I hate the comments my husband makes about what I eat.

[Anonymous]

I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed this with him? Have you known him long?

I have to say this is a bizarre post.

[Anonymous]

Have you told him, during a time when neither of you is around food, that it REALLY bothers you when he makes comments about what you're eating and he needs to stop?

[Anonymous]

The first example with the cheese doesn't sound bad. You honestly just seem sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Bizarre and clearly much deeper resentment than just comments about food. Do some soul searching to try to get to the root cause. If it really is just dumb food comments I would just have my own sassy responses and not let it bug me that deeply but I’m guessing there is a lot more to the underlying issue and you feeling judged.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him if he has nothing nice to say then don't say anything all. Keep saying it. He seems like a bully.

[Anonymous]

Oh God, a relative married a control freak about her food. He makes comments in front of me and I can't stand it. Relative is very thin too. Tell him "you're controlling again," "stop controlling me" when he does it.

[Anonymous]

that sounds annoying. My dad is like this (makes comments about what/how much others are eating). In his case, he does it because in actuality HE is insecure about his own body/eating/weight and he takes it out by being critical of others. Sometimes I ignore it, sometimes I say something like "this is what I like" if he makes a negative comment about the food I'm having, sometimes I actually say "please don't comment on what I'm eating" or "it's rude to comment on what other people are eating" (I said this when he made a comment like this in front of my kids because I didn't want my kids to learn from him and start doing this themselves so I made a point of actually saying it's rude to do that in front of my dad.)

I think it would be best if you bring this up at a time when you're not eating instead of waiting until he makes a comment again. Just tell him, directly, "I don't like it when you comment on what I'm eating or how much I'm eating. I know that you have a lot of opinions about what I eat but I'm happy with my diet and my choices. Please stop making comments about what or how much I'm eating."

[Anonymous]

Bite his head off, OP. Time to raise your voice and tell him you don't want any more comments in the future. He can't read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

[Anonymous]

OP, if he always is snide and disrespectful, please see a therapist and figure out that you should divorce him. This is no way to live. And it’s not going to get better.

[Anonymous]

If this were a consistent thing, I would be extremely annoyed. Sounds like he’s going through something and taking it out on you. How is your relationship generally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

About being 5’2” and 130? No.

[Anonymous]

My in laws WERE like this for years around me. I'm thin but my parents and siblings are fat. At one point they asked me about how much my sister eats and I flat out told them that it's rude to monitor other people's food. It's none of my businesss how much she or anyone else eats. When they commented about my food I told them that a less confident person would be offended. They are overly concerned about manners, so this was enough to get them to back off. They still comment on strangers but thay doesn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

He's trying to tell you he's not that into you at your current weight.