My successful and charming brother met an amazing woman but said he's breaking up with her because

[Anonymous]

OP it’s not him and it’s not the leg hair, it’s you. You are too much in his business and he’s not confiding in you about his private life.
He told you something private and look what you did with it?
Posted it on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother is divorced, two adorable kids, zero ex drama. He makes great money and is quite handsome. Since last summer he's been dating an amazing woman who is 33, gorgeous, great career, no kids, never married. We have all told him to marry her. So when he told me he was distancing himself from her we were all shocked. And he was evasive about why. Finally he confesses to me her leg hair apparently grows back super fast and it is prickly at night. He said it drives him insane when they sleep in the same bed. As in, it is repulsive. It's been decades since I've dated, but that is not a valid reason to break up with an otherwise amazing person, right? I don't know what to say to talk some sense into him.

Your brother is narcissistic, immature, and misogynistic. You’re not doing her any favors by trying to talk him into staying. Please convince him to break up with her so she can find better.

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Newsflash- I’ve never talked to one guy that’s gotten divorced that wants to get married again

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Anonymous wrote:He’s probably just gay and prefers bears that are always hairy.

Women are naturally hairy and heterosexual men are naturally attracted to women.

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Anonymous wrote:Newsflash- I’ve never talked to one guy that’s gotten divorced that wants to get married again

Congrats on winning dumbest DCUM comment of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:OP it’s not him and it’s not the leg hair, it’s you. You are too much in his business and he’s not confiding in you about his private life.
He told you something private and look what you did with it?
Posted it on DCUM.

Ooh, spin off thread: what's the most outlandish lie you told someone who was prying into your personal business?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't talk any sense into him. This is the reason he's latched onto for whatever reason, but obviously there are other major issues. It's best for everyone for him to end things now.

Agree. If your brother truly loved her, then like hair, would not bother him. As for whatever reason when people have all those hormones and are in love, things that would bother them with another person don't bother them when it's the one you love. And when you don't love someone, even the most innocuous thing can be an excuse to break up. If he loved her he would ask her to shave, and she would more than likely shave. So that's just an excuse.if it wasn't the leg here, it would be something else. He's smart to just let her go and keep looking.

What?? This is insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

Is she by any chance Indian?

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She dodged a bullet. Stop interfering.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

Is she by any chance Indian?

? I'm east Asian, and this happens to me, too.

Thankfully, my (white) DH doesn't care. He loves me for me. I got into a car accident, and I couldn't even shower let alone shave my legs.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG tell her to get laser treatments.

And, if this is a deal breaker for him he is too shallow to be married.

+1000

Tell him to offer to pay for her laser. Hair can be fixed but sounds like he may come up with new "issues"

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

Umm, actually not abnormal at all for those of us with thick, dark hair.

[Anonymous]

So many things wrong with OP's post. First, why is your entire family pressuring him to get remarried? Are you guys desperate to have an instant stepmom for his kids? How about you tell your brother to stop focusing on his love life because his kids should be the priority?

Yes, the explanation you badgered him into giving you is petty and shallow. And it's probably also not completely true. Sure, he's probably turned off by the prickly leg hair but it could also be even harder things to admit like maybe she's bad in bed, or maybe they just aren't sexually compatible, or maybe she's been hinting that she wants kids and in his mind he's done.

But whatever the reason, back the hell off. Let your brother focus on his own life and encourage him to be a GOOD FATHER. That should be his priority over getting remarried.

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Your brother is clearly an exceptional and very high caliber individual with understandably high standards for a partner.

Because of this, and his acute capacity of self-awareness, he knows that he doesn't have to settle for a porcupine and can easily find someone else so he's cutting his losses and moving on.

lol

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is divorced, two adorable kids, zero ex drama. He makes great money and is quite handsome. Since last summer he's been dating an amazing woman who is 33, gorgeous, great career, no kids, never married. We have all told him to marry her. So when he told me he was distancing himself from her we were all shocked. And he was evasive about why. Finally he confesses to me her leg hair apparently grows back super fast and it is prickly at night. He said it drives him insane when they sleep in the same bed. As in, it is repulsive. It's been decades since I've dated, but that is not a valid reason to break up with an otherwise amazing person, right? I don't know what to say to talk some sense into him.

Now you know why he probably got divorced. Don't push it or he will be on divorce #2 in no time. I don't know why families push people to marry certain partners. Not your life stay out of it!!!