Brother’s Wife Asked for a piece of Jewlery

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a piece of her jewelry before she died as did her mother. Fake outrage.

Right but she GAVE it to you meaning offered you didn’t outright ask for it huuuge difference.

There is nothing wrong with asking you.

[Anonymous]

She asked about one piece? I don’t get the problem here.

[Anonymous]

The closing of that estate is going to be a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross, on your part. It was your brother's mom too. Why so greedy?

Well my brother isn’t going wear the jewelry so what would he do with it? Again they don’t have any kids and don’t plan on it so it’s not like it would go to their daughter.

Did your mom ask you how you planned to use each and every piece? What is the value of the jewelry, did your brother receive an equal share of the estate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You want that jewelry, don’t you, OP? How much is it worth?

I don’t know how much it’s worth. I don’t like the principle of what my SIL is asking. She didn’t birth or raise my SIL.

What principle? Blood is thicker than water? You do know that’s a bad principle, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

Entitled would be taking it, not asking for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

Not if it was just one or two pieces, and it was an ask rather than a demand. They had a relationship too, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

Should I give my mom’s jewelry to my brother because I don’t have a daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross, on your part. It was your brother's mom too. Why so greedy?

Well my brother isn’t going wear the jewelry so what would he do with it? Again they don’t have any kids and don’t plan on it so it’s not like it would go to their daughter.

She asked for one piece to remember your mom, who you admit she was close to? I think that's actually quite sweet. If she asked for the most expensive piece or demanded a share or whatever, yes, that would be unreasonable. But one piece? I hope you're in the fog of grief, OP, and not actually like this in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

You said they were close. So no, I wouldn’t find it even a little bit entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a piece of her jewelry before she died as did her mother. Fake outrage.

Right but she GAVE it to you meaning offered you didn’t outright ask for it huuuge difference.

There is nothing wrong with asking you.

I disagree an in law relationship is different totally from a direct blood line. I would never presume I was equal to my MIL’s actual daughter. Do I love and care for my MIL? Yes I do. But would I expect her to view me as her daughter? Absolutely not! She didn’t raise me and push me out of her body like she did her daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a piece of her jewelry before she died as did her mother. Fake outrage.

Right but she GAVE it to you meaning offered you didn’t outright ask for it huuuge difference.

There is nothing wrong with asking you.

I disagree an in law relationship is different totally from a direct blood line. I would never presume I was equal to my MIL’s actual daughter. Do I love and care for my MIL? Yes I do. But would I expect her to view me as her daughter? Absolutely not! She didn’t raise me and push me out of her body like she did her daughter.

Is this some weird jealousy thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away and my brother’s wife had the audacity to ask for a piece of her jewelry. I’m fuming mad! I can’t belie an in law would dare ask for a piece of their MIL’s jewelry . I told my brother how wrong that is and he said they been married for 20 years and she grew close to her. I could see asking for jewelry if they had a daughter for my mother’s granddaughter but not for her DIL. While I understand that they were close the fact of the matter that wasn’t her mother and she has actual daughters who are blood related to her.

I’m close to my MIL but I have class and would rather die than ever ask for something of hers when she passes. My husband has a sister and that’s her mother I would never get in the way of that.

I can’t believe my brother isn’t gaining a back bone with this.

I'm wearing one of my MIL's rings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a piece of her jewelry before she died as did her mother. Fake outrage.

Right but she GAVE it to you meaning offered you didn’t outright ask for it huuuge difference.

There is nothing wrong with asking you.

I disagree an in law relationship is different totally from a direct blood line. I would never presume I was equal to my MIL’s actual daughter. Do I love and care for my MIL? Yes I do. But would I expect her to view me as her daughter? Absolutely not! She didn’t raise me and push me out of her body like she did her daughter.

She didn’t ask for all the jewelry. You’re weird, op.