Do I need to lower my expectations ( dating)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

What a gross post. I'd love to see your "stats" so we can judge you.

It's realistic, not gross post. She's not thin enough! Good earning men in my circle all married very thin taller women (5'5-5'8 usually). Especially men who are on a shorter side (5'6-5'11) - they absolutely prefer marrying taller women to have taller sons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

What a gross post. I'd love to see your "stats" so we can judge you.

It's realistic, not gross post. She's not thin enough! Good earning men in my circle all married very thin taller women (5'5-5'8 usually). Especially men who are on a shorter side (5'6-5'11) - they absolutely prefer marrying taller women to have taller sons.

Seems like i know more quality men than you do, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lower your age requirements. Look for a guy who lives alone and is willing to make a decision on marriage within 1 year. Plus no kids, never married. Older guy pool may be too small.

Roommates shouldn't be a deal breaker. They are economically efficient.

Look for JD or MBA grads and their friends. They should generally have their $hit together a little more than typical DC males.
At least they’ll be done with their terminal degree. Watch out for grad debt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

BMI for 5’2 female is 106-130. 105 is underweight for her height. OP is fine at 118.

[Anonymous]

You have reasonable expectations. I would expand your age range to the very edge of what you’re comfortable with. My DH and I were both online for years but didn’t meet because I was 6 months older and two miles further away than his limits.

I’d also look at guys who live with roommates. Smart guys do it to save money.

I’d ask a close female friend for constructive feedback about how you present. You can’t do anything about being 5’2”, and your ideal guy will love that about you. You might have blind spots in how your appearance or social skills that you can change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

Are you a woman or a man? Most men like shorter women, not tall. The vast majority of women are 5’5 and shorter. Taller women have much harder times dating and finding a partner. I don’t think you know what men want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

What a gross post. I'd love to see your "stats" so we can judge you.

It's realistic, not gross post. She's not thin enough! Good earning men in my circle all married very thin taller women (5'5-5'8 usually). Especially men who are on a shorter side (5'6-5'11) - they absolutely prefer marrying taller women to have taller sons.

Seems like i know more quality men than you do, then.

She never said they were quality men. She said they have enough money and willingness to support a SAHM, which seems to be a priority for OP. My husband could support us, but we both agreed that we both want to work for a million different reasons. I did take extended (mostly unpaid) maternity leaves, but my career is important to me.

[Anonymous]

I would expand your age range and I would t be not seeing people because of things like roommates. You need to find a good compatible partner for you, someone you can grow with. Not living off credit cards, making a solid income with decent career prospects is a good place to start but you should expect someone to have it all the way together, someone of that you can do together if they have a good foundation.

Also, the level of income you are looking for if you want to live in an area like this and stay at home or be part time AND have your kids go to private school is REALLY high. I would very much lower your bars there. It takes a realllly high income to pay for private school for multiple kids. And this area has many great public schools. I would check your assumptions and try to focus more on compatibility, THEN do those mental checks about finances being sound etc (not living on credit cards etc). If you’re starting with the check boxes you’re probably missing the comparability and connection piece limiting your dates from going further

[Anonymous]

Shouldn’t expect someone***

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I wouldn't exclude guys with roommates, expand the age up to 39.

I also would try to get your BMI to under 20. You are almost 22 it's too thick for your age - I'm 46 and have 19 BMI while I also have boobs.

Wealthy men look for thin, the wife also plays role of representing him and the family at events etc. I'm telling you that as someone who married one of the wealthiest men at same age.

I will omit the social and moral skills of my now ex husband. Money and career aspirations are very wrong premises for dating.

OP here. I can slim down but my doctor is happy where I’m at. I’m happy where I’m at. I have large breasts ( 32DD) and curves. I’m not stick thin and I like that. I eat healthy and workout 5-6 days a week. I run about 4 days a week 3-5 miles at a time. I do strength training and boxing on alternate days.

What should I slim down to? I’m happy with my body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are you trying to meet people?

OP here. Dating sites, the gym, bars, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:PP. My DH makes less than me, always has. We met in college. My age group is hitting the divorce zone. There are no guarantees. Go for someone with the right personality who will be a good dad if you want kids. It's sexist to insist that your partner make equal or more money. What you want is someone who shares your values and will be a good partner. Many high-powered men have wives who are public school teachers. Would you flip that script? Why/why not?

OP here. Shared values and personality traits are equally important. I was putting out the baseline of expectations that a guy would need to hit in order to go on a date or get a second date.

OP, how are you going to determine all this on a first date? Asking about income, savings, etc. is going to come off as very gauche and will likely ensure that no man asks YOU on a second date.

OP here. That’s my issue. I don’t get many second dates and I think it’s because I focus on the baseline expectations. Only if it gets to the second date do I get more personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly you are still young. Go out, meet a bunch of people and see what happens. Are you in the DC area? If so, plenty of men who make good salaries here.

OP here. I’m in VA.

[Anonymous]

The vast majority of men aren't as picky about looks as some people here seem to think. Based on your description, I wouldn't have dated you when I was single - not because of your looks, but because you seem money obsessed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smells like a troll, but OK

Do you have the face or body to earn that sugar daddy?
Are you Instagram fitness model caliber or nah?

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m just a woman who has my stuff together and wants a man with the same.

I’m not super hot but I’m cute. Definitely girl next door type cute. I have a nice body and take care of myself. I eat well, workout 5-6 days a week, and I take care of my skin.

Im 5’2”, 118lbs, and nice curves. Dark blonde/light brown hair, dark blue eyes, and fair-skinned.

You are not tall and thin enough... gonna need to calibrate on the self-evaluated "cute" -- what famous person/actress do you look like?

You may be more realistically headed toward public schools and continuing to work... which is PERFECTLY fine, so don't bash it.

OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick.

I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women.

Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know.

You are not thin.

Good news is, you're not overweight, either. I'm sure you have an attractive figure but you are not thin.

Here's the problem, not just you either, nobody seems to know what thin is anymore - society is so "plump" these days and almost everyone is out of "calibration".

At 5'2'', you need to down at 105 to be able to call yourself thin.

And 5'2'' is short. Not as big of a deal for a woman as it is for a man, but if you are trying to land a bigger fish, as they say, "tall and thin, for the win!"

What a gross post. I'd love to see your "stats" so we can judge you.

It's realistic, not gross post. She's not thin enough! Good earning men in my circle all married very thin taller women (5'5-5'8 usually). Especially men who are on a shorter side (5'6-5'11) - they absolutely prefer marrying taller women to have taller sons.

Taller women still have a harder time finding a partner than shorter women.