I hate the comments my husband makes about what I eat.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. This is controlling behavior. Why do husbands think they can control how their wives eat or look? Set a boundary so he knows it’s not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to hide behind the "health" thing. But once my husband said something about how I shouldn't eat a cookie, and I said, "weird, last night you encouraged me to have a second glass of wine with you. This cookie is a lot healthier. Could it be this is about my weight and not health?" Then I told him I needed him to stop commenting on what I eat because it messes up my enjoyment of it and makes me wonder if he's trying be controlling. He doesn't anymore.

No, the cookie is not healthier than the wine, sorry.

It is 100% healthier than the wine. This cookie was about 75 calories (just looked it up, it was a mint Milano), and a glass of wine is what, 125? Also alcohol is explicitly linked to cancer, cookies are not.

[Anonymous]

Snort laughing over a tablespoon of Parmesan? Oh hell no.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to STFU.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

I'm 5'5 and 130 makes me a puffy, chunky monkey, but the DH is still an ass. "if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment." He sounds like a controlling dick all around. I doubt if OP wanted support in dropping 30 lbs and the work it takes to do that he'd be supportive.

[Anonymous]

Your DH is not only controlling, he’s stupid and knows nothing about nutrition or weight loss. Even if it was a big heaping tablespoon, your extra scoop of Parmesan had like 40 calories in it. I wouldn’t tolerate that kind of commentary even if I was helping myself to a second slice of Cheesecake Factory cheesecake, but to behave like that over a bit of cheese is truly asinine. I’m actually embarrassed for him that he has such poor emotion regulation and control over himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is not only controlling, he’s stupid and knows nothing about nutrition or weight loss. Even if it was a big heaping tablespoon, your extra scoop of Parmesan had like 40 calories in it. I wouldn’t tolerate that kind of commentary even if I was helping myself to a second slice of Cheesecake Factory cheesecake, but to behave like that over a bit of cheese is truly asinine. I’m actually embarrassed for him that he has such poor emotion regulation and control over himself.

Agree, and part of that seems to be insecurity. I wonder if one of his friends said something like "I'm so glad my wife kept her high school weight" or something ridiculous like that. Or he always had this vision of a wife of a certain body shape and wants to mold his wife into that vision, because he wanted to impress people. He has major issues.

And his "sense of humor" is terrible. "You must really like Parmesan?" Literally that is the kind of thing people said to me in middle school when I put something extra on my lunch tray. Embarrassing for him.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you scrape the plate and lick your fingers to make sure you enjoy the residual crumbs of parmesan?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

I'm 5'5 and 130 makes me a puffy, chunky monkey, but the DH is still an ass. "if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment." He sounds like a controlling dick all around. I doubt if OP wanted support in dropping 30 lbs and the work it takes to do that he'd be supportive.

Yes agreed dh sounds awful. He should not be acting like that regardless of his wife’s size.

[Anonymous]

I would bite his head off and eat it for a snack. When I was a teenager, I can remember old men (strangers) making unsolicited comments about how my friends and I shouldn't be eating stuff (ice cream, soda, buffet, etc.) If we wanted to keep our bodies looking good for men. It still makes me mad just thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have kids with him. He will be really bad esp if you have a daughter.

I agree with this. Also, he’s likely to monitor your food even more closely during pregnancy and postpartum.

[Anonymous]

Have him do the shopping from now on and he portions out your meals. You only eat what he wants you to. Problem solved .

[Anonymous]

Sorry, team DH, and I am a woman.

Someone who can’t set and reach goals because of lack of self-disciple and accountability is a TURN OFF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

Size 10, the horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, team DH, and I am a woman.

Someone who can’t set and reach goals because of lack of self-disciple and accountability is a TURN OFF.

Then wouldn’t you say that in a kind and mature way vs making snide comments? He sounds like he’s not ready to be in an adult relationship.