My successful and charming brother met an amazing woman but said he's breaking up with her because

[Anonymous]

If this was my brother AND I was in the mood to mind his business instead of minding my own, I would straight up have told him, "That is a stupid reason, what's the real issue here?"

I would also say that it sounds like you and your family have been pressuring your brother to do something that he doesn't want to do. For months. Maybe the pressure has backfired and he is not invested in the relationship anymore and is looking for stupid reasons to end it.

[Anonymous]

Your brother is clearly an exceptional and very high caliber individual with understandably high standards for a partner.

Because of this, and his acute capacity of self-awareness, he knows that he doesn't have to settle for a porcupine and can easily find someone else so he's cutting his losses and moving on.

[Anonymous]

It doesen't matter what the reason is, and I'd assume there are other reasons he's not sharing or can't even articulate. He doesen't want to marry this woman; why on earth would the entire family pressure him to do so? It doesen't matter how much you all like this girl; he doesn't feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t sound charming or amazing. He is divorced for a reason!

The entire family since Thanksgiving has been telling him to marry her! They are great together. Everyone loves her. She's gorgeous, she's sweet, she's ambitious. And he wasn't ridiculing her for this trivial issue, he didn't even want to disclose it. He is clearly embarrassed it bothers him so much.

Introduce him to laser hair removal and gift cards. But I promise you, this is not the real reason he wants out. Leave him alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t sound charming or amazing. He is divorced for a reason!

This. She should run away as fast as she can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG tell her to get laser treatments.

And, if this is a deal breaker for him he is too shallow to be married.

FYI, if her leg hair is blond, it won't work. If her skin is dark, it might burn. This isn't a given.

For OP's purpoted brother, this is an issue. And he's right to break up with her so she can find a human being that is more aligned with her and her values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG tell her to get laser treatments.

And, if this is a deal breaker for him he is too shallow to be married.

Omg do not do this. Keep friends with her and tell her she got lucky when he breaks up with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. He should gently suggest to her to wax her legs. Problem solved.

This is the correct answer: if you really care about the girl, just tell her yourself.

Whatever your brother wants to do is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll posts are now like >50% of DCUM relationship board and family board

They're over 50% in all of DCUM now. It stinks.

[Anonymous]

Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. He should gently suggest to her to wax her legs. Problem solved.

This is the correct answer: if you really care about the girl, just tell her yourself.

Whatever your brother wants to do is irrelevant.

What? No. Do not suggest anything.

[Anonymous]

i mean - if you can't get over something like that it means you dont love the person, so he should not marry her. just because YOU think she's amazing doesn't mean he has to.

[Anonymous]

She's dodging a bullet!!!



Don't you dare force your idiot brother on this delightful woman. She doesn't have time to waste on this loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. He should gently suggest to her to wax her legs. Problem solved.

This is the correct answer: if you really care about the girl, just tell her yourself.

Whatever your brother wants to do is irrelevant.

My response to that suggestion by a man: "I'll wax my leg hair if you wax your face of all facial hair".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.