My successful and charming brother met an amazing woman but said he's breaking up with her because

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Your brother is clearly an exceptional and very high caliber individual with understandably high standards for a partner.

Because of this, and his acute capacity of self-awareness, he knows that he doesn't have to settle for a porcupine and can easily find someone else so he's cutting his losses and moving on.

I don't think OP's brother wants to be married if this new belle is as "perfect" as OP says she is. According to the OP, it sounds like SHE is a much better catch than he is.
It could be his "high standards" that broke up his first marriage and stable home for his 2 young kids.... especially if he has no "ex drama".

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is divorced, two adorable kids, zero ex drama. He makes great money and is quite handsome. Since last summer he's been dating an amazing woman who is 33, gorgeous, great career, no kids, never married. We have all told him to marry her. So when he told me he was distancing himself from her we were all shocked. And he was evasive about why. Finally he confesses to me her leg hair apparently grows back super fast and it is prickly at night. He said it drives him insane when they sleep in the same bed. As in, it is repulsive. It's been decades since I've dated, but that is not a valid reason to break up with an otherwise amazing person, right? I don't know what to say to talk some sense into him.

There is so much wrong with the OP.

How old is your brother. If your brother has been evasive, then maybe there are things that you do not know. Sounds like he doesn't want to confide in you, and probably just came up with a shallow reason to get you to stop asking questions and badgering him to marry her. Maybe he doesn't want to get married. Maybe SHE doesn't want to get married. Maybe there are other issues "when they sleep in the same bed". Mind your business. Maybe she is annoyed with the meddlesome sister.

This is a grown man, who has fathered 2 kids and is/has going through a divorce. I am sure he doesn't need you to navigate his sexual relationship for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

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Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t sound charming or amazing. He is divorced for a reason!

The entire family since Thanksgiving has been telling him to marry her! They are great together. Everyone loves her. She's gorgeous, she's sweet, she's ambitious. And he wasn't ridiculing her for this trivial issue, he didn't even want to disclose it. He is clearly embarrassed it bothers him so much.

Right. He certainly isn’t a catch. There is something wrong.

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Why are you pressuring your recently divorced brother to get remarried? It's fine for him to stay single. I don't understand why you are so adamant he needs to get remarried now. That may not be the best thing for him right now and part of him may realize it.

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She should be waxing. Maybe she has back hair.

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Who cares.

Whatever the “reason,” your brother should stay single.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is divorced, two adorable kids, zero ex drama. He makes great money and is quite handsome. Since last summer he's been dating an amazing woman who is 33, gorgeous, great career, no kids, never married. We have all told him to marry her. So when he told me he was distancing himself from her we were all shocked. And he was evasive about why. Finally he confesses to me her leg hair apparently grows back super fast and it is prickly at night. He said it drives him insane when they sleep in the same bed. As in, it is repulsive. It's been decades since I've dated, but that is not a valid reason to break up with an otherwise amazing person, right? I don't know what to say to talk some sense into him.

It’s easy to see why he’s divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

I don't think it's that abnormal, but regardless, it's still "natural".

Some men have a 5 o'clock shadow even if they shave that morning. If a woman broke up with a great man because he comes to bed with a 5 o'clock shadow, every man would say that woman is high maintenance, crazy, and to leave her. And I, as a woman, would agree with that.

When this guy actually manages to get married one day (hard to believe given he seems to expect perfection), I think he's going to be in for a rude awakening. When she is pregnant, she won't bother to shave everyday, even if she wanted to. She'll have gross things coming out of her body during delivery. She will be swollen and sweaty as the pregnancy hormones come down.

This guy doesn't want a real woman. He wants a porn doll.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could it be that her leg hair is symbolic of something deeper for him? Is she more the "natural" type who is fine with leaving the house with wet hair and wears tank tops even if she's got underarm stubble, but his ex wife and prior girlfriends were the types who get waxing and mani pedis every week? If so, then I could see why he's grappling with this. People tend to have a type when it comes to one's approach to grooming/how to present oneself. If she's great in all ways but not in this one, she might not work for him. I'm the mani pedi type and I had someone break up with me because he didn't like that I was so preened and groomed. He liked women who wear Merrell shoes and show up for brunch looking like they could go directly for a serious 4-hour hike, whereas I generally wear a sundress and sandals to brunch, and my brows and nails are always on point. I've got the Merrell shoes and the hiking gear, but I don't wear that as my default look.

IMO, men have become used to women with no body hair with all the waxing. They don't like "natural" look women. They want a dressed up porn doll with no body hair. At the same time, many men complain about high maintenance women. It's like they think women naturally don't have body hair and painted nails take 2 mins at home.

To be fair, a woman shaving her legs in the morning then having leg stubble in bed that same night is highly abnormal.

I don't think it's that abnormal, but regardless, it's still "natural".

Some men have a 5 o'clock shadow even if they shave that morning. If a woman broke up with a great man because he comes to bed with a 5 o'clock shadow, every man would say that woman is high maintenance, crazy, and to leave her. And I, as a woman, would agree with that.

When this guy actually manages to get married one day (hard to believe given he seems to expect perfection), I think he's going to be in for a rude awakening. When she is pregnant, she won't bother to shave everyday, even if she wanted to. She'll have gross things coming out of her body during delivery. She will be swollen and sweaty as the pregnancy hormones come down.

This guy doesn't want a real woman. He wants a porn doll.

nvm.. I see he has two kids.

I think he's just looking for an excuse. And he's high maintenance.

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Anonymous wrote:She should be waxing. Maybe she has back hair.

Does he wax his facial hair or his back hair or his a$$ hair?

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If a woman is gorgeous great career etc. at 33 I should hope she could do better than a divorced dad with 2 kids.

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This is reminding me of a Seinfeld episode. Regardless, OP - you are WAY too involved and invested in your brother’s love life! It’s highly inappropriate to push him to remarry.

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He sounds like a dud.

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Anonymous wrote:We find little things like that repulsive when we can’t stand the person anymore and can’t put our finger on why, or can put our finger on why but don’t want to say what it is.

This exactly. It's not the cause, it's a symptom.