My successful and charming brother met an amazing woman but said he's breaking up with her because

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]She needs to do laser/waxing[/b]
He is either gay or doesn’t want more kids (and of course she’ll want kids asap)

Does she, though?? I seriously don't think so.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

If she’s 33 or 34, her prime fertility was ten years ago. If she is such a prize she would have married 5 or 6 years ago. The wealthiest and most attractive men in their mid and late 30s tend to have kids and or an ex wife. That’s the reality of the dating market in 2024.

She doesn't have to marry the wealthiest or the most attractive guy. Just a normal single childless guy. Who are plentiful in that age bracket.

You think successful, handsome, normal AND SINGLE men in their 30s are “plentiful”? Not hardly. Dating pool is wimpy men with ick factor and underemployed broke men.

I think you misread the comment. The PP was saying guys who are normal, single and childless are plentiful. Not wealthy, attractive guys. Wealthy AND attractive are unicorns.

[Anonymous]

Either this is a troll post

Or he’s lying to you and doesn’t want you to know the real reason for the break up

Or he’s so emotionally immature he’s doing that woman a favor

[Anonymous]

When he dumps her she’ll be available and you can shoot your shot OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

I don't know about PP but I'm the younger woman in this situation and I think she's spot on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

No, I’m married with three children.

A childless high caliber man is more valuable than a high caliber man with children.

We don’t know that any of the characters here is high caliber, and we don’t know if the woman is younger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

I didn’t say it’s a bad deal for the man. It’s a good deal for him. It’s a very bad deal for the woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

Divorced older women hate that too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even if she lasered or something, he would find something later in life that would be a problem....letting her grays go, middle age weight gain, embracing the laugh lines.... If a guy told me to shave more it would be a big red flag.

This. A man "disgusted" by leg hair on a woman in her early 30's would neeeeever be able to tolerate any of the normal, expected bodily changes associated with age. That's not love. He did her a favor.

Also lol that a divorced Dad with 2 kids is this picky. Good luck with that my man.

😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Are you by chance a single mom? Single mothers really hate when high caliber men their age date younger women without their baggage.

NP. "High caliber men" don't need to chase younger women to make themselves more secure or feel better.

And, you probably shouldn't speak for other women as to what they like/hate etc. You sounds smug and ignorant, both unattractive traits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

Spot on.

I'll also add that the one person (so not statistically significant) who was like this and divorced his wife ended up coming out as gay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even if she lasered or something, he would find something later in life that would be a problem....letting her grays go, middle age weight gain, embracing the laugh lines.... If a guy told me to shave more it would be a big red flag.

Or…maybe…just maybe…it actually is just the leg hair stubble. If his ex wife never had this issue and even bedfellows pre marriage also never had the issue, it would be jarring from his POV.

This feels like a Seinfeld episode. Jerry would def break up with a woman over leg hair. But that's because he didn't actually like the woman that much. If you like the person enough, then no one cares about leg hair. Or you just tell them that this one little thing is bothering you and you know it's you not them, but could they take care of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if she lasered or something, he would find something later in life that would be a problem....letting her grays go, middle age weight gain, embracing the laugh lines.... If a guy told me to shave more it would be a big red flag.

Or…maybe…just maybe…it actually is just the leg hair stubble. If his ex wife never had this issue and even bedfellows pre marriage also never had the issue, it would be jarring from his POV.

This feels like a Seinfeld episode. Jerry would def break up with a woman over leg hair. But that's because he didn't actually like the woman that much. If you like the person enough, then no one cares about leg hair. Or you just tell them that this one little thing is bothering you and you know it's you not them, but could they take care of it.

You’re a woman? Sounds like you’re projecting. Wax or laser your legs and stop lying to yourself it’s not a big deal they get a 5 o’clock shadow. Just because men you’re with haven’t voiced their disgust doesn’t mean they’re not turned off by it.