Brother’s Wife Asked for a piece of Jewlery

[Anonymous]

Pp greedy not greet. You are just yuck.

[Anonymous]

You are wrong. And disgusting. And more than a little jealous. She’s probably younger and prettier. Did your mom like her a lot? Sounds like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were close for 20 years and presumably she loved your mom. A piece of jewelry is fine.

It's fine if it's offered - it's not fine to ask.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a lot of posts today are being started by the same person.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

If she had, it would have been fine with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

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This is the way it should be, OP. You sound terribly insecure, immature and mean spirited. If your brother has a daughter, a piece of decent jewelry (it does not have to be fancy or expensive, at all!) would be for her (your niece), not your SIL. I am somehow certain that your SIL does not need anyone's old jewelry. How dare you be so mean spirited, selfish and greedy. You seem like an awful SIL, and a terrible SIL. I can't imagine being so greedy and insular.

My God, that is your mother's blood granddaughter. For shame, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

If she had, it would have been fine with me.

OP do you overreact like this about everything? Your poor SIL. I can only imagine how you treated your poor brother, growing up. You sound bossy, controlling and entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They were close for 20 years and presumably she loved your mom. A piece of jewelry is fine.

It's fine if it's offered - it's not fine to ask.

Why?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother actually ended up giving more jewelry to her DIL than to her daughter (my mom). My uncle and aunt moved to take care of her in her last years and really did a lot for her. No one threw a hissy fit. Grow up, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about your mother OP but your grief and anger are blinding you to what probably is a well intention request. Your brother was one of your mother’s children too. He has as much right as you do to a piece of jewelry.

Please go to grief counseling. I wish you peace.

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I agree. This happened to one of my friends, because the SIL perceived that the SIL did her wrong. Turns out, there was much, much more to the story that SIL left out, on purpose, because it exposed lots of things that SIL did wrong.

You sound like a peach, OP. Your poor husband.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They were close for 20 years and presumably she loved your mom. A piece of jewelry is fine.

It's fine if it's offered - it's not fine to ask.

Why?

OP won't answer, she just throws names, instead of acting like an adult, and doing the right thing. Terrible!

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Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

You said they were close. So no, I wouldn’t find it even a little bit entitled.

I’m close to my MIL but I would assume all her jewelry would go to her daughter.

My mother is dying soon and if my brother wanted his wife to have some of her jewelry I wouldn't care. I have a daughter but we don't need to hoard it all. I barely even wear jewelry.

+1 This. How old are you OP?

This sure didn't go the way OP hoped it would. OP are you usually such abully?

[Anonymous]

OP: My in laws think they’re royalty and constantly spin their ancestry into something powerful and important. The fact of the matter is they come from a long line of drunks. Sound familiar?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They were close for 20 years and presumably she loved your mom. A piece of jewelry is fine.

It's fine if it's offered - it's not fine to ask.

Why?

Because it's not her mother. You can be close with your in laws - but unless the MIL gave the SIL some jewelry, or told her she wanted her to have some of it, it's for the daughter. Jewelry can have a special significance - it sounds like that's the case here. If the mother didn't say she wanted it to go in a different way, it goes to the daughter - and then the daughter can decide if she wants to share.

Maybe the SIL can ask at some point - especially if there's a special piece that means a lot to her, and probably won't mean as much to the daughter. But probably not while OP is in the thick of grief. It should have been the brother broaching this, if at all, in any case - not demanding any of the jewelry, but saying his wife has an attachment to such and suck piece, and how does OP feel about giving it to her. SIL should not have been the one asking.

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Anonymous wrote:The closing of that estate is going to be a lot of fun.

OP is going to try to hoard everything, if she has not already. Op will from then on be known as the Insecure Aunt Who Felt Threatened by the Existence of her Niece. Damn, OP. This tops them all.