Brother’s Wife Asked for a piece of Jewlery

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible that your SIL loved your mom and is grieving and would therefore like something small to remember her with?

I’m sure there is something you can part with, surely not every single piece needs to go to you/your daughter! Also, if your brother and SIL have a son, who is to say they wouldn’t like him to have something to remember his grandmother or have something reset to gift to his future spouse?

You sound awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Gross, on your part. It was your brother's mom too. Why so greedy?

Well my brother isn’t going wear the jewelry so what would he do with it? Again they don’t have any kids and don’t plan on it so it’s not like it would go to their daughter.

She asked for one piece to remember your mom, who you admit she was close to? I think that's actually quite sweet. If she asked for the most expensive piece or demanded a share or whatever, yes, that would be unreasonable. But one piece? I hope you're in the fog of grief, OP, and not actually like this in real life.

Agree. Sorry about your mom, OP. It sounds like she is well loved and missed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

But he can’t wear it.

You make no sense.

[Anonymous]

They were close for 20 years and presumably she loved your mom. A piece of jewelry is fine.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry about your mother OP but your grief and anger are blinding you to what probably is a well intention request. Your brother was one of your mother’s children too. He has as much right as you do to a piece of jewelry.

Please go to grief counseling. I wish you peace.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

You said they were close. So no, I wouldn’t find it even a little bit entitled.

I’m close to my MIL but I would assume all her jewelry would go to her daughter.

My mother is dying soon and if my brother wanted his wife to have some of her jewelry I wouldn't care. I have a daughter but we don't need to hoard it all. I barely even wear jewelry.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

But he can’t wear it.

You make no sense.

You can't be real.

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It’s tough when your mom dies but you’re wrong OP

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I think YTA here OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

Is he going to wear it?

No, but he might enjoy seeing his wife wearing a piece of her jewelry. Finding it within you to part with ONE piece for the wife of your brother should not be this difficult.

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You are horrible. If they were close, especially if she helped out over the years, you give her a piece. Ask her to leave it to your kids when they pass. How would you like your child to be treated this way?

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

But he can’t wear it.

You make no sense.

You can't be real.

OP would rather have the jewelry go someone who will never actually use and enjoy it than to someone who will - and who was close to her mother. Makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

I personally think half the jewelry is your brothers. It was his mom too. He is entitled to some of what he likes and wants to remember her by. Maybe having his wife wear it, is really special to him.

[Anonymous]

You are disgusting. And greet. And nuts. I feel sorry for your sister in law.

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I did this. In laws are family. My in laws could have said no but they ended up giving me the most valuable piece my MIL had. Since I gave birth to a son who will perhaps carry on the family name it made it special. OP: You have a deeper problem.