I hate the comments my husband makes about what I eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

"If you could keep your rude comments to yourself, we wouldn't be having this conversation if the first place."

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

This is laughably untrue. I'm 5'2" and I've been 130, and never even been CLOSE to a size 10.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

This is laughably untrue. I'm 5'2" and I've been 130, and never even been CLOSE to a size 10.

Same. I was in a size 6 at those stats. Could even cram myself in to a generous 4 if I had to.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

Weird I am 5ft 3 and 133lbs and I am a size 6-8....

[Anonymous]

Typical DCUM, posters are hijacking the thread to talk about how skinny they are and how they would be "puffy" at 130.

[Anonymous]

OP here -

I’m the same weight I was when I met my DH 8+ years ago. I was 5lbs lighter when we got married bc of the stress of the wedding. If I’m not DH’s type, he’s had plenty of time to go find someone who is his type.

Thanks for the constructive feedback on how to approach his unhelpful comments. For the record, his body isn’t perfect either but I’m still attracted to him. We are intimate 2-3x/week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here -

I’m the same weight I was when I met my DH 8+ years ago. I was 5lbs lighter when we got married bc of the stress of the wedding. If I’m not DH’s type, he’s had plenty of time to go find someone who is his type.

Thanks for the constructive feedback on how to approach his unhelpful comments. For the record, his body isn’t perfect either but I’m still attracted to him. We are intimate 2-3x/week.

Is this a new thing?

I don’t ask to make one of those obnoxious “well why did you marry him?” comments, I’m just curious about what’s going on. Its one thing if this was a flaw you overlooked before and if he always felt entitled to comment, but if it’s something that started up suddenly I feel like there must have been some impetus for it, like maybe something happened that made him feel insecure or something. (I’m also not making a “he’s cheating comment” lol).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, team DH, and I am a woman.

Someone who can’t set and reach goals because of lack of self-disciple and accountability is a TURN OFF.

Idiot, she doesn't have a goal to lose weight. She is at a healthy weight. And even if she were, a DH commenting on food choices all the time is NOT going to help. It will do the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typical DCUM, posters are hijacking the thread to talk about how skinny they are and how they would be "puffy" at 130.

+1, so typical. Brag away, orthorexic moms of DCUM

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here -

I’m the same weight I was when I met my DH 8+ years ago. I was 5lbs lighter when we got married bc of the stress of the wedding. If I’m not DH’s type, he’s had plenty of time to go find someone who is his type.

Thanks for the constructive feedback on how to approach his unhelpful comments. For the record, his body isn’t perfect either but I’m still attracted to him. We are intimate 2-3x/week.

Is this a new thing?

I don’t ask to make one of those obnoxious “well why did you marry him?” comments, I’m just curious about what’s going on. Its one thing if this was a flaw you overlooked before and if he always felt entitled to comment, but if it’s something that started up suddenly I feel like there must have been some impetus for it, like maybe something happened that made him feel insecure or something. (I’m also not making a “he’s cheating comment” lol).

I'm curious about this too. Is this new? Or has he always been this critical?

FWIW I could not handle it, I would totally shut down if my DH was constantly picking at me like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

Imagine the corpulence of a woman believing OP posted a VBA.

Right?? Omg. I’m 5-2 and weighing 130 makes me a size 10. Nope nope nope.

This is laughably untrue. I'm 5'2" and I've been 130, and never even been CLOSE to a size 10.

Same. I was in a size 6 at those stats. Could even cram myself in to a generous 4 if I had to.

I think cramming yourself into outfits is key here..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

Veterans benefits association ?
visual basics for applications ?
Virginia bar association?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here -

I’m the same weight I was when I met my DH 8+ years ago. I was 5lbs lighter when we got married bc of the stress of the wedding. If I’m not DH’s type, he’s had plenty of time to go find someone who is his type.

Thanks for the constructive feedback on how to approach his unhelpful comments. For the record, his body isn’t perfect either but I’m still attracted to him. We are intimate 2-3x/week.

Is this a new thing?

I don’t ask to make one of those obnoxious “well why did you marry him?” comments, I’m just curious about what’s going on. Its one thing if this was a flaw you overlooked before and if he always felt entitled to comment, but if it’s something that started up suddenly I feel like there must have been some impetus for it, like maybe something happened that made him feel insecure or something. (I’m also not making a “he’s cheating comment” lol).

OP here - it’s a new thing. We go out to eat all the time and he never bats an eye if I order a side or fries or something. We used to eat out a lot together in our dating days. He seems to only make the comments at home. What’s weird about it is he often brings home a little sweet treat or something for me on his way home from work. Yet he seems to only make comments when I’m cooking/eating at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, team DH, and I am a woman.

Someone who can’t set and reach goals because of lack of self-disciple and accountability is a TURN OFF.

Idiot, she doesn't have a goal to lose weight. She is at a healthy weight. And even if she were, a DH commenting on food choices all the time is NOT going to help. It will do the opposite.

Exactly. Plus she is the same weight as she was when she met her husband!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here -

I’m the same weight I was when I met my DH 8+ years ago. I was 5lbs lighter when we got married bc of the stress of the wedding. If I’m not DH’s type, he’s had plenty of time to go find someone who is his type.

Thanks for the constructive feedback on how to approach his unhelpful comments. For the record, his body isn’t perfect either but I’m still attracted to him. We are intimate 2-3x/week.

Is this a new thing?

I don’t ask to make one of those obnoxious “well why did you marry him?” comments, I’m just curious about what’s going on. Its one thing if this was a flaw you overlooked before and if he always felt entitled to comment, but if it’s something that started up suddenly I feel like there must have been some impetus for it, like maybe something happened that made him feel insecure or something. (I’m also not making a “he’s cheating comment” lol).

OP here - it’s a new thing. We go out to eat all the time and he never bats an eye if I order a side or fries or something. We used to eat out a lot together in our dating days. He seems to only make the comments at home. What’s weird about it is he often brings home a little sweet treat or something for me on his way home from work. Yet he seems to only make comments when I’m cooking/eating at home.

I think you need to nip this in the bud as it’s a new behavior. I’m the one whose uncle constantly comments on his daughter and wife’s eating (but not his son). Part of it is that his wife doesn’t stand up to him so it’s just gotten worse and worse.

Anyway, say something soon and tell him that he needs to stop and if he has something he’d like to talk about, you’re willing to discuss like an adult rather than listening to nasty comments here and there when you eat.