Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?
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Anonymous
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Is it all downhill from here?
Asking for a friend. |
Anonymous
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Of course not. Do you have a job? What are your interests? Sounds like you had kids very young. What are things you never got to do that you can now do? Travel? Hobbies?
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Anonymous
| Your husband needs to start exercising, if he hasn't already. I (male) re-committed myself to running in my early fifties and it's been a life saver, and a sanity saver. Set goals. |
Anonymous
| Who in this area is aging fast in their early 50s? What do you mean OP by aging fast? 65-70 is what 55 was in the 1940s. |
Anonymous
| Go have fun! |
Anonymous
| I am your age but have kids who are in elementary school. If I were you, I would travel, go to dinner, go to shows, happy hours, museums, all kinds of stuff! |
Anonymous
| Whatever you want. Enjoy it. |
Anonymous
| I'll be 45 when my youngest graduates, can't wait!! Sky is the limit OP, do anything you like. |
Anonymous
Yes, all downhill from here. Tell your friend to downshift gear. |
Anonymous
| That’s what you get for wanting to marry a rich older man. |
Anonymous
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So if you are mid 40s and your kids are mid 20s you had them the youngest by 20-21, so older one(s) in your teens? Did you go to college? Are you working? If not maybe consider going back to school. If your DH isn’t healthy you have a lot of life ahead of you. Get a degree, get a job.
Also mid 50s is very young to be aging rapidly. What’s the cause? Can he change his diet to more plant based meals, get in shape, take care of his health better? |
Anonymous
| Yes. A little bit down hill. You will soon step up to be the gramps. |
Anonymous
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He needs to see a doctor. Hypothyroidism is a common issue in middle age, and leads to fatigue and weight gain. |
Anonymous
| My older sister loves the empty nest phase. She travels a lot, visits her kids in their interesting new locales, has free time to cook, etc. Now is a great time to take a class in the evening and get a new hobby. If your husband doesn’t want to travel, find one of those tour operators that specializes in middle aged solo travelers and just go by yourself. Travel can give a focus too—you can learn the language, read up on the culture, do an exercise program to prepare for it, etc. |
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