Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. My DH is 7 years older and the age difference started to become a bit of a problem in recent years. He's getting to be a grumpy old man.

I agree 100%

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That’s why I didn’t marry older. No more than 2 years in either direction.

We are 1.5 years apart (me older) and it’s been perfect. 50s now.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

I agree. Youthful compared to what? 70 year olds? The after 40 crowd is delusional if they still think they are youthful.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

I agree. Youthful compared to what? 70 year olds? The after 40 crowd is delusional if they still think they are youthful.

Exactly. It's about the age difference, not the snapshot of age range. It's discovering that you find you and your husband want different activities, things from life, etc. This doesn't come up when both are in theri 30s & 40s. It does start to show in some when one spouse hits the mid 50s while the other is in the 40s range.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

I agree. Youthful compared to what? 70 year olds? The after 40 crowd is delusional if they still think they are youthful.

Exactly. It's about the age difference, not the snapshot of age range. It's discovering that you find you and your husband want different activities, things from life, etc. This doesn't come up when both are in theri 30s & 40s. It does start to show in some when on
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The same also applies when she was 14 and he was 21. Incompatible then. Incompatible now.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Anonymous wrote:I am your age but have kids who are in elementary school. If I were you, I would travel, go to dinner, go to shows, happy hours, museums, all kinds of stuff!

Same! Sky's the limit! Take the opportunity to get healthy (if you're not already) and do your passion projects/activities. I would return to working out daily (maybe some athletic activity you and your husband can do together), take art classes, volunteer, travel, and enjoy all that the city has to offer - all the things I did pre-kids

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

LMAO at the hilarious stupidity of citing actresses and models as evidence that women can age well.

This is like citing Tom Cruise as evidence that “plenty of short men can date actresses and models!”

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Anonymous wrote:So if you are mid 40s and your kids are mid 20s you had them the youngest by 20-21, so older one(s) in your teens? Did you go to college? Are you working? If not maybe consider going back to school. If your DH isn’t healthy you have a lot of life ahead of you. Get a degree, get a job.

Also mid 50s is very young to be aging rapidly. What’s the cause? Can he change his diet to more plant based meals, get in shape, take care of his health better?

This. OP, what's something you've always wanted to do? It can be hard to know what you want for yourself if you became a mom in your teens or early 20's. You went straight from HS to marriage and motherhood. A lot of women currently in their 70's-80's went through this and had to figure out what they want their lives to look like as empty nesters. If you're not sure, then start small. Start exercising every day, even if it's just a short walk. Take a class that interests you.

Good luck and I hope you find some peace and joy.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

Lol we use to live next to an “A” lister. Her day started with her person trainer in the morning. Next up was the person chef had breakfast ready to go, followed by her team- her assistant, stylists, person shopper, makeup professional, etc. She had two live in nannies and house keeping. Late in the afternoon she would go for a run in the hills. The point being it is those women’s job to look the best they can and they have the resources and time to do it. Still when they stand next to a 20 something they will look old and frumpy. That is live.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

Lol we use to live next to an “A” lister. Her day started with her person trainer in the morning. Next up was the person chef had breakfast ready to go, followed by her team- her assistant, stylists, person shopper, makeup professional, etc. She had two live in nannies and house keeping. Late in the afternoon she would go for a run in the hills. The point being it is those women’s job to look the best they can and they have the resources and time to do it. Still when they stand next to a 20 something they will look old and frumpy. That is live.

BS. Gabrielle Union looks better than any 20 something.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

+1

Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

Lol we use to live next to an “A” lister. Her day started with her person trainer in the morning. Next up was the person chef had breakfast ready to go, followed by her team- her assistant, stylists, person shopper, makeup professional, etc. She had two live in nannies and house keeping. Late in the afternoon she would go for a run in the hills. The point being it is those women’s job to look the best they can and they have the resources and time to do it. Still when they stand next to a 20 something they will look old and frumpy. That is live.

BS. Gabrielle Union looks better than any 20 something.

No. Go watch “The Other Woman” Cameron Diaz(42), Leslie Mann(42) and Kate Upton (22). When the 22 year old stands next to the 42 year old you really see the difference. Just like if Gabrielle Union was standing next to Halle Lynn Bailey. People would think she is her mom.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

A lot of women here are advocating letting themselves go based on age.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

A lot of women here are advocating letting themselves go based on age.

There's a wide gap between "letting yourself go" and realizing you do not have the time/money/desire/genetics to look like an A list celebrity.

I'd rather age gracefully, and maintain an active healthy lifestyle than be obsessed with an unrealistic level of youth.