of course. Lol!

It's not just about age, it's the fact that their are other children and family dynamics involved. This isn't just a couple who got together late in life and are debating having children.


Also OP doesn't want a child. Her fiance doesn't want a child. OP wants a child because she's. HAving a baby to fix your insecurity is not a good idea.

[Anonymous]

How big of a catch is he OP? Do you want to "cement" this marriage so if anything we're to happen to him, you would get more of his estate because of the baby?

[Anonymous]

Were, not we're

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gross, do not have a child with him when he already has a 26 year old.

If you need to baby trap a man, your relationship is not as strong as you think it is.

This. OP tries to put some sort of nice spin on it but clearly she is worried that her second marriage might fail. Please don't do this to HIS THREE other children. They probably resent you already. Stop trying to go full step-monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused.

Did your existing children “cement” the previous marriages?

Right? She a conniving person. That is clear.

[Anonymous]

No way. Go “cement” your marriage by traveling biz class together on a European vacation, instead of waking up 5x per night and changing diapers.

Having a baby now will seriously impact your husband’s retirement. He’s going to have to remain in the workforce for at least another decade. He will likely work until he dies.

Sounds miserable.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I’d also like to say our relationship is amazing. I don’t want a baby because it’s rocky. I’m considering it because we have the same values and I really admire him as a father. I didn’t have that with my first marriage. I think I would enjoy raising a child with him.

But then who's raising your 8-year-old? His 16-year-old? Oh right. You are raising children already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t listen to these random people on DCUM. It’s only natural to want to have a child with someone you love. As long as you have financial means and a good father material partner, nothing can stop you. Own your decision!

Says someone who did it and so happy that I never let fear mongering people stop me. Think about it this way: none of us is getting any younger. Will you regret that you didn’t do it when you could? If the answer is yes, then just go for it!

Thanks for sharing your story. How old were you and DH when you the baby? Are there any drawbacks you are experiencing?

I was slightly younger than OP, DH was almost 10 years elder than OP’s fiancé. The infant years were always hard, sometimes we wondered whether it was too crazy to do this all over again. But our child is just an angel, who makes everything worthwhile. The child ‘cemented’ everything together: us, older half siblings, families and friends who doubted us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t listen to these random people on DCUM. It’s only natural to want to have a child with someone you love. As long as you have financial means and a good father material partner, nothing can stop you. Own your decision!

Says someone who did it and so happy that I never let fear mongering people stop me. Think about it this way: none of us is getting any younger. Will you regret that you didn’t do it when you could? If the answer is yes, then just go for it!

Thanks for sharing your story. How old were you and DH when you the baby? Are there any drawbacks you are experiencing?

I was slightly younger than OP, DH was almost 10 years elder than OP’s fiancé. The infant years were always hard, sometimes we wondered whether it was too crazy to do this all over again. But our child is just an angel, who makes everything worthwhile. The child ‘cemented’ everything together: us, older half siblings, families and friends who doubted us.

So you in your mid-30s decided to have a baby with a 60-year-old man, and it was just the infant years that were hard and everybody just loves everything now. Why do people lie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m engaged to a wonderful man. This will be a second marriage for both of us. We each have children from our first marriages. My fiancé is an excellent father. It’s one of the things I love most about him. We are both older and have said we are good with no more kids. His youngest is almost an adult.

For some reason I’ve been contemplating us trying for one more kid as a way to cement the marriage. I’m realizing I associate marriage very closely with raising children. I know my fiancé would go along with another kid if I wanted it, even though he is now a grandpa. Is my thinking here insane?

Bad troll post.

Bit off way more than you can chew OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh gosh, no; enjoy this sweet period if you’d life. Why start over? I can’t even imagine.

Agree. Outlandish troll post. Op must be super young and immature and running out of feasible fake material. Thank god.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He didn't get a vasectomy?!

Great gotcha comment for the troll.

No he just loves condoms that much.