Why is it so acceptable to alienate Dad?

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Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

You got a source for that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

You got a source for that?

You have a source for your belief that the majority of Dad's don't want custody or 50-50?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

Maybe it's been like that in the activities you schedule your kid for, but as the parent of 4 kids-I can tell you it's not always like that. Many times we signed our kids up for a sport with absolutely NO guidance on when/where the practices would be. You sign your kids up for a sport, then 2-3 months later, a few days before the season starts, you are assigned to a team/coach. That is when you find out what days, times, and location your practices are on. Games? The times and locations of those are even LESS predictable.

This was our experience with a variety of sports, leagues, and over the course of 12+ years, so it wasn't just a fluke that we were on an unpredictable team/league.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

sounds like dad needs to be a better and more involved parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Because dad lives a half hour away in a bachelor's apartment? Not everyone can afford to maintain two households

Oooooh a whole half hour? I commute 2 hours a day and still take my dc to activities on my parenting time, as does their dad on his time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

Why doesn't this dad have 50/50? If he did, the custody order would have wording about extracurriculars. My order says essentially that either parent can sign a child up for an extracurricular, and the other parent May agree to take child on their time-but doesn't have to. In our case, we care about what is best for our CHILD, and we work together to get our dc to things that are important to them. And we maintain 50/50.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

That's up to the child to decide, personally I would prioritize my friends over my parents who screwed me over by divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Some of y’all have some serious daddy issues or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

Maybe it's been like that in the activities you schedule your kid for, but as the parent of 4 kids-I can tell you it's not always like that. Many times we signed our kids up for a sport with absolutely NO guidance on when/where the practices would be. You sign your kids up for a sport, then 2-3 months later, a few days before the season starts, you are assigned to a team/coach. That is when you find out what days, times, and location your practices are on. Games? The times and locations of those are even LESS predictable.

This was our experience with a variety of sports, leagues, and over the course of 12+ years, so it wasn't just a fluke that we were on an unpredictable team/league.

Never had that happen. And, with four kids you should have expected the juggling and all the more reason to share custody 50-50. We have always been told the day and times at sign up and in the sport we have a choice of a few different options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

That's up to the child to decide, personally I would prioritize my friends over my parents who screwed me over by divorcing.

If your mom sent you to boarding school, yes but most kids don’t go to boarding school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

sounds like dad needs to be a better and more involved parent.

He cannot with every other week visits. See how that works. If he had 50-50 yes but then mom would not get her income from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

You got a source for that?

You have a source for your belief that the majority of Dad's don't want custody or 50-50?

Only my legal practice. But it’s your assertion man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything. Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice. Mom has NO control over it. If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times. The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively for him.

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities. When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another. I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school. And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone. See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions. It is Mom. So, Mom needs to take this into account.

sounds like dad needs to be a better and more involved parent.

He cannot with every other week visits. See how that works. If he had 50-50 yes but then mom would not get her income from him.

If he had 50/50 custody he would have to actually do the work. And pay half the bills/for housing that accommodated his kids.

The fact he didn’t go after it makes me think he knows he’s coming out ahead this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses.

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance? Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?

Friends and activities don't take importance over family. If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off. Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody. Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.

That's up to the child to decide, personally I would prioritize my friends over my parents who screwed me over by divorcing.

If your mom sent you to boarding school, yes but most kids don’t go to boarding school.

I never mentioned anything about boarding school I was talking about divorce in general