Brother’s Wife Asked for a piece of Jewlery

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away and my brother’s wife had the audacity to ask for a piece of her jewelry. I’m fuming mad! I can’t belie an in law would dare ask for a piece of their MIL’s jewelry . I told my brother how wrong that is and he said they been married for 20 years and she grew close to her. I could see asking for jewelry if they had a daughter for my mother’s granddaughter but not for her DIL. While I understand that they were close the fact of the matter that wasn’t her mother and she has actual daughters who are blood related to her.

I’m close to my MIL but I have class and would rather die than ever ask for something of hers when she passes. My husband has a sister and that’s her mother I would never get in the way of that.

I can’t believe my brother isn’t gaining a back bone with this.

what is wrong with you? Your SIL has been married to your brother fo 20 years?! Let her pick a piece of jewelry. Your brother should get half.

My MIL has a daughter and me, her DIL. She isn't dead yet, but has given us both pieces of her jewelry already. She plans to divide it all equally before anyway. I had mentioned I loved a certain ring she wears and last Christmas she gave it to me as my gift. I couldn't believe it and will cherish it always. I don't have a daughter to pass it on, but will give the jewelry to my sons.

People remember how you make them feel, don't make your SIL and brother feel like dirt. You don't deserve more from the estate because you are a female/daughter Honestly, it should be split 50/50 between you and your brother unless you have other siblings, then should be equal unless written in your mom's will. You shouldn't get more of your mom's things just because you are her daughter. People sue over stuff like this or go estranged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away and my brother’s wife had the audacity to ask for a piece of her jewelry. I’m fuming mad! I can’t belie an in law would dare ask for a piece of their MIL’s jewelry . I told my brother how wrong that is and he said they been married for 20 years and she grew close to her. I could see asking for jewelry if they had a daughter for my mother’s granddaughter but not for her DIL. While I understand that they were close the fact of the matter that wasn’t her mother and she has actual daughters who are blood related to her.

I’m close to my MIL but I have class and would rather die than ever ask for something of hers when she passes. My husband has a sister and that’s her mother I would never get in the way of that.

I can’t believe my brother isn’t gaining a back bone with this.

Troll. And not even a good attempt. The audacity!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

Agreed. OP, you sound like an awful person. Your mother would be ashamed of you, I have no doubt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother died and my dad gave me a bag of jewelry. I went through it with my SIL and asked her if she wanted anything. She tried some stuff on. She wasn’t even close with my mom. It’s just stuff. We’re basically sharing it.

Right but the difference is your SIL I’m sure had class and didn’t outright ask for it.

DP - did you expect her to write you a letter? Why are you so stingy with the jewelry? The fact that you keep throwing around the word class and you seem so hung up on material things and so ungenerous means you have little class to begin with.

I expect for my SIL to not act entitled to my mother’s jewelry.

What if someone came on here and said their MIL passed away and they asked for a piece of their jewelry even if they didn’t have any daughters of their own? Wouldn’t you find that extremely entitled.

Should I give my mom’s jewelry to my brother because I don’t have a daughter?

Along the same lines should my MIL be buried with all her jewelry because she only has sons and us DILs shouldn’t be so greedy.

[Anonymous]

You're a petty person, OP. I don't how she went about asking but I can see her wanting to have a piece of jewelry to honor her MIL. My DH has one sister and while I'm sure she will leave most of her jewelry to my SIL, I think it would be odd if she left me nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - how would you have felt if your brother had been the one who asked for a piece of your mother's jewelry?

I must admit I would feel differently because that’s his mother as well.

That doesn't make any sense. He would clearly be asking because he wanted to give it to his wife. You're ridiculous, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much sock puppeting on this thread. So much.

Sorry, OP, but no. There are a lot of different posters telling you that you are being selfish and greedy. I've posted three times, one of those times was asking how you would have felt if your brother asked for the jewelry instead of his wife and your answer was irrational.

[jsteele]

The original poster seems to have had an epiphany about halfway through this thread and gone from "a blood relationship is most important" to "a long and close relationship is more important" without disclosing her change or heart or that she was the original poster. As such, I am going to lock this thread.