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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad wants to see his kid. Mom refuses. [/quote]

How come dad doesn't have 50/50 custody, like the majority of dads who want it do nowadays?[/quote]

Because as kids age and have neighborhood friends and local activities, forcing them to visit dad in a different neighborhood gets cruel. 50/50 becomes, it's really inconvenient to got there on Thursdays because that's the day dance is late, or she wants to have friends over for a sleep over Friday, can you get her Saturday morning instead... and then dad realizes he gets a couple of days a month [/quote]

Why can't dad take her to/pick her up from dance?  Why can't she have a sleepover at dad's house?[/quote]

Friends and activities don't take importance over family.  If you are teaching your kids that, the values are completely off.  Dad doesn't get a couple of days a month if [b]Mom schedules everything on Dad's weekends [/b]and refuses to let the kids go as their friends and activities are more important?

Majority of Dads do want their kids and custody.  Mom's don't want it because it impacts child support.[/quote]

In the majority of cases, mom isn't "scheduling" anything.   Many many sports and other activities have set days/times for practice.   Mom has NO control over it.   If the kid wants to do the activity, they have to to the set days and times.   The entire league, team, every other family involved is not going to adjust their schedule to accommodate Dad demanding "his time" exclusively  for him.[/quote]

As the custodial parent, you sign up your kids for the activities.  When you sign them up, you see the schedule and if you know if conflicts you choose another.  I have a choice in times I sign up my kids for activities outside of school.  And when activities conflict, we sit down as a family and choose what works best for everyone.  See how that works.

It isn't Dad making the scheduling decisions.  It is Mom.  So, Mom needs to take this into account.[/quote]

:roll: sounds like dad needs to be a better and more involved parent. [/quote]

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