How common is swinging, really?

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised by the amount of threads that reference couples swinging. I just never thought it would be so common. How frequently do couples actually do it? We’re in Potomac and I just can’t imagine my neighbors and friends doing this, though I hear a lot about swinging happening in Potomac on this board. And how does it even get brought up when swingers are looking to engage another couple??

[Anonymous]

My personal experience is never. But I've also never encountered heroin or sweet potato pie ice cream and I assume both of those exist in their own personal niches, as well.

[Anonymous]

2.5% of U.S. adults are said to engage in partner swapping.

[Anonymous]

I knew of one couple and they were extremely strange people.

[Anonymous]

I have no stats for you, but I can assure you that it's more common than you imagine. I ran across plenty of normal, couple-next-door types when I was briefly testing out the scene (not currently in it), including the usual DMV types: international organization workers, feds, embassy staff, congressional staffers, successful entrepreneurs, professional suburban couples with kids, all types, really. And, contrary to the common assertions by scandalized, judgy DCUM posters, not a bunch of creepers or weirdos or unattractive people. I, for example, am a typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted. Just wanted to see what a freer sexual environment was like. I have no idea what the scene is like now, post-pandemic. But a few years ago there was no scarcity of events and venues to check out the scene.

[Anonymous]

ongoing probably not that common, but lots of people have had threesomes

[Anonymous]

I have no idea how many people do it, no one has come out and said so but it really does seem like fun. If one could avoid pitfalls I feel like double dating with another couple where sex is on the table would be really thrilling.

[Anonymous]

In Arlington and I only know 1 couple for sure, but i Susie r at least one other.

[Anonymous]

^ suspect at least one other.

[Anonymous]

The "it's quite common, I tried it so I know" PP crops up often when this topic gets mentioned here. The PP will deny this but the style's the same, as well as the insistence that all types of people do this more than we realize. The details insisting on how very mom-next-door normal she is ("typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted") seem like she's protesting too much, if you know what I mean. Like she's out to be the poster girl (if it's a woman who's actually posting) for swinging as just another way to spend a Saturday night when it's too rainy to barbecue. Doesn't pass the smell test. Affairs? Sure. Organized swinging? Eh, maybe, but not the common thing DCUM wants to believe it is, OP. Too many ways to get caught, too many couples where one is interested and the other isn't, too many chances for feelings to develop and scupper the no-strings fun, etc. Don't believe everything that people on DCUM insist "everyone's doing" all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no stats for you, but I can assure you that it's more common than you imagine. I ran across plenty of normal, couple-next-door types when I was briefly testing out the scene (not currently in it), including the usual DMV types: international organization workers, feds, embassy staff, congressional staffers, successful entrepreneurs, professional suburban couples with kids, all types, really. And, contrary to the common assertions by scandalized, judgy DCUM posters, not a bunch of creepers or weirdos or unattractive people. I, for example, am a typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted. Just wanted to see what a freer sexual environment was like. I have no idea what the scene is like now, post-pandemic. But a few years ago there was no scarcity of events and venues to check out the scene.

I don’t believe you. I suspect the number is quite small. These people have their reputation to protect. How are they going to avoid pitfalls and put their career, social reputation at risk? People who do this are mostly unattractive with boring life..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no stats for you, but I can assure you that it's more common than you imagine. I ran across plenty of normal, couple-next-door types when I was briefly testing out the scene (not currently in it), including the usual DMV types: international organization workers, feds, embassy staff, congressional staffers, successful entrepreneurs, professional suburban couples with kids, all types, really. And, contrary to the common assertions by scandalized, judgy DCUM posters, not a bunch of creepers or weirdos or unattractive people. I, for example, am a typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted. Just wanted to see what a freer sexual environment was like. I have no idea what the scene is like now, post-pandemic. But a few years ago there was no scarcity of events and venues to check out the scene.

I don’t believe you. I suspect the number is quite small. These people have their reputation to protect. How are they going to avoid pitfalls and put their career, social reputation at risk? People who do this are mostly unattractive with boring life..

NP. While i agree with your overall take that the numbers are probably quite small, i doubt the reputational issues play too strongly for many of these people. Think about Matt Gaetz. D-bags gonna d-bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no stats for you, but I can assure you that it's more common than you imagine. I ran across plenty of normal, couple-next-door types when I was briefly testing out the scene (not currently in it), including the usual DMV types: international organization workers, feds, embassy staff, congressional staffers, successful entrepreneurs, professional suburban couples with kids, all types, really. And, contrary to the common assertions by scandalized, judgy DCUM posters, not a bunch of creepers or weirdos or unattractive people. I, for example, am a typical DC fed professional mom, attractive, well-educated, well-adjusted. Just wanted to see what a freer sexual environment was like. I have no idea what the scene is like now, post-pandemic. But a few years ago there was no scarcity of events and venues to check out the scene.

I don’t believe you. I suspect the number is quite small. These people have their reputation to protect. How are they going to avoid pitfalls and put their career, social reputation at risk? People who do this are mostly unattractive with boring life..

Reputation? It’s sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Arlington and I only know 1 couple for sure, but i Susie r at least one other.

If you know Susie, like I know Susie, I have the name of a very good clinic.

[Anonymous]

It's not common.