Brother’s Wife Asked for a piece of Jewlery

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that your SIL loved your mom and is grieving and would therefore like something small to remember her with?

I’m sure there is something you can part with, surely not every single piece needs to go to you/your daughter! Also, if your brother and SIL have a son, who is to say they wouldn’t like him to have something to remember his grandmother or have something reset to gift to his future spouse?

You sound awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gross, on your part. It was your brother's mom too. Why so greedy?

Well my brother isn’t going wear the jewelry so what would he do with it? Again they don’t have any kids and don’t plan on it so it’s not like it would go to their daughter.

Does he want his wife to have the jewelry?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You want that jewelry, don’t you, OP? How much is it worth?

I don’t know how much it’s worth. I don’t like the principle of what my SIL is asking. She didn’t birth or raise my SIL.

Through marriage, she is her daughter.

OP, you sound insane. I'm going to chalk it up to grieving and give you the benefit of the doubt. It sounds like you are very greedy and a bit mean not to consider her grief too. When my FIL of 20 years died, I was heart broken. Perhaps your SIL is also grieving and heartbroken.

My MIL gave me jewelry when her mother, DH's grandmother, died. I didn't even know DH's grandmother very well and i certainly didn't expect this - the gesture made me feel like family. I will do the same for my kids' spouses. I very much hope my daughters don't behave as nasty as you toward their family - ILs or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

You said they were close. So no, I wouldn’t find it even a little bit entitled.

I’m close to my MIL but I would assume all her jewelry would go to her daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

I'm the person wearing MIL's ring. We have no daughters. If one of our sons wants it for an engagement ring, they can have it.

[Anonymous]

You're a jerk, but you are also more than welcome to say no and "put her in her place", but guess what? There goes any semblance of relationship you have with her and your brother. Because you're greedy and selfish.

[Anonymous]

OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound ridiculously entitled, spiteful and selfish for begrudging your SIL a single piece of jewelry from your mother’s collection. Assuming it wasn’t otherwise specified in the will if I were your brother and you tried to pull this crap I would request that the jewelry be appraised and split 50/50 out of principle because of your greed.

[Anonymous]

How else is SIL to express her interest other than ask for it? Clearly you weren't just going to be nice and offer her (or even your brother) a piece, so she asked for something that she can wear so that both she and her husband (your mother's son!) can remember your mom by when she wears it. The only horrible person in this situation is you, OP, and I never say that on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds like a real treat. True colors come out when someone dies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts.

You could really picture asking for a piece of your MIL’s jewelry even if you didn’t have a daughter (which would be MIL’s granddaughter) to pass it on to?

Especially knowing your MIL has a daughter of her own?

Well, that daughter in this situation seems pretty terrible - greedy, grasping, and not terribly bright - so I don't have a huge problem with it.

(For absence of doubt, OP, that's referring to you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

[Anonymous]

What's with this old lady's jewelry in first place. It has to be the blue diamond to even bother to ask.
OP, you are really over the top. I need SIL side of this all.
Maybe your brother should get some. He doesn't care for the stuff and told his wife to ask if she wanted some.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts.

You could really picture asking for a piece of your MIL’s jewelry even if you didn’t have a daughter (which would be MIL’s granddaughter) to pass it on to?

Especially knowing your MIL has a daughter of her own?

Yes. Absolutely. You are wrong. You are insane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

Is he going to wear it?