I hate the comments my husband makes about what I eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

what is VBA?

[Anonymous]

My in laws WERE like this for years around me. I'm thin but my parents and siblings are fat. At one point they asked me about how much my sister eats and I flat out told them that it's rude to monitor other people's food. It's none of my businesss how much she or anyone else eats. When they commented about my food I told them that a less confident person would be offended. They are overly concerned about manners, so this was enough to get them to back off. They still comment on strangers but thay doesn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

My mother does this (but worse), and I told her I can’t be around her if she speaks to me in this way. She has a major eating disorder among other things in her cocktail of mental illness. But she couldn’t change and it was one of many factors that destroyed our relationship, but it was definitely a big one.

I doubt this is the only disrespectful thing OP’s husband says to her, it’s probably just the most annoying.

[Anonymous]

Do you have children with this man? If not, this kind of controlling behavior is worth considering divorce. If you do, I hope they’re not girls.

[Anonymous]

He doesnt love you. So base your future decision making from this low point

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he has a constant need to criticize.

[Anonymous]

‘Please do not comment on my food’ over and over again. Ignore snorts and eye rolls etc. My mom was like this and I just basically blew it off until I had kids. I told her she was never to speak to me about my food intake again, especially in front of my kids. It took a long time for her to get the message - I think so many of her comments were so second nature she didn’t even realize she was being hurtful. Eventually she stopped.

If you haven’t had kids with him, don’t. Even if you get him to stop making comments now, imagine how cruel he would be when you’re pregnant and postpartum?!

[Anonymous]

Divorce. For real.

[Anonymous]

Pretty much any commentary on someone else’s food choices, the type or the amount is a personal attack no matter how well intentioned. Couching it as being concerned for their health is just passive aggressive. Your husband may be a nice guy in every other way, but with this he is being a dick. The exception would be if you had a true eating disorder. An extra spoonful of parm is not an eating problem.

[Anonymous]

Eff him. Why in the world are you putting up with this?!?

[Anonymous]

I wonder what made him so insecure that he feels like he needs to control you? How did he get like this? What’s he afraid of? He sounds a little messed up.

Anyways im sorry he’s taking his issues out on you. This sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first example with the cheese doesn't sound bad. You honestly just seem sensitive.

Stop gaslighting her. If someone constantly makes comments about what another person is eating, it becomes pretty obvious that the person is being rude, at the very least...or worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother does this (but worse), and I told her I can’t be around her if she speaks to me in this way. She has a major eating disorder among other things in her cocktail of mental illness. But she couldn’t change and it was one of many factors that destroyed our relationship, but it was definitely a big one.

I doubt this is the only disrespectful thing OP’s husband says to her, it’s probably just the most annoying.

Yes, we all know there are more delights on display with this Prince of Parmesan. Snort, indeed. I would reply by gnawing directly from the $25 per pound Parmigiano Reggiano wedge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve mentioned it before how his comments come across as rude and unhelpful. Im 5’2, 130lbs. Im not overweight or trying to change my body, I know im not at an ideal weight for my size but im healthy that that’s the most important thing to me.

He constantly makes side commentary about what I eat. I had put a second tablespoon of parmesan and he snorted/laughed when I did this. I asked him what the problem was and he commented about how I must "really like parmesan." I asked him what the problem is and he said nothing.

I was eating wheat crackers earlier today about an hour before dinner and grabbed one more cracker from the bag, he said "are you sure you’re going to be hungry for dinner later?" I asked him why it’s his concern if/when I eat crackers and he went "oh god THIS again", like how dare I have the audacity to be offended by what be said.

I cook and do all the grocery shopping in our household. We eat healthy and have indulgences once in a while. He has some weird hangups about his own body.

Honestly I’m just sick of him and his snide commentary - if it’s not what I’m eating it’s what I’m buying or doing. He always has some kind of unkind comment.

Textbook VBA.

Seriously, what is VBA???

what is VBA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's trying to tell you he's not that into you at your current weight.

This. He probably fears you becoming overweight which you're just a few pounds from being and what you will be if you keep snacking on crackers. Crackers are not healthy and mindless eating is a poor habit that will lead to a multitude of issues.

That said he's method is extremely inappropriate there are better ways of expressing concern for someone's health.

And if you're the op whose husband told you he'd be more attracted to you if you lost a few pounds you should just go ahead and get divorced as neither of you are into each other anymore