How common is swinging, really?

[Anonymous]

Suppose it's 2 or 3% of married couples. In a country this size, it's still a significant # of people. Unless you are 6'2" and ripped or have a porn sized schlong, stupid for a man to suggest. Even Plain Janes can find unlimited action.

[Anonymous]

It’s weird how people are conflating open marriages with swinging ITT. That’s how you know it’s not actually common.

[Anonymous]

If they have white rocks in their front yard landscaping it means they are swingers. That’s the rumor anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pineapples. Just look for the pineapple statues.

I heard that rumor but in don’t believe it. Plus pineapples are a popular decoration and it’s in all the home decor stores.

Agreed. They are just a symbol of hospitality, not a symbol of sexua hospitality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pineapples. Just look for the pineapple statues.

I heard that rumor but in don’t believe it. Plus pineapples are a popular decoration and it’s in all the home decor stores.

I suspect this was a joke.

Not a joke. Large homes in Sterling with huge pineapple sculptures in their front yard. sign of swinging. We don’t wear anything with pineapple on it in our household.

OMG. My 8 year old has a pineapple on her bathing suit! Is she swinging at the pool???

[Anonymous]

https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2022/06/01/upside-pineapple-explained-tiktok-exposes-swinger-sex-trend/amp/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pineapples. Just look for the pineapple statues.

I heard that rumor but in don’t believe it. Plus pineapples are a popular decoration and it’s in all the home decor stores.

I suspect this was a joke.

Not a joke. Large homes in Sterling with huge pineapple sculptures in their front yard. sign of swinging. We don’t wear anything with pineapple on it in our household.

Imagine the surprise a family is in for when they decorate in pineapples for the love of Dole and they end up getting surprised visitors.

Pineapples are a hospitality symbol longed used in the preppy/wasp world, not for swinging.

[Anonymous]

With all of the feds, contractors holding security clearance can’t be much at least amongst the white collar pros.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "it's quite common, I tried it so I know" PP crops up often when this topic gets mentioned here. The PP will deny this but the style's the same, as well as the insistence that all types of people do this more than we realize. The details insisting on how very mom-next-door normal she is ("typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted") seem like she's protesting too much, if you know what I mean. Like she's out to be the poster girl (if it's a woman who's actually posting) for swinging as just another way to spend a Saturday night when it's too rainy to barbecue. Doesn't pass the smell test. Affairs? Sure. Organized swinging? Eh, maybe, but not the common thing DCUM wants to believe it is, OP. Too many ways to get caught, too many couples where one is interested and the other isn't, too many chances for feelings to develop and scupper the no-strings fun, etc. Don't believe everything that people on DCUM insist "everyone's doing" all the time.

Agree.

And by the way, what happens when the wife in a swinging couple gets pregnant? Now that would lead to some interesting follow up discussions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The "it's quite common, I tried it so I know" PP crops up often when this topic gets mentioned here. The PP will deny this but the style's the same, as well as the insistence that all types of people do this more than we realize. The details insisting on how very mom-next-door normal she is ("typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted") seem like she's protesting too much, if you know what I mean. Like she's out to be the poster girl (if it's a woman who's actually posting) for swinging as just another way to spend a Saturday night when it's too rainy to barbecue. Doesn't pass the smell test. Affairs? Sure. Organized swinging? Eh, maybe, but not the common thing DCUM wants to believe it is, OP. Too many ways to get caught, too many couples where one is interested and the other isn't, too many chances for feelings to develop and scupper the no-strings fun, etc. Don't believe everything that people on DCUM insist "everyone's doing" all the time.

Agree.

And by the way, what happens when the wife in a swinging couple gets pregnant? Now that would lead to some interesting follow up discussions.

Tubes ties

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not common. This is one of those things where people who do it start to think “everyone does this!” But they don’t. Especially among couples with young kids. Who has the time or energy? Come on.

What would happen if parents of their kids’ friends find out the swinging. It’s a small community. Words spread fast. Their Kids’ social life is over.

It is remarkably discreet — unspoken rule taken very seriously. Funny, lots of talk about needing to be home to relieve the babysitter. It’s an interesting world of actually many very nice, smart, successful people just looking for a certain excitement and experience, not all d-bags as referenced earlier. It might not be for everyone, but eye-opening on the type of people who participate.

I used to think this too, when I first discovered that some of the "normal" couples we knew were either in open marriages, or swingers, or both. But with time, I've revised this attitude.

I still don't care what people do, but it turns out that married couples who are in open marriages or are engaged in swinging as a longterm lifestyle choice, tend to consistently have the same issues. They aren't all "d-bags" but my observation is that it takes a certain level of self-absorption to do this on a long-term basis. It's not the "free love" solution people bill it as. Usually the people doing this stuff have above average needs for attention and validation from others, especially sexual partners.

[Anonymous]

There used to be tons of these places in DC. On any given night you could find a swinger party or kink club down on U street or the SW 1/2 area. The city used to be so fun, just gritty and edgy enough to be interesting, but not enough to be dangerous. Such fun times.

I used to think it was fun to just go and watch. I observed some wacky stuff. I often got approached by couples who wanted to play. Not for me but it was interesting to observe.

Some of it was amusing and fun to watch… cue the power lawyer getting tied to and spun on the big wheel and struck with the horse whip thingy… he seemed to be having fun… but I didn’t like watching the abusive, degrading stuff, think dog collars and leashes and verbal abuse and such… that I took no pleasure in. I’m more of a voyeur lite.

Not sure how common it is anymore to just be able to stroll in from off of the street. Now with cell cameras everywhere I imagine that these parties are probably invite only.

Also In my experience most of the patrons of these clubs, balding old lawyers excepted, were attractive. Such fun and crazy times.

[Anonymous]

I doubt "everyone does it." But the Washington metro area has about 1 million married couples. Let's assume there are another 1/2 million couples who are not married. If 1/2 of 1% of all couples are open to swinging, that would be 15,000 couples in the DC area. That's certainly enough to include people from all walks of life and produce a lively scene. Plus with the internet it's probably not that hard to be discreet and find other couples open to swinging. A couple could easily go online, find another couple, swap and no one else would ever know.

[Anonymous]

FWIW- Because I’m a lawyer - I didn’t say “it’s quite common” or “everybody does it” or that it’s mainstream. All I said is it’s more common than people think.

[Anonymous]

This area has a lot of sexually adventurous people. Whether that’s kink, swinging, polyamory, or simply tons of 1:1 vanilla sex, you can find a party.