There's probably a lot of tech bros in our area destined for the income levels you seek, yet lack the sociopathic/alcoholic/cheating tendencies of this areas tippy top earners. Unfortunately this group of men has poor social skills and may be difficult to reach. Perhaps if you positioned yourself as some sort of gamer girl on the dating apps you'd find your prince. |
OP here. 118lbs is thin. I have breasts and curves. I’m not a stick. I’m not tall but that has never been an issue. Lots of men I’ve dated and have spoken to love shorter women. Oh, and I don’t date men over 6ft. I can’t do that a large level of height difference. Weird..I know. |
I would look closer to your age range (within 4 years).
You're not a unicorn. There are guys who live alone. |
OP here. This is what I’m finding. Most men my age don’t want to settle down, don’t have a stable career, and have a ton of debt. I’m not faulting them because life is tough and expensive. That is why I pushed my dating age higher to hopefully find a man who is more ready to settle down and has stable employment. |
This. For different reasons. Both my husband and I lived with friends before we married. They were friends from college and all were successful. It wasn’t just money, it was companionship. Plus, a lot of them travelled/commuted to other cities as consultants do it was nice to have roommates from that respect. No, to someone living with parents, but yes to someone living with friends. Also, lower your age to your own age. There are plenty of guys at that age looking for marriage. |
Why did you date him if your “standards” are so specific? |
This. OP, what you want is someone with values who loves you and while you love. That’s what will sustain a marriage and a family, not a balance sheet total achieved by some arbitrary date. |
OP here. That wouldn’t work for me. I don’t know anything about video games at all. I have no interest in them. My interests are more working out, cooking, being outdoors, traveling, and gardening. |
Totally. It's nothing for you to worry about or try to "fix". Just keep going on dates, have online dating accounts, go out to bars to socialize, maybe sign up for a matchmaker (it's usually free for the women). Sooner or later the right guy will come along who IS functional and wants everything you do. You have *plenty* of time so stop being impatient. |
Height doesn’t matter that much for women, and actually it’s better to be on the shorter side if you want the widest dating pool. 5’2 is a fine height as long as she’s pretty with a nice body. Once you get to about 5’8 it starts to rule out a lot of shorter (rich) guys. Maybe if you only want to date 6’2+ rich guys it’s fine. |
OP here. This was before I decided to take this approach. We were together for 3 years and it never went anywhere. I decided I want a husband and a family and I needed to look for men who want the same things. Most men under 30 don’t want to get married anytime soon. I’m ready. |
OP here. I have no height requirements. I actually prefer men shorter than 6ft because I’m so short. My ex was 5’8. The other 3 men ( I’ve only had 4 boyfriends) were 6’1, 5’10 and 5’6. Height doesn’t factor in for me at all. |
OP here. What should I roll back my expectations on? I don’t want to be dating for verbal more years because I’m too picky. What I’m doing is obviously not working. I came on here for realistic feedback. |
I just think it's dangerous to be so focused on these traits, and not on compatibility and love. Im older than you, and then women I know who has these expectations are still single in their 40s. The exception is hot women. They can be picky and men will fall all over themselves to be with them. Harsh but true. |
DP. The vows are for richer or poorer, not "so long as you don't have debt and can support me in the lifestyle I think I deserve without working." You're not ready for marriage. You can probably find a man who doesn't really understand that, but you're fundamentally unfit for marriage. |