My successful and charming brother met an amazing woman but said he's breaking up with her because

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

Symbolic? Sweetie, leg hair stubble is disgusting. Seems this thread is full of projecting women with the same issue trying to diminish how gross it is. Sorry your husband and/or lovers are too meek to tell you.

"Sweetie"? No, it's not disgusting. Sorry your own body disgusts you (or your partners, or both), not all of us have this weird insecurity or hang up.

DP here.

Leg hair / stubble on women is disgusting.

No, it is not disgusting.

You may find it disgusting, but you are clearly a small petty and insecure person. Does not apply to the rest of the population.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

Symbolic? Sweetie, leg hair stubble is disgusting. Seems this thread is full of projecting women with the same issue trying to diminish how gross it is. Sorry your husband and/or lovers are too meek to tell you.

"Sweetie"? No, it's not disgusting. Sorry your own body disgusts you (or your partners, or both), not all of us have this weird insecurity or hang up.

DP here.

Leg hair / stubble on women is disgusting.

No, it is not disgusting.

You may find it disgusting, but you are clearly a small petty and insecure person. Does not apply to the rest of the population.

I think (hope) that ^PP is a troll. Otherwise, yikes, that there are people out there who think leg hair on women is disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

Symbolic? Sweetie, leg hair stubble is disgusting. Seems this thread is full of projecting women with the same issue trying to diminish how gross it is. Sorry your husband and/or lovers are too meek to tell you.

"Sweetie"? No, it's not disgusting. Sorry your own body disgusts you (or your partners, or both), not all of us have this weird insecurity or hang up.

DP here.

Leg hair / stubble on women is disgusting.

No, it is not disgusting.

You may find it disgusting, but you are clearly a small petty and insecure person. Does not apply to the rest of the population.

I think (hope) that ^PP is a troll. Otherwise, yikes, that there are people out there who think leg hair on women is disgusting.

I think (and hope) that you're correct! I do get that some people may not like hair on women, since we are supposed to be more fuckable dolphins to some people, but it's not "disgusting" FFS.

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He may not be in love with her. She may be great, funny, smart but just not the right person for him and that’s ok.

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She needs to do laser/waxing
He is either gay or doesn’t want more kids (and of course she’ll want kids asap)

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

Symbolic? Sweetie, leg hair stubble is disgusting. Seems this thread is full of projecting women with the same issue trying to diminish how gross it is. Sorry your husband and/or lovers are too meek to tell you.

"Sweetie"? No, it's not disgusting. Sorry your own body disgusts you (or your partners, or both), not all of us have this weird insecurity or hang up.

DP here.

Leg hair / stubble on women is disgusting.

No, it is not disgusting.

You may find it disgusting, but you are clearly a small petty and insecure person. Does not apply to the rest of the population.

I think (hope) that ^PP is a troll. Otherwise, yikes, that there are people out there who think leg hair on women is disgusting.

I think (and hope) that you're correct! I do get that some people may not like hair on women, since we are supposed to be more fuckable dolphins to some people, but it's not "disgusting" FFS.

I stated earlier, some people watch too much porn or influencers or the likes of the Kardashians, and have lost all sense of what real women are like.

We're supposed to look like we just popped out of a magazine or the internet. So dumb. I'm so glad I'm older, and DH doesn't mind my leg hairs or any other body hair.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if she lasered or something, he would find something later in life that would be a problem....letting her grays go, middle age weight gain, embracing the laugh lines.... If a guy told me to shave more it would be a big red flag.

This. A man "disgusted" by leg hair on a woman in her early 30's would neeeeever be able to tolerate any of the normal, expected bodily changes associated with age. That's not love. He did her a favor.

Also lol that a divorced Dad with 2 kids is this picky. Good luck with that my man.

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Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

Symbolic? Sweetie, leg hair stubble is disgusting. Seems this thread is full of projecting women with the same issue trying to diminish how gross it is. Sorry your husband and/or lovers are too meek to tell you.

"Sweetie"? No, it's not disgusting. Sorry your own body disgusts you (or your partners, or both), not all of us have this weird insecurity or hang up.

DP here.

Leg hair / stubble on women is disgusting.

No, it is not disgusting.

You may find it disgusting, but you are clearly a small petty and insecure person. Does not apply to the rest of the population.

I think (hope) that ^PP is a troll. Otherwise, yikes, that there are people out there who think leg hair on women is disgusting.

I think (and hope) that you're correct! I do get that some people may not like hair on women, since we are supposed to be more fuckable dolphins to some people, but it's not "disgusting" FFS.

I mean he can just buy her some cute pajama pants and the problem is solved.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

I agree with both of these things and would add to #2 that sometimes they are gay.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if she lasered or something, he would find something later in life that would be a problem....letting her grays go, middle age weight gain, embracing the laugh lines.... If a guy told me to shave more it would be a big red flag.

Or…maybe…just maybe…it actually is just the leg hair stubble. If his ex wife never had this issue and even bedfellows pre marriage also never had the issue, it would be jarring from his POV.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

If she’s 33 or 34, her prime fertility was ten years ago. If she is such a prize she would have married 5 or 6 years ago. The wealthiest and most attractive men in their mid and late 30s tend to have kids and or an ex wife. That’s the reality of the dating market in 2024.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

If she’s 33 or 34, her prime fertility was ten years ago. If she is such a prize she would have married 5 or 6 years ago. The wealthiest and most attractive men in their mid and late 30s tend to have kids and or an ex wife. That’s the reality of the dating market in 2024.

She doesn't have to marry the wealthiest or the most attractive guy. Just a normal single childless guy. Who are plentiful in that age bracket.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

If she’s 33 or 34, her prime fertility was ten years ago. If she is such a prize she would have married 5 or 6 years ago. The wealthiest and most attractive men in their mid and late 30s tend to have kids and or an ex wife. That’s the reality of the dating market in 2024.

She doesn't have to marry the wealthiest or the most attractive guy. Just a normal single childless guy. Who are plentiful in that age bracket.

You think successful, handsome, normal AND SINGLE men in their 30s are “plentiful”? Not hardly. Dating pool is wimpy men with ick factor and underemployed broke men.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Two things, unpalatable but true.

1. Single childless women should marry single childless men. It is a bad deal for a childless woman in her prime fertility years to marry a guy with children. It just is. Marrying widowers/divorced men with children has always been the choice for the unmarketable. If this woman is as great as you say, she can do better finding a childless never married man who can focus 100% of his resources on their marriage, family and children.

2. Men who need women to be just so to be turned on by them have low libido. A man in his prime with a high libido may have a preferred type but will generally find most women attractive and will want to sleep with them. The woman will need to be practically deformed to be unattractive to him. Men with stringent standards for women's appearances have low libido.

If she’s 33 or 34, her prime fertility was ten years ago. If she is such a prize she would have married 5 or 6 years ago. The wealthiest and most attractive men in their mid and late 30s tend to have kids and or an ex wife. That’s the reality of the dating market in 2024.

She doesn't have to marry the wealthiest or the most attractive guy. Just a normal single childless guy. Who are plentiful in that age bracket.

You think successful, handsome, normal AND SINGLE men in their 30s are “plentiful”? Not hardly. Dating pool is wimpy men with ick factor and underemployed broke men.

That just may be your dating pool. All my friends who married between 30 and 40 married normal single men. I married mine at 37. I’m typical.