My father put an AirTag in my car to track me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

You sure can!! I just used my brothers car and his keys have an air tag. I got an iPhone message that an unknown AirTag was following me with a map of where I had been.

And the last four digits of the cell phone number of the person whose air tag it is?

Yes. It's literally in the Wired article posted earlier:

One way to figure out the serial number is to hold the top of an iPhone or other near-field-communication-enabled smartphone to the white side of an AirTag. A website with the serial number will pop up. This page may also include a partial phone number from the person who owns the tracking device.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear your anger and would also be livid. That said, since you have the air tag, can you have some fun with this? Any friends who do a lot of travel by car or work an unusual schedule? I’d start passing that AirTag around.

My thoughts exactly. Where is the seediest bar near you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You drove 800 miles one way??

Yeah…. Op drove 800 miles….
No. She didn’t.

Really? Have you ever met a mid-westerner? I drive 850 miles one way to see my in-laws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how to react to this because I get that it’s your dad and very complicated.

If you were my friend, I would feel really bad for you and try to follow your lead.

But my actual personal advice would be to meet with the police to discuss it and understand your options as far as a restraining order or similar. At least know what’s on the table.

I have no idea if you should go no contact over it because he’s your dad and mine wouldn’t do this except in cognitive decline but I don’t think anyone reasonable could fault you for cutting him off if that’s what you decide.

This is a thoughtful comment. OP seems to have some kind of previous history with her parents being controlling.
Without knowing more than the air tag story, I don't see a safety issue that justifies police and a restraining order. Or even cutting them off right away. It sounds like a parent with untreated anxiety.
But, maybe OP has reason to believe there's a threat, I don't know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post.

I agree.
The OP posted at 6 a.m. on Wednesday. Says that on Monday and Tuesday there were air tag notifications. So "this time" she went out her car, brought her husband out to the car, they found it in the spare tire compartment. Then she traced the air tag to her father. All before 6 a.m. Wednesday and while it was still dark outside.
Since the OP mentions what happened on Monday and Tuesday with the air tag, I am going to assume that her reference to "this time" means today, Wednesday.
Apparently she has been very busy between midnight and 6 a.m. today.

Gosh OP. If you had just waited 2 or 3 hours to make your troll post I might have fallen for your ruse

This is OP. The fact that so many people think this is an over-the-top troll post is validation of how unacceptable his actions were.

I found the tag on Tuesday afternoon and was awake in the middle of the night trying to process the whole situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, its clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

[Anonymous]

I understand, OP, that a seemingly innocuous act on a relative's part can trigger an emotional response, because it's not about this particular event, it's about the accumulation of ALL the events that this relative has done in the course of your life. In this case, you just can't stand your father's hyper-controlling behavior.

My husband is that way too. I have always defended my kids, and have a good relationship with them. They don't like their father. I don't blame them. But right now I can't divorce.

[Anonymous]

My dad is really similar to yours. Mine has mild OCD and possibly autistic as well. He drives us crazy locking doors and wanting to know where we are. He has to know all our flight numbers so he can track them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, it’s clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

I know you’re joking, but as I said before, who says I don’t have some tracking device in my car where he is unable to access my location?

[Anonymous]

I would take a break from communicating with both your parents while you process this. Let them sit with the fact that you are angry. When you are ready, pick up the phone and let them know that not only was the Air tag unacceptable, but the lack of remorse and excuse making from the both of them made the situation worse. How they react after this cooling off period would influence how I proceed. If they aren’t truly apologetic and if they don’t promise it never happens again, I would limit contact going forward to the minimum because the relationship is no longer based on mutual respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

You sure can!! I just used my brothers car and his keys have an air tag. I got an iPhone message that an unknown AirTag was following me with a map of where I had been.

And the last four digits of the cell phone number of the person whose air tag it is?

Yes. It's literally in the Wired article posted earlier:

One way to figure out the serial number is to hold the top of an iPhone or other near-field-communication-enabled smartphone to the white side of an AirTag. A website with the serial number will pop up. This page may also include a partial phone number from the person who owns the tracking device.

This is the literally the screenshot that appears on the Apple help page:

https://support.apple.com/library/content/dam/edam/applecare/images/en_US/icloud/icloud/ios15-iphone13-pro-safari-about-this-airtag.png

[Anonymous]

Tape it to the underside of an interstate tractor trailer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, it’s clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

I know you’re joking, but as I said before, who says I don’t have some tracking device in my car where he is unable to access my location?

Maybe he's worried you will be kidnapped as well during a car jacking.

[Anonymous]

I would tape it under the seat of a city bus and watch him freak out.